posted March 28, 2013 11:40 AM            

I have never had a guy friend, he's my first. I love talking to him but there's just one problem. He really wants to have sex with me and he told me that he wants to be FWB but I don't think I can do that (I'm afraid I'll get too attached). I'm a virgin, he knows that I want to do it, we talk about sex alot, that's why I love talking to him. He's the only friend who I'm not afraid to open up to when it comes to that subject. I told him that I want to lose it to someone I REALLY love. He says it's fine, he's alright with that but I can tell he really wants to do it with me.

But he is SO GOOD at trying to convince me & sometimes I have a feeling like he is trying to change my mind...Half of me says:'why not give in to him' but the other says no. Last night I was going to cut contact with him but he convinced me to stay friends with him. I always try to leave, but somehow I always stay. I'm afraid that if I stay friends with him much longer, then I will give in & I'll get hurt in the end.

what in this synastry chart stands out the most?

Based on this chart, is he only talking to me because he wants sex? If I do give in then wth are we going to be?

His Time of birth is unknown. I'm on the inside, his on the outside.

posted March 28, 2013 04:54 PM            

I am going to tell you NEVER let a man (or anyone for that matter) try to change your mind about something that you KNOW you don't want to do.

I understand this must be difficult and how flattering it must be to know that someone is attracted to you in that way.

To me, it sounds like he is definitely running game. He knows you are a virgin, and are the first to really open up to someone. All guys do not have a way of using people--but please stick to what YOU want to do.

If you want to share yourself with someone you love--do it for you. Listen, he's already had his first time, so that moment is fleeting for him. You, however, have to live with that moment so make sure you are doing this for yourself and not because someone else wants you to.

posted March 28, 2013 08:26 PM            

I think my problem is this: In my naive little mind, sleeping with him would equal him falling in love with me & wanting to stay with me. Which is in real life NEVER the case. I don't think his into relationships. In the end, I'll just feel used.

posted March 28, 2013 09:43 PM            

Would it be possible for you to get his birth time?

I don't want to see you be hurt by this guy! Which I know is strange--b/c I'm a stranger on an astrology website. Still, I feel that you are torn and I can understand that. Sex doesn't make anyone love you. But people can love having sex with you.

OK. I'm going to stop now, because I feel I've already said too much! If you get the birth time, cool.

posted March 28, 2013 11:23 PM            

I think part of why I'm in this situation is because I never grew up with a father figure. Never received love & affection from a male, so for me having a guy friend for the first time, giving me attention did kind of make me feel good. But I think that this is the bad kind of good...He doesn't love me for me. He just wants the sex. It makes me feel bad but oh well.

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Originally posted by lotus_flower:
Hi Milly (again!)

Would it be possible for you to get his birth time?

I don't want to see you be hurt by this guy! Which I know is strange--b/c I'm a stranger on an astrology website. Still, I feel that you are torn and I can understand that. Sex doesn't make anyone love you. But people can love having sex with you.

OK. I'm going to stop now, because I feel I've already said too much! If you get the birth time, cool.

I wish you luck! :-)

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posted March 29, 2013 12:02 AM            

Oh yes venus opposite pluto. I've read the descriptions of that aspect. It ain't pretty that's for sure.

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Originally posted by starmoon:
if you don't know his time of birth you won't know his moon with certainty and you won't know how your planets and his interact in the houses, with overlays. but you can still know his sun/venus/mars sign as long as you have the place of birth and date correct. so, assuming you do, you guys have two things which stand out. a venus-mars conjunction (orb unknown) and a pluto opposite venus. both of those are sexual attraction indicators and are generally felt by both people, depending on the orb of the conjunction. so, there would be sexual interest from both of you, especially you since it's your mars affected (the planet most 'driven' of the two), and venus opposite pluto can lead to some very intense feelings that may or not fade with time. the chart doesn't show long-term aspects ... it shows some degree of attraction, but w/out birth time you cannot know for sure. and even with birth time you cannot be sure ... nothing is 100%. you have a pisces moon, which is highly sensitive and interested in romance and being romanced and love and fairy tales ... be sure that the person you are with or looking for will appeciate that aspect of your natal chart. good luck :-)

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posted March 29, 2013 11:02 AM            

His Sun is on your IC, so I think that explains why you probably feel so comfortable with him and open enough to talk with him about personal things. Also, I don't know if you've seen Lotis White's posts on 5th, 7th, and 8th house synastry, but she also looks at the houses ruled by the signs on the cusps of those houses, and they act as secondary houses. So, for example, you've got Gemini on your fifth house cusp, but he doesn't have any planets in there. However, in your third house (ruled by Gemini) he has his Mercury and Venus there. Your third house acts as a secondary fifth house, and this might explain your attraction to him, particularly based on your enjoyment of the conversations you have together.

posted March 29, 2013 07:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Alabaster437:
Hey Milly,

His Sun is on your IC, so I think that explains why you probably feel so comfortable with him and open enough to talk with him about personal things. Also, I don't know if you've seen Lotis White's posts on 5th, 7th, and 8th house synastry, but she also looks at the houses ruled by the signs on the cusps of those houses, and they act as secondary houses. So, for example, you've got Gemini on your fifth house cusp, but he doesn't have any planets in there. However, in your third house (ruled by Gemini) he has his Mercury and Venus there. Your third house acts as a secondary fifth house, and this might explain your attraction to him, particularly based on your enjoyment of the conversations you have together.

Unfortunately, it's hard to say what effect you have on him without his birth time. But, I do think you should follow what your gut is telling you, especially since you guys both want different sort of relationships right now. I think only time will tell as to what his real motivations are. Personally, I'd be a little angry that he's so hung up on my virginity, like it's some sort of prize lol, but some guys are like that. Anyways, go with what feels right to you. You want someone who will respect your decisions, not try to change them

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