posted February 17, 2013 07:14 AM            

I've been single for a number of years and hadn't come across anyone I was remotely interested in, and so this has particularly moved me. On no level was I 'looking' for anything.

I told him I liked him a few months in and would like to get to know him better but that I didn't want him to feel obliged to say anything back, so I left the conversation at that. A couple of days later, he came back to me and said that he felt the same, blah blah compliments, but was rubbish with feelings/ females and it didn't feel right to start something now but he would like to get to know me better.

Then, nothing - barely seen him/ spoken to him for about a month. Sent him a text one one occasion, no reply. We live a couple of doors down from each other in a shared flat so it hasn't just been me he's been 'avoiding' but the whole flat. Yes I think it is avoiding rather than just being busy.

My head would say - it's obvious, there's nothing there, get over it. But my heart says differently and I just can't tell it otherwise. I see cap venus and passive pisces and tell myself maybe I just need to be extreeeemeeely patient. But I don't know if I'm deluding myself.

I've had a look at the synastry and I've been avidly following the forum to try and learn all I can. I guess I just want some more informed opinions for peace of mind. I feel like I'm going mad! I'm normally fairly sane and I do my utmost to control my scorp sun/ cancer moon tendencies. I often feel like I'm hiding my true self, rather than managing it though.

posted February 18, 2013 05:40 AM            

Funny you should say that - I have a stray cat that I rehomed after it had been hit by a car, another stray that was going to be destroyed and a blind goat that was going to slaughter (I am a vet)! I am also a commission artist so I tick the arty box! Although I'm aware box-ticking is not enough.

I would say that "I just know" that he likes me. We've been for lunch, coffee, watched a film & visited a museum at his suggestion and to a gig at mine (just the two of us) so I don't think I am imagining it. Other people have separately noticed how much extra attention he gave me.

It was once I told him I liked him that things changed and I got confused. He came back to me voluntarily to say that he felt the same way, had noticed how attractive I was one night when went for dinner when we first met, and that I was what he wanted in a woman BUT that he had a terrible history with relationships (hurt badly) and was no good with his feelings. I think he's very sensitive, has been anorexic previously. He said that although things were not right now, he would like to 'get to know me' and maybe something would happen in the future. All fine and logical to me. But then he completely disappeared off the radar for three weeks! I let him be, thinking he needed time but there's a point when you start to wonder if you're deluding yourself and I think you're right when you suggest that that might be now! It's not what I wanted to hear so I think I was making endless excuses.

Ironically, he materialised in the flat last night and we sat and talked over coffee for an hour or so, about nothing imparticular (life). He seemed extremely stressed over work but I think I need to move on.

For interest, here is the table (easier to read aspects?)