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Topic: Moving in together - your thoughts please please
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sonicpixie
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posted March 26, 2013 01:26 PM
  
My boyfriend and me have been in a relationship for 2 years now. There's a strong possibility of moving in together this year because he now has a steady job. We already tried living together last spring, but couldn't make it financially. We don't live in the same town, but we have succesfully kept this relationship alive in spite of being together only on weekends and I am the one who has to move to his town.I think we have an interesting relationship, though we are quite different on the outside we have a feeling of familiarity and share many interests and hopes. He's an extremely quiet person with emotional blockages which sometimes tickles my inner mistrustful child - possibly due to our double-whammy chiron connection. Seems to me I am able to heal him of past wounds and he is able to remind me of my own. Also due to his passive nature, I am the one who does most work in our relationship when it comes to planning, communicating etc.. Please tell me your thoughts.
I am attaching a current progressed composite (grand trine during whole year 2013), and our synastry chart.   IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted March 26, 2013 01:38 PM
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sonicpixie
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posted March 26, 2013 04:06 PM
Thank you for welcoming me. Hope someone would answer my humble request. :-(IP: Logged |
andstuff
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posted March 26, 2013 05:42 PM
Hey just wanted to say I love your username Theoretically a water grand trine is good for emotional connection And check the asteroids out, this might be fun
http://tribes.tribe.net/mooninscorpio/thread/f5f2b071-962c-4c2f-826e-be6cad6a3479 IP: Logged |
sonicpixie
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posted March 26, 2013 05:49 PM
Thanks, it's a combination of Sonic youth and Pixies band names.I don't know how to find my psyche. My eros is aquarius and his is leo, which I knew already and I like the combination. I hope for some more insight since it is a big step for me, moving to a different region and starting a new life as a couple. IP: Logged |
starmoon
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posted March 26, 2013 11:16 PM
just my opinions... :-) your synastry chart w/this guy has some nice aspects. you have a very close moon-mars conjunction, which is a really great indicator of romance and commitment from the guy. assuming you have the birth time correct for both you also have your moon sitting almost right atop his ASC; that is huge, and shows quite an emotional connectedness (even a soul connection) between you. your sun and moon signs are also in the same sign, which is often found between couples. your sun and venus are housed in the 12th and do not overlay his houses well, in fact you guys don't have anything going on in the houses except for his sun/pluto falling into your 1st house. that's ok, but i'm not sure for long-term how that would play out. i think for true romance you need some connection in the 5/7/8 houses. you do have DSC aspected in the 5th/8th, but those aren't planets w/energies. the trouble spot i see in synastry is the venus conjunct uranus in scorpio. it looks to be at a wide degree, but anything w/venus and uranus is unstable, or at least feels that way. it's sexually very compelling but not so great for stability. the composite isn't too bad, you do have the conjunction between sun-mercury and a trine from moon to venus, but you also have a lot of uranus and again, uranus conjunct venus, so lots of potential instability in the relationship. it could be the uranus-venus conjunct that has kept you guys apart thus far... that aspect is kind of push-pull in many ways and when one partner feels strongly the other back offs and vice-versaIP: Logged |
sonicpixie
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posted March 27, 2013 06:59 AM
Than you so much Starmoon for continuing this discussion.Agreed about the Venus-Uranus conjunction. It is actually in HIS natal chart and it does worry me a bit and yes, we started this relationship long distance and it still is. He always had relationship with women outside his town, even his ex-wife. He is from a smaller town so maybe it's logical since he knows most people in his town already.
I have been reassured by him and his friends that he is a loyal partner, never was unfaithful.
I read about this natal conjunction and it is also interpreted as giving the person unusual tastes, unusual preferences when it comes to choosing a partner. We as a couple may seem a bit unusual, very different on the outside, our behaviour, even very different physically. He likes overweight women and I fit that description. So I'm comforting myself like this :-D
When you look at his chart without knowing him and see this conjunction + venus in first house you may think he's quite a charmer, but he is far from it. blocked emotions, undemonstrative, not flirty or seductive at all and quite serious when it comes to relationships.
He is reluctant to commit legally - get married because once he did it too quickly and that marriage lasted less than a year. He knew right away it wouldn't last but did it anyway because the woman was mentally ill (another unusual choice of partner) and he couldn't leave her, betray her. Later the same illness came to a point where he really couldn't stand it anymore. The point is he tried really hard to stay with her, to stay with the sinking ship and I admire that even if it now seems unrealistic and silly. So that's another reason for me not to fear that aspect. Moon connections are obvious and we feel it deeply. Even our two moons squared don't bother me that much - this again confirms we are quite different in some everyday preferences, activities, habits, but we're also tolerant people I think... Are house overlays that important? It's true we have overlays of a more friendly than romantic nature. If his sun and pluto enter my 1st house does it mean he has more impact and power over me than vice versa? This dynamic is so interesting to me - seems like I'm the planner, the one who does things, but he has some hidden power in him and I feel it, I respect this power even if he is not showing it openly. IP: Logged |
starmoon
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posted March 27, 2013 01:58 PM
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Originally posted by sonicpixie:
Than you so much Starmoon for continuing this discussion.Agreed about the Venus-Uranus conjunction. It is actually in HIS natal chart and it does worry me a bit and yes, we started this relationship long distance and it still is. He always had relationship with women outside his town, even his ex-wife. He is from a smaller town so maybe it's logical since he knows most people in his town already.
