posted February 12, 2013 02:06 PM            

Here is my chart info with the new guy: http://db.tt/Xe0VHSiz http://db.tt/LoBU1aK0

posted February 12, 2013 03:50 PM            

you have a venus-pluto conjunct with this new guy and without a doubt that is putting your feelings out of whack. venus conjunct pluto is the strongest sexual energy i have encountered and since that conjunct is happening in his 7th house of partnerhsip it's more potent. it does feel fated but it can be turned into a powerful friendship and you don't have to act on it. you do not have that same sexual pull/energy in synastry with the current bf, BUT with the current bf you have many more emotional house overlays - his sun falls into your romantic 5th house, his venus falls into your 7th, and your moon falls into his 1st. you have the long-term, basic compatibility with the current bf. plus, he has scorpio energy, which is markedly good for a cap, especially cap moon, i know you'd want security from a guy and he'll offer that. the other guy will not,. he has a gemini moon which conflicts with your cap placement and his gemini mars does not help things either. the energy with him (long-term) won't be there. your mars sign, with the current bf, is compatible, which means fighting/communication can be easily achieved, but with the new guy the mars energies are in conflict and come from difference places. that could mean that once the sexual haze/interest leaves the communication won't be there.

with the new guy it's all of your placements being affected, moreso than him. it's your venus being pulled into his pluto, your venus in his 7th, and your mars in his 5th. while he'd definitely be drawn to/attracted to you, you'd be more invested, it's the opposite case w/your bf - he'd be more or equally invested with you. the new guy also has his venus sitting right on your DSC so there might be some element of feeling 'fate' here, but i wouldn't buy into it, especially since inthe composite you have venus conjunct neptune - very deceptive placement. although you have the sexual connection with this new guy you don't have the emotional connection that you do with the bfs placements. plus, although you don't have that dynamic venus-pluto with your bf you do have opposite venus signs, which (should) make your sexual attraction just as good.

i'm not great w/composite charts, but the composite with the new guy doesn't look great. i don't see any conjunctions to important planets, and the venus conjunct neptune might lead to eventual disillusionment with the partner. with the bf in composite you have that venus opposite saturn (perhaps an indicator it won't get to the forever point), but you also have a stellium with him which allows for a sun conjunt moon, and a venus conjunct mercury which is to me, one of the best possible aspects because it means easy communication between partners. my bf has an aqua venus (as your new guy does) and i have a virgo venus (as you do) and from my experience i can say that it isn't an easy connection - your virgo venus and cap moon will eventually want more than the new guy will offer. if you decide to pick him i'd say it leads to your eventual heartbreak and not his :-)

posted February 12, 2013 05:57 PM            

Best wishes

posted February 12, 2013 08:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Astroskeptic:
Btw. I think my venus is libra not Virgo - but I think you are right - I have an intuitive feeling this new guy could break my heart. Whereas my current bf is as steadfast as you can get. It always seems that life comes down to choices between safety and growth for me. I usually choose growth tho - despite my security hungry little moon.

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posted February 12, 2013 09:08 PM            

So I guess what I don't understand is why would you say that he would be less impacted by the relationship? His sun is in my 8th, so I am destabilized by his intensity, his venus and mercury and Jupiter are in my 7th so I want to be one - on - one with him...his Pluto is on my venus so I feel mesmerized by him maybe?

posted February 12, 2013 09:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Astroskeptic:
Listening to my heart has created the problem! I wouldn't have looked at the synastry if I didn't already feel a strong feeling of love towards this person. But I don't believe in dishonesty on any level - and so i have to make a decision...astrology seems to be a tool that can help you make such decisions...i don't think listening to your heart and using astrology are antithetical to each other.

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Well whatever you do, make sure its the right thing

posted February 12, 2013 10:10 PM            

it's a debate of sorts as to whether the house person or the planet person in synastry will feel a connection more. i fall on the side that belives it is the planet person who is most impacted - the house isn't a planet - it's just a representation on the chart of the way in which energies fall and how we might be impacted by our own natal placements and others who impact our house. we can feel the energy others bring to our 'house' but they hold that energy and direct it to us. so, the planet holder has the feeling more. as the house person we'd like it, but may/may not reciprocate it. in your synastry with the new guy you really only have some good house placements with him and i think for long-term you need much more than just some house overlays (and yours are not so great.) the 1st and 5th house are more ideal for emotional/romantic connections and the 7th/8th are more about sexual interest and forming partnerships; they are not as emotionally-driven as the first/fifth and will not bring the same depth/romance to the relationship.

