posted November 14, 2012 04:42 AM            

I can never make friends, even how nice I am, people just end up hating me and finding me annoying.

posted November 14, 2012 07:19 AM            

Your Sun (inner self - the way you are at hearth) is in Opposition with you Ascendant (outer looks - the way people see you)... and that's affecting your perception in terms of appearance - you have a hard time seeing yourself in a brighter light... and if that wasn't enough - Neptune (which relates to dreams, illusions, delusions) is also in house 1 and again in opposition with your Sun (the way your are at hearth)... most people can "imagine themselves better looking" - which helps their self esteem... but with your Sun in Opposition - you have a hard time doing that as well

You Have house 2 (the money you earn, the sense of self worth) in Pisces - now Pisces is more about the people, about compassion - money and self worth don't go hand in hand with this placement - and it manifests in House 1 in Aquarius where Neptune is placed - Aquarius is also about the people - about their rights.. which in your case is also a source for concerns related to people and what they think about you... the money you make and your sense of self worth has to do with people and that's not something easy to let go or overcome - so you could give in to that... cause on the bright side i see you have Jupiter (growth, wisdom, luck...) in House 2 which is positively aspected even with the Ascendant (your public image) - which can really help with your financial growth and sense of self worth... goes hand in hand with Sagittarius which is placed in 11'th house (house of friendship, what we aspect from others, our wishes) - so in terms of friends - a foreign country or foreigners is what this placement inclines - which manifests in House 2/Pisces (where Jupiter is placed) - so in your case, i'd recommend you to work with a foundation/ a cause (or something similar) - help people... let that feeling rub upon you - and you'll get a lot more in return... it will truly help you feel better about yourself... be more likable and see yourself in a better light - will help you grow in more ways than one, both in the eyes of others - but mainly in your eyes cause that's the main problem.

Good luck (and you'll have that with Jupiter).

posted November 14, 2012 07:36 AM            

A brief look at the ASC( conj) Nep and the DSC conj the Sun may offer something of value to you.

Neptune is a wild card planet like Uranus, in that it can confer wonderful gifts but can give great hardships, too.

I have Neptune in the 1st house and apsected by trines to the Sun and Merc and yet, I suffer from the touch of Neptune. I, also, am blessed from it.

I will explain. your close conj of Nep with the ASC would make your identity amorphous. You will always have to struggle with a kind of identity crisis imo

Neptune dissolves what it touches and it touches your ASC

However, neptune makes you super creative. I have finally really touched my creativity and I feel free to make mistakes and let loose.

This is Neptune's gift and the way out of the amorphous identity, in the best way

You find yourself through creative pursuits.

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posted November 14, 2012 07:39 AM            

You struggle with a lack of solid identity. That is why you asked the question.

Others will see you as glamorous due to the Nep conj the ASC. Others will be attracted to that glamor but you may feel like a fake and think they are silly to be attracted to you because of your lack of self esteem/ solid identity.

I hear this in your question.

All of the above is from a Nept conj the ASC.
It is not your fault!!!!

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posted November 14, 2012 07:40 AM            

That which conjuncts the DSC, you look to find in others. In your case, it would be the Sun, which is one's identity.

I think this is a big part of the answer to your question.
Love you, Karka dear

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posted November 14, 2012 07:43 AM            

But really, if they are skittish around you, that just means that they aren't confident enough in themselves.

And beyond the first impressions, you have a lot of sweetness in your chart, so there is a gift waiting for the people who don't just jump to conclusions about you. It's almost like your ASC sifts out the people who aren't worth you spending your high-quality affectionate nature on. For example, your Taurus moon is very sensual, 5H Venus on the Gem-Cancer cusp is devoted, fun, and warm. There's more but I don't want to give the impression that I think astrology can explain everything.

Edit: Oh, Ami was covering some of the same points as I was writing. Sorry, didn't mean to be redundant.

posted November 14, 2012 03:02 PM            

To go ahead on... some guy is stalking and harassing me now over the net.. and making up laws threatening to report me to the law!

He has stalked many girls before...

and, he is 21-24...

posted November 14, 2012 06:22 PM            

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Good luck (and you'll have that with Jupiter).

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posted November 14, 2012 08:24 PM            

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It's nice to see a new original voice and I can see your good intentions

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posted November 14, 2012 11:27 PM            

I can tell from your outer planets that you are very young. The social scene of teens and young adults can be truly brutal sometimes. But your story is far from over.

Many people who have a difficult time of it when they are young can go on to have happy lives later on. Don't let others dictate to you what you are worth. We are all children of god and are precious and loved. I'm sure there are plenty of people out there in the world who will appreciate and like you once they've gotten to know you. And if some people don't then just don't bother with those people. We can't please everyone, and there are some people you'd wouldn't want to please anyway. When people are full of self-doubt, sometimes the only thing that's wrong with them is that they have low self esteem. But your self esteem is not who you truly are. It's a temporary and changeable thing. If you focus on building it up it will strengthen. It's okay to have failings and weaknesses because everybody has them. Even really confident people have failings, they've just learned not to care so much about them, and to emphasize the positive. That fact that you'd even ask a question like this, at your age, makes me worry that your having issues understanding your own value.

