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swampys
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posted February 24, 2013 06:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for swampys     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I feel like sometimes he's exactly what I hate and when I feel that way it's hard for me to just get over it. I'm deeply in love with him I think. And I usually "know" but I question it when he does something to annoy me. He says he wants me to be myself but part of me feels like I'll never be good enough for him. He's the kind of guy who tells me he loves all the girls, and I find that completely disgusting and repulsive. He didn't say anything for me to feel this way right now. I was being curious about somethings and just came across some of his sexuality that I found to be superficial and it made me VERY upset and I'm having trouble getting over it.

I'm the inner chart:

He's the inner chart:

I really need answers right now about why I feel these things. I don't want to hate him. I've known him for a little over two years and there was an instant attraction. He became attracted to me pretty quickly, too. Why won't he commit to me? He even told me he likes someone more than me. I don't know if it's just one other girl or multiple other girls, though. It hurts so much. I end up kind of devoting myself to him, too. I think he still likes me based on the ways he talks to me sometimes. Our relationship has been pretty sexual and he said that's gotten in the way of him getting to know me.


Here's my natal chart:

Here's HIS natal chart:

Please! I really am really depressed right now and would like answers quickly. So please don't move this post.

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swampys
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posted February 24, 2013 06:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for swampys     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks...

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Doux Rêve
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posted February 24, 2013 06:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sorry to hear that you're not feeling well.

Do you mind giving more details about your relationship?

Are you two a couple? Or just fwb?

Either way, it seems like he uses you for his own benefit. If he sees other girls on the side and tells you so, he probably doesn't consider you long-term / serious material.

Stand up for yourself if this isn't the relationship you want. If this guy's not treating you well, don't stay.. learn from your mistakes and move on.

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swampys
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posted February 24, 2013 06:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for swampys     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Sorry to hear that you're not feeling well.

Do you mind giving more details about your relationship?

Are you two a couple? Or just fwb?

Either way, it seems like he uses you for his own benefit. If he sees other girls on the side and tells you so, he probably doesn't consider you long-term / serious material.

Stand up for yourself if this isn't the relationship you want. If this guy's not treating you well, don't stay.. learn from your mistakes and move on.


I guess we're more friends with benefits but we have romantic feelings for each other. Like, he can just be intimate with me without being sexual. And when that happens it really goes straight to my head because I feel it so strongly.

Thank you. I think I'm too masochistic to leave, though.

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Doux Rêve
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posted February 24, 2013 07:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Darling, be kind enough to yourself and leave while you can.

This guy is older than you, he sees you as a toy.. no doubt.

He won't ever commit to you.
(Sag Venus conjunct Jupiter & Neptune?! nah..)

Your synastry sure shows sexual attraction but there doesn't seem to be potential for a serious, committed relationship (empty 7th & 8th houses, his Saturn isn't very aspected).

Plus his Saturn conjuncts your Jupiter : he depresses you, plain and simple (no, it doesn't *have* to mean that, but in your case, I think it applies).


If you are not happy with this person, no matter how good the "good" moments are while they last.. it's a waste.of.time.

It's not gonna get better, the only thing that's gonna happen is you getting more and more depressed.

I know it's hard but really, you have to do something to improve your situation. And that means.. letting go.

Look at all the 12th house activity.. it's probably a secret relationship, he hides things from you or you hide things from him; it's not going to be a "happily ever after" kinda story. I'm sorry.


Just take some time to think about what you *really* want, and if it doesn't match your current situation, it's time for change.


All the best ~

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swampys
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posted February 24, 2013 07:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for swampys     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Darling, be kind enough to yourself and leave while you can.

This guy is older than you, he sees you as a toy.. no doubt.

He won't ever commit to you.
(Sag Venus conjunct Jupiter & Neptune?! nah..)

Your synastry sure shows sexual attraction but there doesn't seem to be potential for a serious, committed relationship (empty 7th & 8th houses, his Saturn isn't very aspected).

Plus his Saturn conjuncts your Jupiter : he depresses you, plain and simple (no, it doesn't *have* to mean that, but in your case, I think it applies).


If you are not happy with this person, no matter how good the "good" moments are while they last.. it's a waste.of.time.

It's not gonna get better, the only thing that's gonna happen is you getting more and more depressed.

I know it's hard but really, you have to do something to improve your situation. And that means.. letting go.

Look at all the 12th house activity.. it's probably a secret relationship, he hides things from you or you hide things from him; it's not going to be a "happily ever after" kinda story. I'm sorry.


Just take some time to think about what you *really* want, and if it doesn't match your current situation, it's time for change.


All the best ~


Thank you!

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Doux Rêve
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posted February 24, 2013 07:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No problem.

Just take care of yourself

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