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Topic: First date tomorrow! HELP!
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Hera
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posted February 09, 2013 02:27 PM
  
This is my 3rd Libra. I said no more Libras but somehow he grew on me. We've been talking on the Internet for like 3 months now. He has been interested in me all this time, me not so much. Actually behaved poorly with him because I thought he was too insistent and didn't like that. Plus, I was with the Gem and in love with the Scorpio almost all this time. No room for Libras. But he's been there all this time, though he threatened not to speak to me, he always came back. I initially found him VERY attractive, he's precisely my type, if I were to have one, dark haired with brown silky eyes. He's Scorpio Asc, Venus and Mercury. ugh. Leo Mars. Somehow he put me off, I don't know why. Anyways, now that I am available, I decided to give him a try. We're meeting tomorrow for the first time in person, except he will be blindfolded (don't ask  ). It is supposed to be fun and exciting and a bit crazy. And ofc I am very very curious to know how it will go!! Anybody wanna pull some cards for me please?  IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted February 09, 2013 02:32 PM
For the FMC, I picked Leo Asc and the New Moon in the 7th. Venus on DC, POF in the 1st. I don't like the Saturn-Venus square but nothing I could do about it. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted February 09, 2013 03:07 PM
I used my Gothic tarot for thisYOU:
- 8 of swords
- Ace of wands
HIM:
- Temperance
- 6 of wands
DATE:
- 3 of pentacles
- 3 of cups
It made me laugh when I saw the 8 of swords. LOL
(though I think YOU will be the one, doing the tying up and blindfolding, right?  ) IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted February 09, 2013 03:20 PM
My instant thoughts on this draw (and I could be totally wrong, maybe I am, cause you said you are not really into him):From your perspective there seems to be a strong sexual connotation (Ace of Wands), but laced with "danger" and "knifes in the dark" (no clue why I wrote that; but the s8 of swords PLUS the Ace of Wands just made me think of a very piercing sexuality.) If this is not in a sexual context, I`d think the 8 of swords could also represent of you overthinking things too much, and locking yourself in in a mental cage of negativity. His perspective:
Well, also a wands card, but this time the 6 of wands. Seems to speak about a lot of sexual attraction, too. Also it is such a "victory" "I got what I wanted" card! But together with TEMPERANCE, for him it seems to be more important somehow, and there is something that goes beyond the sex. Maybe some sort of healing taking place (either in him or through him).
Strangely there is a certain "innocence" coming with that card. As for the date or meeting itself, I could not help but notice that two 3`s came up.
A third party involved? (either in person, or in the mind?)
Or it might simply emphasized the possibility of coming growth. And of course the 3 of cups is always a good card for enjoying yourselves.  IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted February 09, 2013 03:46 PM
Thank you, thank you, Ceri!!!
Amazing imagery!! I love the cards!
Well, I wanted to meet for coffee you know, the old fashion style but he corrupted me lol. Still, this will be quite mild but yes, I will be the one in control here. Or so I hope. Nailed me on the 8 of Swords. Ofc I overthink it, ofc I am distrustful and in doubt, what if this happens, what if I can't pull it off, what if he won't like me (he won't be blindfolded all the time lol). The Ace is a beginning card and shows my (still doubtful) enthusiasm and excitement if this will go as planned it's a stunning first date!
With him, yes, I suppose he is getting what he wanted. He has been nagging me for 3 months lol for this 3rd party.. funny you should mention that. The reason why I decided to finally try with him is that I need to get over the Scorpio, and fast! So yes, there is a third person in mind but I really hope to eliminate him from there because it is not going anywhere and I'm just tired. I want to be happy, plain and simple and so I am very grateful for the 3 of Cups! Also love that there is a pentacle in there (too many wands lol) because I want to make this long term or at least a stable relationship. Thank you again and for sure will let you know how it goes! IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted February 09, 2013 04:06 PM
This is the intended First Meeting Chart btw.  IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted February 09, 2013 05:48 PM
Hera,yes, I like the imagery as well. I did not anticipate it, but actually it has become my regular deck. As for the 3 of cups - I love that card!
It has popped up quite often for me, too, and if it did, it always heralded a very carefree, enjoyable time, usually in a broader social context.
Not really a menage a trois, more relaxed (or potentially relaxed, if I could relax a little. lol) meetings in a room full of people.
If there is one card to signify parties or social gatherings to me, then this would be it. IP: Logged |
Venia
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posted February 10, 2013 07:31 AM
Hera!Good luck on the 1st date 
Just relax and have fun!!! Let us know how it goes
I'm sure it will go great... Love, V IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted February 10, 2013 08:41 AM
Have fun!IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted February 10, 2013 09:02 AM
Thanks you guys! That 8 of Sw is certainly making a lot of sense, I am barely keeping myself from crying and falling apart. I feel very insecure and I remembered the Scorpio and how I met him, then the Gem and how well that went.. ugh. It just seems like I will never find anybody (and of course I am mostly to blame for that). Yes, like I said, 8 of Sw makes lots of sense. The date got postponed by half an hour, putting Venus in the 6th  Well, we already knew it wasn't going to be a balanced relationship. IP: Logged |
peregrine
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posted February 10, 2013 09:54 AM
so that's where ya been! wabbithunting! good luck!IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted February 10, 2013 10:01 AM
oh Hera,
stop thinking and start having fun.  You know the 8th of swords is all just in your mind! IP: Logged |
Sandra018
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posted February 10, 2013 10:43 AM
Let us know how it went!! IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted February 10, 2013 10:53 AM
It wasn't just in my mind. It was a clear warning from my gut. The date never happened. He stood me up. Libras. Should. Have. Known. NEVER ever EVER will I consider another Libra again. IP: Logged |
Venia
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posted February 10, 2013 10:57 AM
Omg! I am SO sorry to hear that 
Why on earth did he do THAT???? Shame on him!
