posted January 05, 2013 01:21 PM            

I was wondering if someone (ANYONE!) can give me some insight into what might be going on here and how I should handle this.

Our placements:

His:
Sun Pisces 26.24
Moon Leo 28.39
Mercury Aries 11.18 R
Venus Pisces 3.24
Mars Aquarius 21.13
Jupiter Virgo 7.33 R
Saturn Aquarius 14.31
Uranus Capricorn 17.28
Neptune Capricorn 18.38
Pluto Scorpio 22.51 R
Lilith Aquarius 6.13
Asc node Capricorn 6.22

Me:
Sun Scorpio 2.02
Moon Libra 6.14
Mercury Libra 18.35 R
Venus Sagittarius 18.20
Mars Virgo 2.37
Jupiter Libra 23.13
Saturn Libra 15.12
Uranus Scorpio 28.42
Neptune Sagittarius
Pluto Libra 24.36 Cancer 19.23
Lilith Sagittarius 3.25
Asc node Cancer 26.23

Thoughts?

posted January 05, 2013 01:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Guys don't like confrontations, ESP through text, ESP if you havent been with them long. Don't know what you said, but you've either hurt his feelings or (more likely) turned him off.

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Yep, I figured as much. :-/

Yikes! I do not know what I was thinking. I typically think before texting. Clearly in this case, I did not. Lol

Now, what to do? My only concern is that it has been so many days, that I have turned him off for good and he has checked out altogether.

posted January 05, 2013 01:51 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
What were you texting about? Depends on extent of damage

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He posted a pic of him and this girl, who I think he is dating. Because we are not in a committed relationship, we have agreed that we can date other people if we choose to. But we have to remain honest, respectful and considerate of one another. He has even asked me to let him know when and if I start dating someone else and I have asked the same of him.

Anyway, I have asked him about this very girl before. He told me that they used to date but not anymore. However, they still hang out from time to time. Well on Tuesday he posted a pic of him and the girl with hearts and other silly little emoticons as the caption. I dont care that he is dating her. I just dont want to see it. Just the day prior, he was telling me how much he misses me and cannot wait to see me in a couple weeks.

I sent him a text saying, "you clearly are dating this woman. why not be truthful opposed to posting pics of her with emoticons, etc." No answer. After talking to my friends, I was reminded that bc we are not in a relationship this text might have been taken the wrong way. So, I followed it up on Thursday by saying, "hey you. I am not sure if my previous text came off weird. I like you and enjoy spending time with you. However, i do understand the nature of our relationship and just want us to always be truthful and open with each other. Thats it, thats all. Simple. Hope you are doing well and have a good night!"

posted January 05, 2013 02:10 PM            

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Originally posted by 2pm:
for some reason both of the text sounds clingy idk maybe its just me

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Yikes! That is definitely NOT what I was trying to convey. I just want him to be honest. Period. Like I said, my issue is not that he is dating the girl, its that he lied about it. So, I was not sending the text in effort to control his actions or to be clingy. Instead, simply to communicate to him how important it is to me that he be honest and that there is no need for him to not be honest.

I guess the only thing to do is to sit back and wait to see if he reaches out to me.... Not sure if he will. I wish there is something I can do to undo any type of clingy energy I have put out. Lol.

posted January 05, 2013 02:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Yeah it sounds insecure.

What you should have done is casually bring it up next time you saw him. Also hint that you're dating others. Be self assured, like OF COURSE you'll dome out on top. And make it seem you're weighing him up too.
Your text made you seem demanding, though I understand perfectly why you were hurt.

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Do you think the damage can be undone? Lol.

posted January 05, 2013 02:15 PM            

If a guy sent the first text to me and then the second I'd write them off. I agree, being honest is really important, it's just the impression you put out is insecure, and it's not very attractive (gotta keep it light and breezy at the start )

posted January 05, 2013 02:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Um honestly? Probably not ><

If a guy sent the first text to me and then the second I'd write them off. I agree, being honest is really important, it's just the impression you put out is insecure, and it's not very attractive (gotta keep it light and breezy at the start )

Don't worry, brush it off your shoulders and jump back ion and date others.

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posted January 05, 2013 02:22 PM            

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Originally posted by blessed39:
Hmm.... Well this is going to be awkward because him and I were supposed to see each other in two weeks and will definitely see each other next month at a mutual friend's birthday party. We were supposed to spend the weekend together for both visits. :-/

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posted January 05, 2013 02:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Leap Year Pisces:
You have EVERY right to be annoyed and/or turned off. -_- If he's telling you one thing and turning around and contradicting it, what else are you suppose to do? Act like you don't see it? Honestly, I would leave the entire situation alone. It shows lack of respect, responsibility, consideration - I can keep going but, I'm gonna stop right here. There was no need or a follow up text on Thursday b/c CLEARLY he felt "busted" otherwise he would've responded something to the effect of "It's not like that we're just friends." Or "I'm sorry I didn't get a chance to tell you I started dating the girl I told you I WASN'T dating anymore. This happened several hours AFTER we were on the phone and I told you I missed you and couldn't wait to see you..." -_- REALLY?? I can go on with this analysis but, I think you get my drift. Unless, of course, you'd like me to continue...

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I get your drift completely! I am just beating myself up for the way I handled it. Although, I KNOW what he did was inconsiderate and disrespectful, I just wish I would have handled it in a way that was truly expressive of my issue with the entire situation.

posted January 05, 2013 02:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Awkward ... Just be super charming, friendly but quite detached and look fabulous next time you see him.

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That, I can do! Lol.

posted January 05, 2013 02:33 PM            

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Originally posted by blessed39:
But the thing that gets me is that we had a conversation a couple of weeks ago about liars and he was going on and on about how he cant stand people who lie and if someone lies to him, he is done with them. SMH.

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posted January 05, 2013 02:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Oh and next time use 'it seems' instead of clearly and also use 'how about' instead of 'why not' when you use those words, it puts them on the defensive straightaway. But if you said, hey it seems you're pretty into that other chick you're dating , just texting to ask if we could reschedule that date for Thurs? I double booked and just realised. '

Then what you do is spend more time with friends and have him wonder about the dates you're going on too.

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I wish I would have created this post before going text happy.

posted January 05, 2013 02:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Yea he's an arse, you're better off without him.

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posted January 05, 2013 02:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Leap Year Pisces:
You have EVERY right to be annoyed and/or turned off. -_- If he's telling you one thing and turning around and contradicting it, what else are you suppose to do? Act like you don't see it? Honestly, I would leave the entire situation alone. It shows lack of respect, responsibility, consideration - I can keep going but, I'm gonna stop right here. There was no need or a follow up text on Thursday b/c CLEARLY he felt "busted" otherwise he would've responded something to the effect of "It's not like that we're just friends." Or "I'm sorry I didn't get a chance to tell you I started dating the girl I told you I WASN'T dating anymore. This happened several hours AFTER we were on the phone and I told you I missed you and couldn't wait to see you..." -_- REALLY?? I can go on with this analysis but, I think you get my drift. Unless, of course, you'd like me to continue...

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This made me smile do you have mercury in aries or something?? Lol I wish ida figured this kinda stuff out a few yrs ago. I hate seeing ppl mistreated u should counsel ppl. Blessed - u deserve better.

posted January 05, 2013 03:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Yeah he's a tool, but she probably should tone down on being confrontational. She should have mentioned it to his face and dropped him straight after. Texting him about it isn't a good idea.

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I agree. It just gives him more room to be a coward. -_-

posted January 05, 2013 03:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Awkward ... Just be super charming, friendly but quite detached and look fabulous next time you see him.

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Once again, I concur.