posted October 09, 2012 06:33 PM            

I've been thinking about this topic a lot, not only in terms of tarot but also psychic reading addiction. I think you are on to something, excessive readings could deplete one's outlook and lessen the impact of whatever tool is being utilized.

I read psychic Jamey from the bitwane site listed in the pyschic reading thread. What I gathered from Jayme's article on pyschic addiction, is that sometimes an individual reaches out to a reader in hopes of alleviating the pain of love.

If the reader's response is contrary to what one wishes to hear, will seek out another reader until a reading is issued which confirms what one desires. The idea seems to be that the reading serves as a temporary fix to alleviate pain, and once the pain returns from a dysfunctional/unsatisfactory relationship, one will again reach out for readings.

Personally I have witnessed this, as one of my siblings will constantly drain me by asking for up to 15 spreads in one session. I have also experienced addiction in the past, to the tune of lots of money invested w online readers.

posted October 09, 2012 10:47 PM            

I f'ed up. So You're right...what if we did things based on our own hearts and thinking/feelings......I say we should!

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Originally posted by hmm:
what do you think would be different in yourself/your life if you were forced to use your own heart/head instead of using these crutches? (ie. tarot, astrology, psychics, etc)

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posted October 09, 2012 11:02 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
Wow! Samething happened to me!! I thought I new the outcome thus, I became to passive. Well joke was on me because he started a relationship with someone else and married her..and it was all within months-very short time. I did way too many readings about him. It was like half said no he wasn't in love with me and the other half said yes. Well bottom line as we spoke last week. He was in love me, but I act too aloof as if I didn't want to develop anything further. I professed my love for him and blurted everything out! I held nothing in...and now we are apart but basically having an "emotional affair". We both have lots of regrets and hurt feelings because we couldn't for some reason develop "us". Well, what he doesn't know is that it's all me, becuase I was going on the advice of all these different tarot readers and psyhics. It was so draining too!

I f'ed up. So You're right...what if we did things based on our own hearts and thinking/feelings......I say we should!

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have you ever watched the devil's advocate?
there's this one line at the end.
it's not word for word
but bascially these ppl got to the top with the 'devils' help
i can't remember exactly what he said but he's like these ppl got here thanks to me, they can't maintain their positions without me, (because they didn't earn it/ work for it..etc)...they don't know *ish.

i kinda see astrology like that...it's too much information that most aren't ready for, and don't know how to use.
they could use it, cheat, and get to the next level.
but they don't undestand that level, they're not strong enough for that level, they don't know how to navigate that level.
or like a test...you could cheat. get 100, but say the day comes when you have to apply that knowlege...u're screwed.

posted October 10, 2012 01:10 AM            

I was crazy about this guy and was desperate for him to reciprocate my feelings. We lived far away from one another and was hoping we would be together one day.

A psychic told me that she didn't see us being together. She actually told me a lot of other things as well.

None of the other predictions came true except for the one about my crush and I.

The reading gave me the to incentive to start ending the relationship, though because I no longer thought there was a future. We were having some communication issues and I was becoming disenchanted with the distance between us.

posted October 10, 2012 08:20 AM            

BTW I love tarot & I am addicted too, as far as routine matters, daily yes/no & daily draws are concerned.

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If I have done a reading for you, or you have a generous heart, please make a prayer for me that I meet love of my life soon. I believe in power of prayers. Thank you

posted October 10, 2012 10:04 AM            

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Originally posted by hmm:
have you ever watched the devil's advocate?
there's this one line at the end.
it's not word for word
but bascially these ppl got to the top with the 'devils' help
i can't remember exactly what he said but he's like these ppl got here thanks to me, they can't maintain their positions without me, (because they didn't earn it/ work for it..etc)...they don't know *ish.

i kinda see astrology like that...it's too much information that most aren't ready for, and don't know how to use.
they could use it, cheat, and get to the next level.
but they don't undestand that level, they're not strong enough for that level, they don't know how to navigate that level.
or like a test...you could cheat. get 100, but say the day comes when you have to apply that knowlege...u're screwed.

$#$%#$#...i really wish i could explain it better....i don't do it justice
it's a good movie, you should watch it if you ever have time....
idk

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posted October 10, 2012 10:24 AM            

Although it is human nature to want to know everything before it happens, that does not mean that this should be the case. Lol. This is where the saying, "practice patience" comes in.

I have gotten caught up in tarot addiction as well. Particularly, while in this stage of my life when I am going through so many weird and unfamiliar changes. I felt I needed direction and some guidance. Clearly, some guidance here and there is great, but when it is used in place of dealing with life, that is when there is a problem.

posted October 10, 2012 12:49 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
Totally makes sense...I feel that way. When I had him, I didn't know what to do b/c I was basically playing games by going on the advice of too many different "readings" I had.

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posted October 11, 2012 02:06 AM            

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Originally posted by tuxedo meow:
Generally, on forum, when someone offers to do readings for others, the readings asked for all have questions like, "Does he like me?" "Is he my soulmate?" "how does he really feel about me?" " will we end up together?"
Nothing wrong with asking these type questions of course but, I would like to see more variety in questions. i think it is like what all the good previous answers before me on this thread are stating-the readings are temporary balm for wish fulfillment anxiety?

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posted October 11, 2012 01:22 PM            

I've been thinking about my sibling who went from tarot reading addiciton to excessive shopping. After I stopped reading for her excessively, she moved on to distracting herself from the emotional pain via crazy shopping sprees.

Reflecting on this, I think readings themselves aren't a negative thing, but perhaps a self analysis would be good to identify what exactly one is hoping to obtain.

Asking for clarification readings is totally ok, by excessive readings, I supposse this would be determined by each individual...what is excessive and what is clarification.

In my sibling's case, she'd ask for more than 10 readings on the same question, frustrated as the cards were not confirming what she wanted to hear. A few days would go by, and she'd stop by and ask for more readings on the same question, without having made real life progress by thinking about or making decisions.

It was almost as if she didn't want to take responisbility for her own self, and placed too much power on the cards. In my view, my sibling was def addicted to the readings which is why I stopped reading for her.

posted October 11, 2012 01:41 PM            

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Originally posted by hmm:
we should do a pact where for one person/one area in our life we are not allowed to ask questions about, do readings for....and see how much MORE we get out of that relatonship/situation.etc in the end...
unless i'm getting ahead of myself.
personaly i'd break after two min....
but it's nice to have goals...lmao....

yes good topic, def. something we tend to push under the rug, ....to our own detriment.

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posted October 11, 2012 09:25 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
OMG, yes!! That's what I told myself several days ago...I have gone a full week without any readings!! I am so scared to mess things up with him now that we are brought into a new type of rel. that I wont ask or talk to anyone about him or us!! I must say that going based on my own beliefs and instinct has worked out greatly!

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