posted September 22, 2012 11:54 PM            

My shrink told me to write a letter with all my feelings to my ex F.

I want to know if it will be a good thing for me to send this letter to my ex F to tell him how I feel about his conduct ? Did he already turn the page on me ? How will he respond emotionally to a letter from me? Will he answer me ? Will he realise and makes amends ? Will it make me sadder or on the contrary will it permit me to heal ?
I need to know if it's a good idea for me to write to him and what will come of it.

posted September 23, 2012 06:11 AM            

1. Past history of the relationship - 8 of Wands

2. Where you are now - 8 of Pentacles

3. Where he is now - 10 of Pentacles

4. What you feel about writing him - Hanged Man

5. What he might feel if you write him/contact him - 6 of Wands

6. Opposing factors - 2 of Cups

7. Favorable factors - 2 of Pentacles

8. Something you might not be aware of - 5 of Pentacles

9. Outcome - 6 of Cups.

Okay.. so, to me it looks like it might be good for you to write him the letter, put your feelings and your thoughts on paper, it would bring you balance and peace with your past. You feel rather apprehensive about writing to him, like making a sacrifice, putting yourself on the line. Like andstuff said, you don't need to send the letter. But writing it, I think, will be good for you. I think he has moved on and he might be happy with someone else. Receiving your letter would make him feel cocky and confident that you still have feelings for him but my feeling is that he has moved on. Sending the letter might result in rejection, but writing it without sending might give you a sense of closure even without his active participation.
I wish you best of luck!

posted September 23, 2012 09:01 AM            

Tarot aside, I believe releasing and expressing our emotions can never be detrimental, at least in the long run. Write the letter, if you think you're ready for a negative outcome from him and would accept it nonetheless, it's okay to send it to him. If you're still worrying about his response like you are right now, don't send it... as others have suggested, keep it, or burn it afterwards. The real point here is that you need to make peace with your feelings, and accept that what's passed is already past...

posted September 24, 2012 03:27 PM            

At the very least, I will write for me and I will see from there how it make me feel.

If someone want to ask a question, go head

posted September 24, 2012 07:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
I drew the following cards:

1. Past history of the relationship - 8 of Wands

2. Where you are now - 8 of Pentacles

3. Where he is now - 10 of Pentacles

4. What you feel about writing him - Hanged Man

5. What he might feel if you write him/contact him - 6 of Wands

6. Opposing factors - 2 of Cups

7. Favorable factors - 2 of Pentacles

8. Something you might not be aware of - 5 of Pentacles

9. Outcome - 6 of Cups.

Okay.. so, to me it looks like it might be good for you to write him the letter, put your feelings and your thoughts on paper, it would bring you balance and peace with your past. You feel rather apprehensive about writing to him, like making a sacrifice, putting yourself on the line. Like andstuff said, you don't need to send the letter. But writing it, I think, will be good for you. I think he has moved on and he might be happy with someone else. Receiving your letter would make him feel cocky and confident that you still have feelings for him but my feeling is that he has moved on. Sending the letter might result in rejection, but writing it without sending might give you a sense of closure even without his active participation.
I wish you best of luck!

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Thank you Hera for your reading. I'm clearly apprehensive for the moment.

I should (have to for my doctor to write this letter but the negative outcome will make me feel like bad behaviours always get away without facing consequences And it's very hard to face three man with bad behavior getting away with it.

posted September 24, 2012 10:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Britannia:
hey isabelle would you mind doing an exchange or two right now ? i'll read this question for you and more if you have them . please do let me know if you are up for exchange .
thank you

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Hello Britannia,

posted September 24, 2012 11:13 PM            

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Originally posted by isabelle_lila:

Hello Britannia,

I am still up so what are your questions ?

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posted September 24, 2012 11:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Britannia:
okay my question is
if i get this job will i be employed for long time or quit in a short while ?

