posted September 24, 2012 11:25 AM            

Five months later, and this libra girl is struggling to know how this cappy feels about her. He isn't very verbal about his emotions - as in he doesn't express them at all.

I am pretty verbal but reserved in the same because I don’t feel safe enough to let go completely. He knows I like him and that I want things to progress. We are just dating right now, no relationship yet (he's not ready). The fact that he doesn't want a relationship yet is the reason why I'm so confused. Most times, we will see each other 5 - 6 times a week, he gets jealous if I happen to hang out with one of my guy friends and there are times when he looks at me with such sincerity it makes my heart skip a beat. All those things would tell me he's in to me - but then he will take three giant leaps back and I won't see him for days at a time, he'll act distant and cold and he will barely make eye contact with me.

So I don't get it. Is this the cappy way??? On/off? Hot/cold? Why can't it just be simple? Is he testing me to see what I'll endure?

I've heard mixed things about the libra/cap combo and most are not good. However, we have such a great connection. We have a blast together and our sexual chemistry is off the charts.

I like this guy and I don't want scare him off or mess things up. So any advice would be helpful!

For reference - if it helps -

Him -
Sun Capricorn
Moon Capricorn
Mercury Sagittarius
Venus Scorpio
Mars Capricorn
Jupiter Leo
Saturn Virgo
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Pluto Libra
True Node Virgo
Ascendant Cancer

posted September 24, 2012 04:41 PM            

My rising is Scorpio and his Aries...

My moon is Taurus and his is Pisces...

My Venus is Cancer and his Sag...

My Mars is Cancer and his is Libra...

My Mercury is also Virgo and his is Capricorn...

So, we have a pretty difficult scenario here. I am the Libran, so I'm prone to be more flexible and adaptative than him and I exercise that a lot, lol!

He has that strong Cappy ambition in life, so he works too much, he has from little to no free time. The interesting thing is that he, alone, started to see that this lack of free time is taking him to miss nice moments with me and it turned out that he found out he works too much without me saying a thing about it. I just agreed when he told me that.

It took me much strength to adapt to his timing and way to do things. That's the way I do it: No pressure, I just wait until he takes his time to make conclusions and decisions and it all feels comfortable to both of us. As a good cappy, he is going to move at some point and you, as the a good libran, have to just wait and stand there by his side.

That's the whole point of it: Cappy's are very nice, solid and cherishful people, but they have to see things by themselves, within their own range of time and space. If you start to show him insistently that you are unsatisfied with his behavior, he will back off of you in the same slow and steady way that he made his approach... and, by then, you already lost him forever...

I'd say that your bf will show you what he feels within his own time range, what could take forever for you, Libran airy impatient nature. One thing is certain: he's still seeing you and that shows he is interested. He'll never tell you that without really feel it. That's where your diplomacy skills kick in: you can talk to him honestly about what you feel but do not expect him to spout out his mind the same way... You are libran and he will never be one...

It's likely that you will start to notice some subtle, slow and steady changes in his behavior after that frank talking, but it's a risk you take when getting into any relationship with any person...

posted September 25, 2012 09:11 AM            

"That's the whole point of it: Cappy's are very nice, solid and cherishful people, but they have to see things by themselves, within their own range of time and space. If you start to show him insistently that you are unsatisfied with his behavior, he will back off of you in the same slow and steady way that he made his approach... and, by then, you already lost him forever..."

This is a very interesting way to look at things. I will remember this approach when it comes to him and I.

So it sounds like slow and steady wins the race. It's so hard for me to be patient... something I have even confessed to him. But I think I can learn to grow and adapt to his slow pace.

I will say - this past weekend was my birthday and he made every effort to make it special. He even opened up to me a little bit! So things are progressing... at a VERY slow pace... but they ARE progressing nonetheless!

posted September 25, 2012 07:08 PM            

I'll share something with you: my bf told me earlier that his Crabby ugly ex-gf was great in bed. He never said that I was... I told it to him immediately. Awkward moments!!! So, for the first time, I've seen his very very sorry face and a thousand fails trying to fix and change what he said to my face...

I acted like I wasn't buying him and came home very upset. That he understood in a tenth of a second, no need to wait or say any further. Now texted me a very long thing explaining why he said that. He'll wait for that reply... indefinitely. He is not calling me anymore without an answer, I know it.

Do you think you could handle something like that?