posted March 23, 2013 09:23 PM            

His initials are JT and mine are SD.
What's holding JT from reaching out to me?

I would like a reading. To offer me some insight or some advice

posted March 24, 2013 06:03 AM            

I did a reading for you. I'm going to type while looking at the cards.

What I see for him is that he actually looks at the relationship as very promising. He does see the potential in it for the future. However his behaviour at current is that of letting go, but in the core he sees it as a possible promising and for it to be a for filling relationship. But he will not act on this right now. The current state of your relationship is that of being wary to one another. Rather defensive and taking distance. The message seems to be: 'don't get to close right now'.

How it got this way: I have the 9 of swords in this position which means to me that mostly' thoughts and the nightmares that live in one's mind brought the relationship to this state. Since I put the cards for you I referred this explanation to you. Meaning: it's mainly your fear and worry (and perhaps you spoke your mind about this) that turned the relationship 'defensive', makes him back off.

The instignator of this situation is a focus on devastating circumstances. But I would like to point out most of these 'nightmares' exist mainly in the head. They refer to fears, worries, shame, depression, etc which one can feel completely overwhelmed by. It also points out to me that the focus on this makes him pull away (his behaviour card was the death). Most likely you also project your feelings of fear on him, while not all of your worry is correct.

The basics of the relationship (what brought you together) shows me you actually have a rather fun and playful relationship (page wands) in which you are very fond of each other. It could also be that the way you treat and see each other is 'young'. But perhaps you both are teens or in early 20's?? Or perhaps the relationship started at a young age (one of your first loves?)

What I see for you is that you have the tendency to be very loving. You are literally overflowing with love (ace of cups) and want to surround him with that. Most likely in this case it's too much for him. You are currently smothering him.
Do you see the relationship you have with him as extremely precious? Like it's you two against the world? I also see you would like to hold on to it and are afraid of changes occurring within the dynamics between you. You would like to keep everything the same and hold the love you have close to you.

That brings me to the advice of the cards:
In the near future I see the need for rest and the need for withdrawing. What I also saw in the rest of the cards is you have a tendency to push things at this point. The cards are saying not to do that. I know this can be hard, but he seems to need his space to go through this process alone. That’s also what I see in the outcome position for now. A time needed to be alone (4 of swords).
The advice card was the hierophant. Meaning you should get a higher perspective of the situation. So not to only look at what this means for you and the future of the relationship, but to also look at the overall picture and not to let your emotions take the best of you. He needs to do this on his own and needs the time. The cards are advising you to step back for now. Try to see the full picture (and his side of the story) and be patient. Because patient is what is needed.

Hope this will be of help. Sorry to hear this is all a bit distressing at the moment

posted March 24, 2013 08:59 AM            

You are very welcome. Sorry to hear you are heartbroken Always so painful

Is he 17 years older or are you?
As for how he perceives the relationship: I wouldn't doubt the feelings he has (and has showed to you). That was real. He sees the value of that.
Since it was the ace of pentacles on that position I still feel I should say there's no 'promise' that he will actually act on those feelings. Aces always show the potency that is available.

I hope you can soothe your mind a bit. I can imagine it's difficult not speaking to him at all now

Wished I could offer some more words of comfort, but in my experience that never really helps. So therefore sending you heaps of 'virtual chocolate' ;-)

posted April 08, 2013 11:00 AM            

Saw you posted a horary about you relationship. I can't read those, but would it help if I did you a reading about what is wise? Should you pursuit or let go? Perhaps it can give you some peace.

For the other reading I have done for you, I still expect him to contact you at some point (4 of swords is always a temporary silence in my experience). This still doesn't mean you would be together though as I explained before (the potency in aces).

If you want me to look what's best for you, I'll happily read. Just let me know.

posted April 08, 2013 02:11 PM            

Hi Beijing,

I’m going to do this the same as last time; look at the cards and type my impressions. Before I’ll start the reading I would like to say (without my cards) that no man should make you feel this awful or at the very least take the time to ‘man up’ and have a clear talk of the situation so you at least know where you stand. Having written this down, I’m sure you thought of that before, but it can be so hard when you are very much in love. So I’ll just continue with what the cards say at this point
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I can see you still want him (in the cards! I of course saw that on the boards also . As for why you want him back in your life I expect you see him as your future husband. Is that correct? In your eyes he is someone you can build a life together with. You feel he would provide you safety, stability and be there for you on all levels and build something ‘long lasting’ together. The ‘growing old together’-ideal.
For the possibilities on reconnecting at this moment:
I don’t see any action you can take now to get him back to you. The situation is out of your hands and the key actually lies in you releasing the situation, given it ‘to the universe to take over’ so to speak. That’s what I gained from the World card. Many meanings of course, but on this position I read it as endings and moving on.
Why the cards are advising you this:
The mayor obstacle is the chariot; he has locked his emotions out (what you already noticed) and it practising his willpower. Whatever he did set his mind too (perhaps his marriage, because the next card is the Queen of Pentacles) this will be his path. Keeping himself under control and focussing on what he thinks is best. For you that would mean it’s impossible to get him to open up. He would be completely stubborn, would not let himself distracted and will not be open to your approach. Also the queen of cups came up here as a clarifier. Is his wife a queen of cups type? The sensitive, more emotional female?

If you would pursuit and push at this point it will for certain not give you the satisfaction that you seek. Cards showing: hermit, 9 of cups + 7 of pentacles. He won’t let you in right now. He is searching deep within himself how this situation occurred and looking for answers. He is preoccupied with his own emotions at the time and he is not willing to share them at this point. Nine of cups fella is in my experience quite often content with himself and protecting his emotions. He doesn’t fold his arms over his chest without a reason. I still can’t see what action he will take towards you in the end. I can see he is not satisfied with himself and the situation he is in (with you and his wife I assume), but he just doesn’t know if and how he will take action it. It will take a long time before he decides. Meaning: if you would push yourself on him at this point he a) don’t think he will let you (the cards show no reason to think that). And b)even if you did, he is going to wonder (and doubt and ponder) if this was the correct decision. So he wouldn’t be content with a relationship with you (but again: I don’t think he will even let you in at this point). He still needs his inward journey & shutting of his emotions while over thinking how he wants to move forward. Bottom line: he is not ready and you can’t make him.
Overall advice:
So actually I still don’t see an outcome for the two of you being together as for now. Which was what you wanted to know in the first place. The cards are definitely telling me you should move forward, complete this phase and let him go. The cards advice you to reconnect with your inner strength. Nurture yourself and your emotions (instincts), because the Strength did also show up.