posted January 07, 2013 05:28 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:

Hey there

The grupovenus report expires after 15 mins, so u can't link it, but I entered you and your mom's information into the site myself so it's cool.

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Ooops. Thank you though.

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There are two themes here! One is saturn, the other is neptune. The sun and moon are BOTH square saturn in composite as well as synastry. The sun and moon are also significantly affected by neptune in synastry since you have sun square neptune in synastry and Double Whammy negative Moon-Neptune aspects. As well as mars square neptune (in synastry).

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MAN DO I ever feel that Saturn!!! I have Sun and Venus square Saturn too so that's like a triple threat.

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One of the themes will obviously be mutual criticism...(saturn) You both feel restricted by the other, like the other person doesn't listen to your emotional needs and is too serious and demanding of you.

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Yep. She says she has to walk on tip toes around me, and I'm thinking "Oh then you must feel that way around everyone because my expectations are pretty normal." I think she's super demanding and especially unrealistic (in general, not just of me) because of her Mercury in Pisces.

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That means it is difficult for both people to be responsible around the other person. It's much easier to be silly and goof off and be impractical and forgetful. Do you feel a lot like you have to be HER mom, when she should be acting like your mom? Like she is irresponsible towards you and doesn't take care of the chores that need to be done, etc?

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Yeah. I raised myself emotionally because she always thought I was hard to deal with and wasn't that affectionate towards me. Everything that went wrong was my fault, never hers, or someone else's. It was always me who could've done better. I always had to apologize first.

She did a lot of caretaking like making my lunches, making me breakfast, picking me up from schook, making dinner, keeping the house clean, yes. However, when I got older and she became more and more of a recluse I started having to do more and had less time to focus on just being a kid. I'm not saying "Poor me, I had to do chores." But I'm an only child and I've always been relied on a lot more than other children. I've always kind of seen her as immature. She doesn't just treat me that way but my father as well. It's never her fault, but his. And if she does try to cooperate then it's not because she realizes how it affects us, but just so she can say she's trying to get along and we're not.

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Basically, the composite is at first sight what would seem to be a good composite, with Sun conjunct venus and moon square venus as well as moon trine mercury, moon sextile mars and moon trine jupiter. Sun is also opposite pluto. This all means you can have fun together and share much affection.

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However, the saturn, uranus, and neptune issues oftentimes prevent that from happening. Sun and moon is square saturn in both synastry and composite. moon and venus are afflicted by uranus and saturn in composite, and sun and moon are also heavily afflicted by neptune in synastry. That means a lot of mutual criticism and sense of restriction (saturn), irresponsibility and impracticality (neptune), as well as instability and lack of being able to count on one another(uranus).

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YEP! Tell me, if your child was stranded in a small town with no phone, and no gas, would you make her wait there for hours while you shopped? She did. Everybody has to wait on her and do things on her time. (SMH.)

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Composite mercury square mars doesn't help one bit, as it guarrantees arguments.

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You betcha.

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EDIT: Composite moon trine mercury is especially a blessing in this instance, because it means you can talk about your feelings to one another and feel listened to, however that doesn't mean that the person will change or will ACTUALLY listen (as is the case with saturn always ignoring emotional needs and saying RULES FIRST). But at least that aspect is definitely an outlet.

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We can do that as long as it's not about OUR relationship and as long as I catch her on a good day.