posted September 21, 2012 10:45 AM            

I don't know how it happend or why. From what everyone is saying, he was decived and taken advantage of. And it turns out this girl was taking bad about me to him, trying to remove me...and it worked.

posted September 21, 2012 10:51 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
The man I have been with on and off for 2 yrs just got married. He tried to get back together twice before he get married but i wasn't open to it. Even though I was I just wanted him to try harder. I taked to him yesturday and now we both have regrets

I don't know how it happend or why. From what everyone is saying, he was decived and taken advantage of. And it turns out this girl was taking bad about me to him, trying to remove me...and it worked.

Please help give me some insight.

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posted September 21, 2012 11:27 AM            

Jane from Pride and Prejudice is what I'm reminded of, for some reason

posted September 21, 2012 01:51 PM            

No, hes friends did. One called me up and told me everything. They were best friends in H.S. She came into the pic a year ago or so....started telling him things about me like I don't really care for him and that Imust be seeing other, etc. Now in my head, I htought I was giving him room b/c yes, he was having issues with ex-wife and was still getting over it. I could tell he needed healing. I never pushed him and I never demanded more from him...but she made it seem that I was being cold and I didn't care for him, etc.

The friends said a lot of pressure was put on him from both familys and that the girl Lauri(sorry no b-day for her but she is 32-33) started talking about engagement in like Feb. they found a book she checked out on Aamazon about being a step mom.

posted September 21, 2012 02:50 PM            

First of all he listened to this woman talking badly about you-while he had something with you and he knew what kind of person you are- and secondly he got married with her.

And all this after you treated him so respectfully and obviously cared so much about him.

His friends obviously were seeing the pressure etc but didn't try to stop him from marrying again and such a person?

I don't know, but it seems this woman has very low self-esteem and self-respect (talking badly about you just to get him and pressuring him to marriage). But they may deserve each other since he acted in such an immature way. I mean would you get married because other people were pressuring you? Even if they are your family etc. you have your own will,you are an adult.

posted September 22, 2012 01:58 AM            

You on the other hand strike me as a sweet person. I probably would have thought and done what you did and would have given him space. I too would have wanted him to try harder. It's kinda his fault he assumed that you were being cold and not interested. It's his fault for being so easily swayed by a random chick. It's also his fault for just going with it. I mean marriage is not a place to just go with it.

He seems a bit manipulative, confused, lazy, and um lazy.

I don't like men who are like that. Two feet in two boats. @@ But anyway, I think this woman is a grade A bleep. She's only going to cause her downfall. Trust me when she thinks things are hunky doorie and reality slaps her across the face, she'll break down. Just buy some popcorn and watch the show.

I hope you find someone who is intelligent enough to appreciate you.
Good luck!