How people present themselves has an immense impact on how they're perceived. Even extremely ugly people (And I'm sure you're not as ugly as you think you are) can be very popular if they are skilled at presenting themselves well socially. That doesn't mean you need to be over-the-top if your a naturally reserved person. It just means if social acceptance is important to you (if it's not then don't worry, lol), you may need to learn how to project the vibe that you are comfortable with yourself not matter what... Life can be unpredictable, and throughout our lives and plenty of things both good and bad will happen to us. Sometimes we'll be up. Sometimes we'll be down. Sometimes we'll be humiliated. Sometimes we'll be loved. Our current circumstances are not a measure of our intrinsic value as a person. If we can hold steady with our sense of self value no matter what (even if life feels like it sucks right now), it makes life a lot easier. In my book as long as someone is a good person, and treats others well, then there's is no reason to be unnecessarily hard on your self. I'm not saying that you don't have valid problems socially, I'm just saying that I wouldn't use that to that to measure your own self-value. If you're feeling unpopular right now, that doesn't mean your any less worth while anybody else... AND as human beings we all have the potential to grow, develop, and better our life skills.

What I've noticed is that even the dumbest, ugliest, silliest, and most idiotic of people can be well liked if they have accepted themselves as valuable no matter what! Learning to accept your intrinsic value as a person is incredibly attractive to others. It doesn't matter if you have huge problems and are a complete failure, if you have learned to value yourself as worthwhile others will start to view you the same way. And there doesn't have to be a logical reason for it. If you just value yourself in a real and authentic way more positivity will come into your life regardless of the reason. Even if there isn't a reason. Just think, 'who cares if I suck at socializing, I'm still worth it!'. Just know you're worth it in your heart and the energy around you will start to change. If you want to break your 'curse' valuing yourself unconditionally is the cure. Being imperfect is part of being human, and a lot of people struggle with social issues, and self esteem issues. You are not alone. Many, many people all over the world deal with similar issues to you everyday of their lives. And if you are concerned about developing yourself socially, weirdly enough, deciding not to care if you are popular or not, and accepting yourself as valuable unconditionally, helps with this not matter how flawed you think you are.

posted November 15, 2012 09:02 PM            

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I am not sure exactly what in your chart, but I think you should just ignore people who are mean and find you annoying for no reason. I know that's easier said than done, and can make a person feel lonely marginalized, etc. But some people are so mean that you can't seriously be missing out by not being friends with them. I know meeting others is a very shallow thing - sometimes it is literally all about how you look, whether or not you have a designer bag, whether or not you are talking about the latest things, and all that. Don't be so hard on yourself, and don't think ther eis something wrong with you. If you know in your heart that you're a good person (I'm sure you are), there is nothing you need to change.

While I don't feel like people dislike me all the time, sometimes negative reactions just happen. I just recently dealt with prejudice / discrimination for the first time in my life. At first I felt very confused and ashamed... then I quickly realized people are out of their minds to be judging me based on my ethnic background and skin color and all that. You know, the loveliest people I know all have a lot of "haters" lol. It's horrible, but inevitable, a part of life I guess.

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posted November 15, 2012 09:09 PM            

See me personally, Im beautiful, yet I still run into shallow people like all of the time. Fortunately my heart is of gold and I am able to look past such differences!

posted November 17, 2012 08:46 AM            

This aspect can have a very inhibiting effect, which you may spend a good deal of your life learning to handle properly. In a very real sense, you will never be young in this life.
The problem is, however, that you are your harshest critic, often feeling that you have so little to offer that no one can love you. You feel that people will not accept you as you really are, that you have to earn their love. This isn't true, and your only real problem is thinking that it is. People who do like you will try to make you realize that fact, but it won't be easy. You take criticism far more seriously than praise, even though the praise may be just as deserved.

posted November 18, 2012 12:51 AM            

I think the culprit may be your capricorn ascendant. I have the same rising sign (just not on the cusp), and as a teenager, I was really quiet. Some people thought I was a snob as a result even though I really didn't think I was better than any one or too good to hang out with anyone. I was just an overly serious teenager. I didn't consider anyone to be beneath me, but I gave this false impression because I was an introvert. When I tried to be friendly, it just look forced. However, as I grew older, being friendly came off as more natural. I haven't met you in real life so I really can't say how you come across to others or whether you are simply being oversensitive and misinterpreting other people's reactions towards you.

Being a teenager is tough. If you behave anywhere outside the norm among your peers, then you usually end up being an outcast.

posted November 18, 2012 01:20 AM            

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Originally posted by a_may_gemini:
you'll probably take it the wrong way, but the problem is that you have neptune on the AC and people who have neptune on the AC/1st house easily play the victim and blame others. that's not attractive to anyone.

you're also barely a teenager and teenagers are naturally mean towards each other. for now, i would say, lay off the astrology and try to focus on finding good friends.

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posted November 18, 2012 01:21 AM            

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I'm not so sure neptune conjunct ascendant is your problem. I have this aspect and it makes people drawn to me. They tell me their deepest secrets before I even know their name!

I think the culprit may be your capricorn ascendant. I have the same rising sign (just not on the cusp), and as a teenager, I was really quiet. Some people thought I was a snob as a result even though I really didn't think I was better than any one or too good to hang out with anyone. I was just an overly serious teenager. I didn't consider anyone to be beneath me, but I gave this false impression because I was an introvert. When I tried to be friendly, it just look forced. However, as I grew older, being friendly came off as more natural. I haven't met you in real life so I really can't say how you come across to others or whether you are simply being oversensitive and misinterpreting other people's reactions towards you.

Being a teenager is tough. If you behave anywhere outside the norm among your peers, then you usually end up being an outcast.

If you treat others with kindness and respect, then you have nothing to worry about. Forget the people who are mean to you. That's their problem, not yours.

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posted November 18, 2012 06:20 AM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
Its bad too cuz some adults hate me for no reason as well, they think I'm creepy because I'd rather talk to them and I act too "mature"

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Can you give me an example of what you've said to an adult and their reaction to you?

One of the things that you learn while growing up is that it matters a great deal how you say something. Perhaps, you are trying to be nice and helpful, but it comes across as arrogant or condescending even though that isn't your intention at all.