two of his planets - the mutable gemini ones- are sitting all alone without any impact from your planets. if you look at the synastry wheel it'd be more ideal to see your planets clustered together instead of his going around all alone. it shows you aren't touching his planets in a meaningful way. imagine now, a gemini sun girl comes along, with her venus in gemini too. he'd have conjunctions and shared energy with that girl that he doesn't have with you. you're not making contact with some very important planets. at least when you look to the chart with your bf the planets are more closely gathered.

in general, this guy's personal planets do just not mesh well with yours and gemini is a mutable sign, which means his interest will come/go and perhaps even stray. gemini men are the sign of duality remember.

you are very libran i can tell and want that intellectual connection/conversation with this gemini guy, and libra/aries are opposites so are drawn to one another in that way. and the fact you're weighing pros/cons shows that indecisiveness. it just doesn't look good for long-term, imo and the fact his moon/mars aren't impacted by you meaningfully shows that (eventually) interest might wane.

this is just imo - it comes from looking at charts of hundreds of married and dating couples throughout the years and seeing patterns is all.

posted February 13, 2013 12:32 AM            

For you and Andrew, his Pluto conjuncts your Venus which results in him being romantically obsessed with you and intensely attracted, his Uranus is conjunct your Mercury so you will have very wild interesting mental discussions (which his Venus in Aquarius will love) and he will shake you up (Uranus conjunct Sun) Also your Mercury-Sun will find it interesting too. Venus conjunct Descendant you two will be affectionate and romantic to each other he will be your ideal romantic type so you of course will be attracted or just affectionate. His Sun is in your 8th house (while having a Venus-Pluto) so he will shine light to the 8th house manners in the relationship, so I'm guessing this relationship will feel different from others and be intense and very shaking and changing for the better or worse. Mars opposite Neptune doesn't sound to good to me IMO, it could result in the two not having a sexual attraction based on each other's fantasies or the other deceiving each other and resulting in violence or...

posted February 13, 2013 12:37 AM            

((Still on Andrew) his Uranus squares your Mars.. the relationship can be sudden and explosive at times be careful

Chiron Opposite Sun-Mercury is kind of poopy you will feel pain and experience it in the relationship but because of karmic circumstances

posted February 13, 2013 12:43 AM            

His Vertex conjuncts your Mars so you will inspire sexual attraction and desire in him by fate..

there goes his mars conjunct your uranus, which is pretty bad, could be sexually kinky very much or just expolosive and sudden fights

His Mercury squares your Uranus, on a mental level he will find you abrupt or too unstable.. hmm

His Jupiter conjunct your Venus it will expand your affections than usual in a relationship I guess, your love will feel benefitical to yourself

Sun opposite Mars, you could make him feel like you are too aggressive or controlling and try to change him

South Node conjunct Venus in this relationship you will have to learn to use your romances different but it will be familar to you how different you use it

posted February 13, 2013 03:23 AM            

But I am curious about me and new guy with psyche and Eros. --- here is what I found:
My psyche is conjunct my sun/mercury and so is in his 7th house with everything else. And there are a lot of aspects -- trine his moon and mars at 0 degrees, sextule his north node at 4 degrees, sextile his MC at 2 degrees and opposite hi Chiron at 1 degree...there are also lots of inconjuncts and quintiles etc.

His Eros is conjunct his mercury so it's in my 7th house with all the other planets and its also opposite my Jupiter at 2 degrees

My Eros is conjunct my moon and so is also sextile his asc at 0 degrees

His psyche is trine my venus at 0 degrees and square my Chiron at 2 degrees

What do those asteroids mean?

Also don't know if this is important. His juno and ceres are conjunct his venus and thus conjunct my desc. All very close. My juno is conjunct his Neptune. My ceres Is conjunct my uranus and IC and thus trine his ASC

posted February 13, 2013 12:09 PM            

A very good explaination of Eros!

"Psyche can tell us a lot about ourselves and our own journey, but it may take us some time and thought before we become aware of what Psyche symbolically wants to say to us. Delving into our innermost depths can take some time, and reflection. "

posted February 13, 2013 12:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Astroskeptic:
Oh actually my psyche is trine his mars, moon, venus, juno and ceres..all within 4 degrees.
And his psyche is also sextile my juno in 1 degree.
There are actuall too many aspects to list between the asteroid...the grid is full.

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