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posted February 12, 2013 03:33 PM            

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I feel used and hurt from someone I considered a best friend (silly me). In the past few weeks realised a change of behaviour from her side - then I thought 'maybe I'm over-reacting'... But lately she seems to call only when she needs me. I was sick for three days and she did't bother to ask how I was, just called tonight for a favour she needed!
It just hurts to consider someone a good friend just to realise they're manipulative and were 'hanging out' with you for their own reasons!
So, I would like to ask the cards if it is true what I 'think'?

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posted February 12, 2013 04:06 PM            

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I pulled the highpriestess and the 2 of swords for you.

There might be something you either do not know or see or she is withholding from you. Things re not clearcut though.
And the 2 of swords also indicates the feeling of "stalemate" I guess. You need to make a choice, but do not have enough information to do so.

Well, I am pulling a third card as clarification if she only uses you.

I pulled the Queen of cups.
In relation to the other cards this makes me think that she is not inherently "bad", but that she is so concerned with her own Self that there might be no place for someone else.
But then again the Queen of cups *can* be manipulative.

Sorry that I can`t really help you. Maybe someone else will have a better grasp.

BTW I hope you are feeling better.

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posted February 13, 2013 11:54 AM            

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Thank you, Ceridwen!

The interpretation you gave about the Queen of Cups is how, actually, describes her at the moment. As if it's only her now. And, yes, she is not bad but her attitude is really selfish.
It just sometimes, when I'm dealing with such situations, I wonder whether I am the one with the problem or the others...
I decided not let myself get more hurt just 'go with the flow' but stop giving the way I used to.

Be blessed

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posted February 13, 2013 01:03 PM            

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Hi. I asked my cards if your best friend was trustworthy.

Ace of wands
10 of swords
7 of pentacles

Clarification card: death

I did not use a spread but it looks as if this friendship of yours started with a bang...like it was a lot of fun for both you, full of energy. Did she betray you?? Not just being selfish. I asked bc the 10 swords indicates and ending usually with a betrayal involved. Or feeling that you were. And now you are reevaluating your friendship as indicated by the 7 of pents. You are not sure whether you are wasting time with her or not. The death card is telling me your friendship with her is going thru a transformation right now. I honestly don't see anything that tells me she is shady or whatnot. It feels like one of those growing pains that you often see long term friendships go thru. Now I could be wrong and I could be totally wayyyy off here as I'm not psychic, I just read tarot cards. My advice to you based on my cards (please take with a grain of salt) is just hang in there for now. She may be going thru a phase or something at the moment. We all have what I like to call selfish phases lol I went thru this with one of my own best friends last yr. She was so caught up in her marriage and work and I kinda got put to the side for a lil while. She is a good person and I'm a very forgiving soul and so we still talk. Have you tried talking to her and explaining how you feel? Just a thought. Hope this helps. My best wishes to you

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posted February 14, 2013 08:28 AM            

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Hey ShyVirgo!

Thank you for helping
SO TRUE! Our friendship indeed started with LOTS of fun and great energy. It was a big bang for both of us lol
What you said about the 7 of Pents, is exactly what I'm doing at the moment... Just wait and see. I just dislike the feeling of being used. It could be a subconscious thing of mine that make me react like that, idk!
But again, as far as know, there was no betrayal - thank God. OR maybe I am not aware of it! lol
Thanks a lot, again, and be well!!

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posted February 14, 2013 10:32 AM            

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Aww your welcome I feel the need to say there's nothing wrong with feeling the way you do. If you were ok with somone using you, id hafta say you got issues lol I remember what it felt like when my friend would only call me when it was convenient for her so its ok to be upset about it. I kind of felt like my cards were reflecting your emotions since it wasn't a predictive reading, seeing how you asked for insight to your situation. The best thing you can do is listen to your intuition with her yet not judge. No one on this earth is perfect and your intution will tell you whether or not you should continue the friendship. Good luck!

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posted April 16, 2013 12:38 PM            

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@ ShyVirgo,

I wanted to say that you were spot on with that reading. The Death card indicated the end of this 'friendship'. Some things happened (and her behaviour) that made me realise that this was no friendship, unfortunately.

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posted April 16, 2013 03:11 PM            

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Hey,

Sorry you have to go through that Venia. Hang in there . Hope everything sorts itself out for you.

I have a question about your take of the Queen of Cups Cerid. To me she's always the intuitive, 'psychic', but you're the second person I heard the word selfish from to describe this queen..why? Wouldn't that be her reversed? Just wondering where the connection is made . I always view her as caring, an empath, intuitive, etc

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posted April 16, 2013 03:52 PM            

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Thank you, Empress - I guess that's life.

Btw, wanted to say about the QofC before Ceridwen comes in and tells us her point of view.
The QofC is indeed intuitive/sympathetic/sensitive and sometimes psychic, too. But on a negative side, water signs do tend to be manipulative and, specifically, they 'use' emotions to get their way. I think...

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posted April 16, 2013 04:05 PM            

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I just don't see the connection, reversed or ill-dignified absolutely (well, could be - depends on the other cards if any). But thanks for your intake

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posted April 16, 2013 04:41 PM            

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Originally posted by EmpressMendez:
Hey,

Sorry you have to go through that Venia. Hang in there . Hope everything sorts itself out for you.

I have a question about your take of the Queen of Cups Cerid. To me she's always the intuitive, 'psychic', but you're the second person I heard the word selfish from to describe this queen..why? Wouldn't that be her reversed? Just wondering where the connection is made . I always view her as caring, an empath, intuitive, etc

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Well, I was surprised to read my take on her as well here again.
Usually I see her like you do, as empath, intuitive, caring etc.

However, since I do not do reversals, I am relying on the surrounding parts. Here the highpriestess comes up, who can be a sign that something is hidden, secret, something is not known.
But what tilted my interpretation the negative way was probably me being influenced by the description of the situation and only the 2 of swords.

There were two cards, which indicated that something is hidden from view, cannot be seen (the two of swords has a blindfolded woman on it after all!), and so I was wondering what and why. And with the Queen of cups coming up and the context of the question, it might have tilted my interpretation this way.

Also, the queen of cups is very close to emotions, that is true. But I was thinking that she might also be close to HER own emotions, or being simply emotional, and basin actions on a pure emotional level can sometimes mean to be caring for oneself, not the other person.

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posted April 16, 2013 04:54 PM            

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I don't mean to intrude on your thread, but was hoping that you or someone else could pull a few cards for me.
I feel in my spirit that this guy is the one, but I don't understand his actions. I know we share a karmic connection. Listening to music help soothes the pain, it's like a band-aid the relief is temporary. I was hoping someone can pull a few cards for me?. I wonder how he J feels about this whole separation going on between us. Will he ever reach out to me? Do he miss me

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