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Hi again,

Time is one of the most difficult thing in reading because it's like smoke. You see it but you can't grip it.
So I will use a celtic deck, a bit different which had the best time grip for reading

Ngetal
Luis
Gort

All this winter you will be sure that is it, you are in the place and you could be there for a long time. I don't know what you consider a long time. You will be thinking a lot of course. And spring you will be totally attracted by others activities or tasks. it's very positive and creative but it also comes with a bit of instability. So you could devinitively change your main activity during those months and try others thing. I don't know what interest you but it will be an important period of testing and wanting everything.
The real stability will come not this winter but the next. You will be well, happy where you are and in a very secure environment

I don't know what timeline you had in mind but I hope you will make the best of every new experience. Good luck.

And if you have others questions, do not hesitate. I will try to answer them.

posted September 24, 2012 11:38 PM            

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Originally posted by isabelle_lila:
Since I'm on a trip at my friend L house and since she is kind of a friend of my ex, could I ask her to play the intermediary and put him straight for his behaviour ?

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posted September 24, 2012 11:43 PM            

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Originally posted by isabelle_lila:
Hi again,

Time is one of the most difficult thing in reading because it's like smoke. You see it but you can't grip it.
So I will use a celtic deck, a bit different which had the best time grip for reading

Ngetal
Luis
Gort

All this winter you will be sure that is it, you are in the place and you could be there for a long time. I don't know what you consider a long time. You will be thinking a lot of course. And spring you will be totally attracted by others activities or tasks. it's very positive and creative but it also comes with a bit of instability. So you could devinitively change your main activity during those months and try others thing. I don't know what interest you but it will be an important period of testing and wanting everything.
The real stability will come not this winter but the next. You will be well, happy where you are and in a very secure environment

I don't know what timeline you had in mind but I hope you will make the best of every new experience. Good luck.

And if you have others questions, do not hesitate. I will try to answer them.

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1. will i still be there in this job after this conflict is over or will i quit it ?

posted September 25, 2012 12:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Britannia:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by isabelle_lila:
[b] Hi again,

Time is one of the most difficult thing in reading because it's like smoke. You see it but you can't grip it.
So I will use a celtic deck, a bit different which had the best time grip for reading

Ngetal
Luis
Gort

All this winter you will be sure that is it, you are in the place and you could be there for a long time. I don't know what you consider a long time. You will be thinking a lot of course. And spring you will be totally attracted by others activities or tasks. it's very positive and creative but it also comes with a bit of instability. So you could devinitively change your main activity during those months and try others thing. I don't know what interest you but it will be an important period of testing and wanting everything.
The real stability will come not this winter but the next. You will be well, happy where you are and in a very secure environment

I don't know what timeline you had in mind but I hope you will make the best of every new experience. Good luck.

And if you have others questions, do not hesitate. I will try to answer them.

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1. will i still be there in this job after this conflict is over or will i quit it ?

2.will i change the department but remain in the same company ? [/B][/QUOTE]

First thank you for your reading. Yes it's a big matter to me to deal with all of this on top of everyting. It focus my attention away from bigger things to deal with; i know it so I have to resolve it in the less bad position. He hurt me by his indifference when I needed him on top of everything. I have to write to him and I'm very stressed about it. So my friend L will be a good solution but I don't know to ask her.

now for your questions:

1)
33. muin rx
38. beth
29. hualt rx

the big period for you will be spring, all will be play out there. You will live a lot of things posive & negative in the spring.

and the dispute appears here as well, the work won't go well because of that, a lack of effiency And there will be some mutuation in the air and beaware of a kniff in your back So My feeling is that you will quit this job or at least there will be big discussion about a mutation... and so you second question... espacially because after this period, the summer will be a relief for you. You will be capable of enjoying your summer happily.