Did he call to say why/apologize????IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted February 10, 2013 11:06 AM
He said he got retained at some friend's house. I don't care about excuses. We had an appointment. He didn't respect it. I blocked him on every communication vehicle we had available, deleted every word he has ever written me in the last 3-4 months. He stood up the wrong woman.  IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted February 10, 2013 11:10 AM
Oh I am so sorry, Hera!But I am also proud of you, I think you did the right thing.
NO excuses!
If he really had wanted to keep the appointment, he would have found a way!
It is his loss. And yes, always trust your gut!
EDIT:
and ironically there WAS a third person involved.
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Hera
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posted February 10, 2013 11:23 AM
Yes, ironically..Now I'm stuck with the Scorpio in my head again. Why can't I just be happy? Find someone I like, who would like me back and just be happy. No games, no complications, no third parties. Just deliriously happy.. I even did my friggin nails and hair. Had a nice outfit too.. not a bad make-up either. I swear, sometimes I feel like.. the f*ck with it all. I guess it's just not for me. IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted February 10, 2013 03:52 PM
Hitting something usually works for me. Find a punching bag, or take a stick and start whacking something.Then go to a bar where no one knows you in your cute outfit, nice hair and nails, fake a french accent and have guys hit on you IP: Logged |
Moonfish
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posted February 10, 2013 04:44 PM
I'm sorry Hera! I know how you feel
The new defintion of "Love" nowadays seems to be a game of whoever gives up there goodies the fastest, wins!
I haven't met 1 genuine guy who was interested in me, all players. Even though it would feel great to be with someone who truly cares about me, at the end of the day I love myself Way more than any man could I would feel content if I stayed single for the rest of my life.I read a lot of your threads and I just want to say I admire how strong of a person you are. Whether you find someone or not, I hope you gain true happiness in your life because you deserve it <3 IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted February 10, 2013 06:09 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Hera:
Yes, ironically..Now I'm stuck with the Scorpio in my head again. Why can't I just be happy? Find someone I like, who would like me back and just be happy. No games, no complications, no third parties. Just deliriously happy.. I even did my friggin nails and hair. Had a nice outfit too.. not a bad make-up either. I swear, sometimes I feel like.. the f*ck with it all. I guess it's just not for me.
*sighs* I hear you! Why can`t it ever be simple?
Why al these challenges?
Sometimes it is just sooo tiresome. Hitting something sounds like a good idea, or screaming at the top of the lungs. Not that it changes anything,b ut just because. IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted February 10, 2013 10:30 PM
Thanks for the support, everyone! I didn't hit anything, ordered pizza and watched a movie then went straight to bed and slept for 10 hours I think. I needed that. Libra continued to text, I forgot to block him on the phone company. He doesn't understand why I am so upset. Well, there it goes, he thinks having me wait for him for hours while he has drinks with friends is alright. Well, it's not alright in my book. So I told him, again, never to call or text again as it is over for good. Decided simply not to answer after that until I have him blocked. Things look a little different in the morning. Not so bleak. But I think I may need to take a break from this whole dating thing, this is definitely a bad time for me. Everything is going hell-ish, from my break-up with the Gem at end of Jan, finding out about Scorp's new interest and now Libra standing me up Valentine's day is going to be one hell of a happy day. Thank God I'm at work 24h. IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted February 11, 2013 01:20 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Hera:
I didn't hit anything
Damn, I was so sure it would help! lol, well as long as I helped you a bit, even just a chuckle IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted February 11, 2013 04:51 AM
Hera,I am glad you feel a bit better this morning.
And this Libra sounds to be a bit stupid, to be honest. Does he really think it is okay to keep a woman waiting?  Well, but somehow, now that you mention he is Libra, it reminds me of the Exboyfriend of a friend of mine. He had a massive stellium in Libra (Sun, Venus, Mars, Uranus, all around ASC), and you never knew if he would show up or not, or if he did, when this would be (could be hours later).
I am not sure why she put up with that so long, but actually she never relied on him to come over but instead were doing other things and if he came, it was okay, and if not, she had been able to do something else.
At least he managed to be almost punctual for attending social functions though. I guess with your break up and with the Scorpio still on your mind, you might need a time of healing (your disappointment about Scorpio probably).
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Hera
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posted February 11, 2013 05:53 AM
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Originally posted by littlecloud:
Damn, I was so sure it would help! lol, well as long as I helped you a bit, even just a chuckle
Littlecloud, you're so sweet!  IP: Logged |
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