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Topic: Please Help.. How to get better Socially?
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ayujegeg
Knowflake Posts: 93
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted April 18, 2013 01:27 AM
  
can anybody look at my chart to see why i have a bit of social anxiety when speaking with people I don't know very well. My main concern is that i cant seem to organize and structure sentences to a very good ability like others, its quite obvious when i tell long stories to people for instance, it's quite all over the place and fiery, I just don't have patience with speaking. Another reason is I have a bit of social anxiety and this is why I may not appear clam when trying to speak, i also feel it's because mind is faster than i speak. Another cause is probably lack of self confidence and a natural introversion. But you can be still be introverted and a good communicator because of a strong mercury for instance.I know I have to fix my self confidence up, before i can see improvements socially but was just wondering if it could be afflictions with mercury ruler etc and placements.
Im a bit clumsy with communication cuz i have mercury in sag which is a bad placement, can anybody delve deep into my chart of why i have more difficulty than other people when communicating. I envy people that communicate good. Also it comes up with writing, my writing structure is not very structured and comes up messy. Thanks!
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Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 1610
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 01:30 AM
^^ Why do you say your writing structure is not well structured? I can understand you pretty well.what are your mercury aspects?and sun? IP: Logged |
oops123
Knowflake Posts: 44
From: San Francisco
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 18, 2013 01:31 AM
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ayujegeg
Knowflake Posts: 93
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted April 18, 2013 01:35 AM
i put it in.IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 965
From: walking with my head in the clouds!
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 01:46 AM
Low self-confidence? That could be your S-turn overpowering your Sun there via the square, since S-turn is both diginified and conjunct his own angle. Then Taurus AC and Mars in Cancer, two placements I generally don't find to have good social and communication skills when it concerns unfamiliar people.IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 26962
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2013 01:52 AM
Moving to Personal Readings. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 885
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 02:09 AM
I have been reading some natal charts lately and one astounding thing I notice whenever someone feels frustrated and at their wits end, I look at their chart and I see a t square just about every single time! These t squares really block energy and it leaves people who have them feeling hopeless about some dimension of their lives. I have noticed it in situations involving finding friends or partners. You have moon in Aries/h12 squaring a Capricorn conjunction of Neptune/Uranus in h9. Neptune/Uranus also opposes Mars in Cancer h3 which also squares your moon forming the t square all in cadent houses, and Mars is a troublemaker in your chart because it's debilitated in Cancer anyway. It is in it's fall opposite Capricorn, sign of its exaltation. It might be the culprit in your lack of confidence connecting with people. I believe these planets are giving you the problems connecting more than problems with your 11th house and its sign and rulers. 12 house is connected to self undoing and you seem unhappy with this situation which is a form of undoing. Moon rules the emotions. It is causing distress. It's Venus/Sagittarius in house eight to the rescue since the moon trines it. You must develop optimism and confidence about this situation. It can change. I notice planets in 12 often have trines to planets in eight, hardly ever any to planets in four for some reason. Maybe this means a transformation of some kind is needed and is possible since house 12 reaches out to 8. This is important for 12 since it's energy is difficult to access and can be contained, sort of. You do not want it contained, you want to unleash it so you can accomplish what you want. Conquering demons and the shadow self are important. Figuring out why you are worried and what is holding you back will help. Aries energy is being blocked by Mars and it rules that sign. Mars is depositor of moon and it is very weak by sign and house. It means you must develop assertiveness and initiative to make new friends. You must go up to people, introduce yourself, talk to them. You cannot hide and obsess. That is how 12 house planets cause trouble, by keeping you obsessing to yourself instead of developing what is needed to reach out for what you need to be happy and fulfilled in life. My suggestion is to practice calm confidence and approach people in a friendly way in order to create friendships with them. Do not worry in front of them, that could alienate them. You must exude confidence. Mars trines Scorpio sun/Pluto in h7 which backs up what I said. Conscious effort to develop confidence and courage will win you friends you seek. You must take the first step since your moon is in Aries. Do not be scared of your fiery, pioneering spirit. It is what you need to succeed. IP: Logged |
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