I have been reassured by him and his friends that he is a loyal partner, never was unfaithful.
I read about this natal conjunction and it is also interpreted as giving the person unusual tastes, unusual preferences when it comes to choosing a partner. We as a couple may seem a bit unusual, very different on the outside, our behaviour, even very different physically. He likes overweight women and I fit that description. So I'm comforting myself like this :-D
When you look at his chart without knowing him and see this conjunction + venus in first house you may think he's quite a charmer, but he is far from it. blocked emotions, undemonstrative, not flirty or seductive at all and quite serious when it comes to relationships.
He is reluctant to commit legally - get married because once he did it too quickly and that marriage lasted less than a year. He knew right away it wouldn't last but did it anyway because the woman was mentally ill (another unusual choice of partner) and he couldn't leave her, betray her. Later the same illness came to a point where he really couldn't stand it anymore. The point is he tried really hard to stay with her, to stay with the sinking ship and I admire that even if it now seems unrealistic and silly. So that's another reason for me not to fear that aspect. Moon connections are obvious and we feel it deeply. Even our two moons squared don't bother me that much - this again confirms we are quite different in some everyday preferences, activities, habits, but we're also tolerant people I think... Are house overlays that important? It's true we have overlays of a more friendly than romantic nature. If his sun and pluto enter my 1st house does it mean he has more impact and power over me than vice versa? This dynamic is so interesting to me - seems like I'm the planner, the one who does things, but he has some hidden power in him and I feel it, I respect this power even if he is not showing it openly.
i actually have several of his placements, the libra sun, the libra mars and the cap moon and if he says he likes you and has always been a faithful partner i'd believe it. cap moon is very emotionally restricted/reserved and no, not charming, but someone that loves deeply (the scorpio mars). cap moons are actually very powerful and sensitive in relationships, and have a guardedness about them, like a wall that needs to be broken down with time. i think house overlays are important when looking at long-term partnerships, because you want someone to see you in terms of marriage and partnership; they don't have to be in place for marriage/partnership to happen, but it helps strengthen bonds for sure, and puts couples on the same page. it also opens up the way in which a partner sees you and what they bring to the relationship. with this sun in your first house i would expect that he feels that connection more. (others say the house person feels it more, it's debatable). he likely sees you in a very positive light, and as attractive, perhaps his ideal in many ways. it's a nice placement to have for reciprocal attraction IP: Logged |
sonicpixie
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posted March 27, 2013 02:36 PM
Yes, 3 personal planests in same sign as him. Definitely, he is emotionally reserved and extremely guarded - quiet, undemonstrative - the wall is definitely there for everybody all the time, even I have to climb over it, but at least he's letting me do it :-D. He claims he would NEVER forgive me if I were unfaithful, that he wouldn't even say hello to me anymore, which led me to believe I can expect him to be faithful as well. House overlays are interesting indeed - who has more influence the planet person or the house person is debatable as you say yet I've read many times that it is either mutual or the planet person is the one inflicting the planets properties onto house person as he/she is the 'receiver'. He did say at the very beginning that he sees me as an ideal woman for him while I didn't see him as an ideal partner for me, but I am capable of adjusting my expectations and try to be realistic when I love someone. BTW how come some aspects are not shown on the synastry wheel on Astro.com , but it is listen in the PDF data. Like my Mars trine his Venus? Is it just the size of the orb?  IP: Logged |
sonicpixie
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posted March 27, 2013 02:57 PM
This is a quote form cafeastrology:
It can take students of astrology a bit of time to wrap their brains around the concept of house overlays in synastry. In order to get a clear understanding of the effects of house overlays (or transposed houses as they are often called), I have found it easiest to think about it this way: When somebody's Sun or Moon (or other planet) falls in a particular house in my natal chart, it is much like that person has the effect of a permanent transit to that house in my natal chart! If your Sun falls in my eighth house, for example, when I interact with you, it is somewhat like the Sun is transiting my eighth house, highlighting and illuminating 8th house issues for me. Similarly, if my Sun falls in your third house, I have a similar effect on your life as the Sun transiting your third house.IP: Logged | |
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