posted April 14, 2013 12:17 PM            

With his neptune conjucting my sun, I can't form a stable opinion of him...he morphs between two people from my past, one who was a sleazebag who really hurt me, and an ex-boyfriend who I hurt...and then sometimes I idealize him too, even though he is acting questionable behind his wife's back.

So I've worked out a half-fictitious story plot and I'm wondering if it might actually reflect his inner conflicts based on his chart. I know this is highly speculative, but I was just curious about what you guys (who know more about astrology) thought. In real life, his wife died at a young age from a chronic illness. I saw him speak at a 10 yr memorial function and oddly, he did not refer to her by name or mention that she had been his wife. It struck me as really weird, and I couldn't figure out if he was still really wounded from it and was trying to distance himself emotionally b/c he didn't want to show that side of himself (his moon is square his mars). In my story, it turns out that he was having an affair and the wife found out about it just prior to her diagnosis. He never forgave himself because he felt responsible for her illness (Saturn), which, now years later, causes him to seek out women, flirt with them, and break it off suddenly to prove his devotion to his deceased wife. What do you guys think? Do you see any other trends that would reflect a hidden side, other conflicts, etc? I also thought that he saw me as some sort of manifestation of his deceased wife because in the beginning, he wouldn't pay any attention to me when we were around each other, but when I was getting ready to leave he'd come after me or make an effort to say thing ("goodbye" issues). I looked up her birthday and she turned out to be an Aries. I'm not very Aries at all but my mars is in Aries and I'm very Aries in the context that we see each other, so there might be a little something karmic here too. Here are the links to his chart and our synastry

posted April 14, 2013 12:32 PM            

Honestly, I need to know more about your story and it's themes to know if he even works as a character in it.

At first brush, a double Aries / lunar Virgo can be several things. I'd ultimately be more interested if he were leading a double life with murderous consequences, but, hey. I'm a mystery / thriller writer in the transgressive field.

What else can you tell me?

posted April 14, 2013 06:33 PM            

Hi AMP-

I forgot to mention that I don't know the guy's birth time, so his ascendant and the houses are probably wrong. This makes everything harder...ugh

Funny you should mention the murderous theme. I posted a little blurb about him in another forum awhile ago (before some of the stuff I describe below happened), and a guy replied that he sounded exactly like someone in a non-fiction murder story he had read!

The gist of my story is that the main character reads "The Psychopath Test" by Jon Ronson (a good book, by the way) and becomes paranoid that both her boyfriend (a perpetually grumpy radical environmental extremist who admits to drowning stray cats in the bathtub because they kill native birds) and her strange flirtatious married friend (an environmental researcher who studies the same problem that the boyfriend is passionate about) are both psychopaths. In fact, she (aka me) has had two psychopaths in her life, though thankfully, not the murderous type: my father, a gambling addict and embezzler who even swindled a chunk of money from my grandparents (who were really good-hearted, hard working people BTW), and then in college, a mentor who turned out to be a druggy sexual harassing ******* . These experiences have left me perpetually suspicious. (so all of this so far is based on actual experience, but from here on out is not). Meanwhile, there's a third guy in the story who has professional connections with the married guy and knows the main character, and while he *seems* totally normal, he is the real psychopath (and CEO of an evil chemical company). She eventually realizes that her interest in the married guy is due to the fact that she never self-actualized, and after a kiss they exchange goes awry and leads to a huge misunderstanding between them (because they never actually talk to one another...and he was supposed to "dump" her to remain "faithful" to his deceased wife), she realizes that she needs to break with both him and her boyfriend, quit her menial job, and head out on a environmental mission that leads her straight to the real psychopath. The boyfriend and the married guy each pursue her, thinking that she is in trouble with the other one, until his current wife goes after her husband and winds up inadvertently saving us all from the real threat, the psychopath...or something like that. The theme being that the difference between the moral character of people fighting for good versus evil is not always that great, at least on the surface.