2)
32. call rx
44. druir rx
XVII. Sirona rx

Yes and no

Yes I think there will be discussion about transfert and maybe you will but it won't last or you will change again.
From the first reading and this one, you should change and change again because you will get frustrated by the delays. I think you will go on the summer thinking everything is good and it won't. You will need another change and the stability will come only after the summer.

so yes in a first time you will still be in the same company in another department but after that you will totally change because there is a big separation and some sadness.

As for me, I will ask what I asked previously about writing a letter to F is a good idea ? What will come out of it for him & for me ? What are his feelings towards me?

And most importantly, how can I ask my friend L to do the intermediary ? How will she takes my demand ?

Thank you very much And if you have others questions, ask them.

posted September 26, 2012 04:56 PM            

here's your reading :

As for me, I will ask what I asked previously about writing a letter to F is a good idea ? What will come out of it for him & for me ?

2 of cups , the emperor , 9 of pentacles base : page of swords

okay , i feel you are eager to writ to F . i could see F will recieve this message gracefully and it will bring you guys closer to each other . a new partnership where both F and you will be much in control and stable in your own right.

What are his feelings towards me?

the heirophant , page of wands , the fool

they admire you because of what you are and have achieved. they see you as a mentor and that you can help them or anybody through the situations. an educated and elegant person. they have an impulse to go on a short journey with you to get away from the routine life but it is too early for them to formulate it into a decision. they feel like taking risk with you and take this new journey without giving it much thought. i have a feeling they are being impulsive and thinking of getting into something with you but they don't have any plans for long term . they are hasty in thinking so.

And most importantly, how can I ask my friend L to do the intermediary ? How will she takes my demand ?

the magician , page of wands, the heirophant

it seems this is the golden opportunity for you to act on as soon as you can . as she will guide you through this step and act as a great intermediary in solving this issue between you and your ex. i have a very positive feeling from this reading. it is screaming "go ahead and ask her for help " . i believe she will be more than willing to assist .

posted September 26, 2012 09:14 PM            

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Originally posted by isabelle_lila:
Thank you Hera for your reading. I'm clearly apprehensive for the moment.

I should (have to for my doctor to write this letter but the negative outcome will make me feel like bad behaviours always get away without facing consequences And it's very hard to face three man with bad behavior getting away with it.

I will keep you updated on what I decide to do in the end. I'm still not sure to send it but I know I will have to write it. Thanks again.

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You're very welcome. I understand what you mean, I would hate a bad behavior going unpunished/unobserved as well. I actually did what you're trying to do with my Libra ex, who for the sake of not hurting my feelings didn't break up with me though I think he wanted to, worse he slept with me (insisted even) though he had no intention of carrying it further and just prolonged a lifeless relationship for nothing. I was falling for him so I took what I could get. But he was a jerk. When I told him this, he didn't understand. He thought I was a crazy hysterical woman, shrugged and moved on. I was bitter afterwards for months. Point is.. you cannot really expect people to be honest with and about themselves. As a matter of fact, most people will try to avoid that at all costs, especially when it comes to facing painful truths about themselves that requires them to change. Just do your part, write the letter to make peace with yourself and burn it, like everyone suggested. It is not your responsibility to help your ex straighten his act. It's his. Let it go, do not take on this burden. From the reading I did, if you contact him, he will get cocky thinking you want him back, but will not understand your point of view, so your efforts will be in vain. Don't put yourself through that, he is not worth it.

posted September 27, 2012 12:25 AM            

I don't have my cards right now to add anything reading wise, but want to wish you the best in this situation. I imagine the decision to send the letter or not is challenging, and hope you find your answer soon.

Totally think it will likely be very healing to write down all your feelings for him even if you don't send the letter. If you don't send it, I'd advice you to burn the letter afterwards and visualize the fire burning away all the hurt.

Or you could read the letter out loud & visualize he is there listening, whatever works to help you release your thoughts & feelings. Maybe afterwards you could buy a plant/flower that you are fond of, and as you nurture it and it grows stronger, you could feel your own self also growing stronger and lovelier everyday.