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Topic: Is there potential? I need advice :P
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beach_glass
Newflake Posts: 4
From: Toronto, ON, CA
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 23, 2013 01:21 PM
  
I'm really not sure what to do here, so I'm wondering if you guys can help me. I met a Cappy guy at a dance at the beginning of December. I wasn't too sure of him at first but he pursued me and now I feel like i'm falling pretty hard for him! About a week into knowing each other, he invited me to meet his parents and his brother. Then he invited me to his birthday party to meet all of his family and all his closest friends. I hear this is a good thing?At the end of December he told me he wanted to be exclusive and that he "only likes (me)." Unfortunately, school started up again and now he's never around, never EVER plans to see me and doesn't seem to care at all. I saw him last night (he's a standup comedian) and he didn't kiss me or anything when I first saw him. He just did his own thing all night. Finally at the very end when he sent me home (he said he had work to do) he gave me a kiss and left. When we ARE together (and he's not "working" which is only, if i'm lucky, once a week) he's pretty affectionate. He'll kiss me on my head and hug me, cuddle me all night, etc. He tells me "you're okay" and I think that's his way of telling me he likes me? Then when he leaves, he turns into someone else. Gone, distant, has never called me on the phone, assumes bad things when I say "i want to call you". He likes to send texts... which i despise! I know his last girlfriend left him for a mutual friend and now they don't talk to him. He assumes bad things a lot. I feel like he's just keeping me away because he's afraid of getting hurt again. Anyways, is this a kind behavior his way of pushing me away? Should I stick it out, even though I feel like I need someone who can express their emotions and communicate better? Should I play his *distant* game too? Or should I keep trying to draw some of his love out and hope it will inspire him to be more loving? I'm thinking about breaking it off because I'm afraid I might be on a different page than him. However, I don't want to end something that can potentially be something really amazing. What do I do to make this work? https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-IrO84UZh0Ug/UQAjHYKHZfI/AAAAAAAAAQM/k5lnpwAA4ac/s637/Chantal+Natal+Chart.png https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-_L8TGiHBYng/UQAjIboD8wI/AAAAAAAAAQY/lP2CeWG6BA8/s645/Kyle+Natal+Chart.png
Thanks everyone!
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lalalinda
Moderator Posts: 2885
From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 23, 2013 01:31 PM
Hello beach-glass! Welcome to LL  moving this to Personal Readings ------------------
"For all those who believe, expect a miracle.”
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starmoon
Knowflake Posts: 336
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Registered: Sep 2011
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posted January 23, 2013 01:35 PM
i read through your post and looked at the charts for you both. my advice would be to stick it out with this person and not look at his behaviors as negative - he's just being who he is and is probably more 'into you' than you think. keep in mind that with anyone, male or female, you are rarely dealing with their sun sign in the relationship. so, his cap sun isn't really how to understand this guy - you should look more at his moon/mars for how he'll be as a partner/man. you have very nice contacts with this guy - sun-venus both ways (which indicates mutual attraction) and also moon-venus which would show understanding/empathy between you and just an easiness. i would say his distant behavior, the not making dates and coming around is that mars in picses. my own long-term bf is a mars in pisces and i have done a lot of research into that placement. it is one of the laziest placements and for a man it means he really isn't inclined to take any initiative, especially in love. you can just go ahead and take all the initiative you want, because not only won't he care, but he'll like it - it'll help him move along and if you can be super romantic about it, even better. mars in pisces = SUPER romantic! you have to help these guys out, really. i wouldn't advise 'playing distant' because the chart(s) indicate a connection already, so there isn't a reason to play any games, you've already got his attention and can keep it just by being who you are. his sun and venus likes you, so be you and it'll work best :-) maybe someone else will come along and read your houses and overlays, this is just my general opinion, and the relationship, imo, would be worth continuingIP: Logged |
beach_glass
Newflake Posts: 4
From: Toronto, ON, CA
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 23, 2013 03:12 PM
Eapp, thanks lalalinda! Oooo that makes me happy! Thanks starmoon. That's reassuring.  IP: Logged | |
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