posted March 18, 2013 04:42 AM            

My boyfriend is 21 years older than me. He is always talking about children, he wants to have a baby. But he is afraid to love and make a commitment. Does his the huge 12th house and planets like Sun, Venus, Mercury in it makes him a commitment-phobic guy who's probably cheats on me?

Here is his natal chart: http://i1309.photobucket.com/albums/s636/mergyte666/sg_zps07ac34d5.jpg

What do you think?

posted March 18, 2013 01:50 PM            

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Originally posted by starfairy:
He has venus square Saturn. He is fearful of partnerships. People with this placement are cautious about commitment.

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Does it mean he will have only not official relationships?

posted March 18, 2013 01:54 PM            

That's just my take on it. Please correct me if Im wrong.

posted March 18, 2013 02:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Lunae:
I agree wih starfairy.. that may be a another factor. Venus is also squaring the ruler of his 8th house Sagittarius. Maybe he is afraid to commit because he may feel that it restricts his freedom in terms of intimacy. His Uranus in the 5th trining his Venus may also indicate that need for freedom in relationships. His scorpio moon in the 7th house may also contribute to that Venus-Saturn square, where he feels cautious about entering relationships/partnerships in general.

That's just my take on it. Please correct me if Im wrong.

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I think you are right! He said he is afraid to fall in love. He wants to be with me but just like friends.

He is a pilot he has a lot freedom always not at home he likes to travel alone. I should say strange guy I think he has a woman in every country

posted March 18, 2013 02:54 PM            

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Originally posted by strongwoman:
I think you are right! He said he is afraid to fall in love. He wants to be with me but just like friends.

He is a pilot he has a lot freedom always not at home he likes to travel alone. I should say strange guy I think he has a woman in every country

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I guess his choice of career is reflected through the ruler of the 9th (foreign travel) in his 10th (career). It makes sense that he made his love for travel a career.

His saturn is also making a sextile aspect to his moon, so I guess it also makes sense that he will encounter a lot of women (moon) in the span of his career. As for cheating.. Well. I'm not saying he's prone to cheating per se, but his 5th house ruler which is the sun, is in the 12th and it's trining uranus in the 5th. I think he may be easily bored with status quo and may seek excitement but may not readily show it. I'm not really sure though if the sun in the 12th in the natal is a surefire sign indicator of cheating. I do know that in a composite, it may indicate a hidden affair.

Hope this helped

posted March 18, 2013 11:34 PM            

Commitment issues are deep rooted. And, 21 years older then you....beware.

Commitment phobic men often seek out relationships with vulnerable, younger, or unavailable women. It allows them to keep a sense of control and freedom. Younger women are more likely to put up with their games because they simply don't have the experience to see through these type of games. Vulnerable women are easy pickings and will be less prone to question their stalling tactics and manipulations to keep a woman on the hook without a commitment. Unavailable women are perfect, they can't commit anyway. Seen a few men disappear when their unavailable woman suddenly becomes available.

Don't chase. It never works. If a guy loves you, he will come back and the sooner you stop chasing, the sooner he will realize this and take action. If he doesn't love you, good riddance. Either way, live your life, be present with what is in front of you and open yourself to the kind of love you want to attract.

posted March 19, 2013 11:22 AM            

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Originally posted by rosedl:

It doesn't matter what sign the man is...

Commitment issues are deep rooted. And, 21 years older then you....beware.

Commitment phobic men often seek out relationships with vulnerable, younger, or unavailable women. It allows them to keep a sense of control and freedom. Younger women are more likely to put up with their games because they simply don't have the experience to see through these type of games. Vulnerable women are easy pickings and will be less prone to question their stalling tactics and manipulations to keep a woman on the hook without a commitment. Unavailable women are perfect, they can't commit anyway. Seen a few men disappear when their unavailable woman suddenly becomes available.

Don't chase. It never works. If a guy loves you, he will come back and the sooner you stop chasing, the sooner he will realize this and take action. If he doesn't love you, good riddance. Either way, live your life, be present with what is in front of you and open yourself to the kind of love you want to attract.

Good luck!

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posted March 20, 2013 08:32 AM            

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Originally posted by rosedl:

It doesn't matter what sign the man is...

Commitment issues are deep rooted. And, 21 years older then you....beware.

Commitment phobic men often seek out relationships with vulnerable, younger, or unavailable women. It allows them to keep a sense of control and freedom. Younger women are more likely to put up with their games because they simply don't have the experience to see through these type of games. Vulnerable women are easy pickings and will be less prone to question their stalling tactics and manipulations to keep a woman on the hook without a commitment. Unavailable women are perfect, they can't commit anyway. Seen a few men disappear when their unavailable woman suddenly becomes available.

Don't chase. It never works. If a guy loves you, he will come back and the sooner you stop chasing, the sooner he will realize this and take action. If he doesn't love you, good riddance. Either way, live your life, be present with what is in front of you and open yourself to the kind of love you want to attract.

Good luck!

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I just wanted say yesterday we broke up. He said we could be only good friends. I'm too perfect woman to him. He's afraid that I will leave him because of the other man. Afraid to fail in relationships. I think he is in love still with his previous ex-girldfriend. And I think he will never be married. Now he is in a very tough situation his sister died. I suggested to help him but he refused and end the relationship.

Thank you for your help it was very valuable for me to understand my situation clearly.

posted March 20, 2013 08:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Lunae:
I guess his choice of career is reflected through the ruler of the 9th (foreign travel) in his 10th (career). It makes sense that he made his love for travel a career.

His saturn is also making a sextile aspect to his moon, so I guess it also makes sense that he will encounter a lot of women (moon) in the span of his career. As for cheating.. Well. I'm not saying he's prone to cheating per se, but his 5th house ruler which is the sun, is in the 12th and it's trining uranus in the 5th. I think he may be easily bored with status quo and may seek excitement but may not readily show it. I'm not really sure though if the sun in the 12th in the natal is a surefire sign indicator of cheating. I do know that in a composite, it may indicate a hidden affair.

Hope this helped

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I just wanted say yesterday we broke up. He said we could be only good friends. I'm too perfect woman to him. He's afraid that I will leave him because of the other man. Afraid to fail in relationships. I think he is in love still with his previous ex-girldfriend. And I think he will never be married. Now he is in a very tough situation his sister died. I suggested to help him but he refused and end the relationship.

Thank you for your help it was very valuable for me to understand my situation clearly.