posted June 12, 2013 11:58 PM            

Just curious as to what I need to do to make this new career path a real success. I know hard work and creativity, sure... but I mean more in a business sense. Where do I need to go? Who do I need to look for? Not sure how to narrow down the question. I guess, what do I need to do to really get in there and be successful?

posted June 13, 2013 12:23 AM            

To be honest, you need to change your look. You need to look more grown up. You are not standing out as quality to higher ups. (Are your grades or school that you went to...not
that good)? The higher ups are seeing you blend in as there is nothing making you stand out.

Do something different with your hair.(not trendy. perhaps cut it shorter or not have it so full...that's what i keep getting about ur hair, hope it makes sense)

Buy better quality cloths.
Did you change your purse to a bag (a professional one that will fit large stacks of paper...do so)

You need to first look like your worthy of interviewing and that you belong in that job, but your big career start will happen through networking. You need to start going to organization such as young leaders organization...or whatever you have in your field.

I also see "standing differently" You need to make a presence and have full command...and it's not showing me that you do.

You are smart, but change your vocab. I keep getting that your trying to break out of the cycle of "entry level" look, so to speak and accepting your "new self" as a manager looking self...does that make sense?

So really its all about adapting an older look, an older presence...but you need to back it up and right now your "authority" on issues partianing to your interst of work... is not that strong...you're not standing out from your peers. I really see that you need to "study" your market more..."grow up" your look, and actually get in with people. I see your big career break in 1-2 years. This is not going to happen overnight, mainly because I do not feel that you are ready to fully throw yourself into a new persona.

Hope that helps

posted June 13, 2013 12:26 AM            

Why did he always want to see me? Now that I told his wife, what is mine and his path...together or seperate (either or)

and did she believe me?

posted June 13, 2013 12:28 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
Ok, so my readings are blunt and I try not to think more indepth than what I am kidding

To be honest, you need to change your look. You need to look more grown up. You are not standing out as quality to higher ups. (Are your grades or school that you went to...not
that good)? The higher ups are seeing you blend in as their is nothing making you stand out.

Do something different with your hair.(not trendy. perhaps cut it shorter or not have it so full...that's what i keep getting about ur hair, hope it makes sense)

Buy better quality cloths.
Did you change your purse to a bag (a professional one that will fit large stacks of paper...do so)

You need to first look like your worthy of interviewing, but your big career start will happen through networking. You need to start going to organization such as young leaders organization...or whatever you have in your field.

I also see "standing differently" You need to make a presence and have full command...and it's not showing me that you do.

You are smart, but change your vocab. I keep getting that your trying to break out of the cycle of "entry level" look, sort to speak and accepting your "new self" as a manager looking self...does that make sense?

So really its all about adapting an older look, an older presence...but you need to back it up and right now your "authority" on issues partianing to your interst of work, is not that strong...you're not standing out from your peers. I really see that you need to "study" your market more..."grow up" your look, and actually get in with people. I see your big career break in 1-2 years. This is not going to happen overnight, mainly because I do not feel that you are ready to fully throw yourself into a persona.

Hope that helps

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So... networking? I'm a writer by trade, so I'm not entirely sure how the image aspect would help me in the long run. I guess I get seeming more mature and dressing more the part... but my grades have always been 4.0 or higher, and I got a full scholarship to a top 10 grad program for writing. Is it maybe an attitude thing? I'm prepared for it not to happen overnight for sure. The best things in life take a lot of effort. I know I need to have more confidence, and I'm working hard on that. I guess I don't totally get the clothes thing though. Maybe that ties back into confidence?

posted June 13, 2013 12:33 AM            

People you would ramdonly meet...wouldn't believe that your career is being a writer. Perhaps it's coming off more as "oh, ya, I'm a writer...like non-serious vibe.....like a freelancer)

I'm not saying go out and buy glasses and a leather briefcase...but you actually need to become and look the part of a proffesional.

Where's your work? Why aren't you showing it to be people who matter?????? Start being around people who matter in the industry.
I don't think you've made that leap. To show that you're serious, you need to start joining and showing up for things/events/clubs/etc with those types of people....I can't say I feel a creative vib from you......or even that you are "inspired".....has your life been pretty blah as of late?? You need to surround yourself with people with can change your habits, and get you more "free to just be" adn then your inspiration and creative juices will really start beaming!

You can land a good job in-house at a company writing (not a book) but as a creative underline writer.......I see you in corprate but more of a creative place (but not marketing)

I think your attuide is one of "chip on my shoulder" for some reason...........not about not finding work, but i think more of not having zest in your life and that's flowing over into the way you see your world....thus, start with that joining of groups things I was talking about...I see you feeling "fresher (or perhaps lighter)" about life and natural happiness will start coming to you.

Are you around neg. family members (i see it more to do with family members...or friends, I guess...maybe friends u view as family members?)

You have a lighter energy about you than you is in your current surroundings....thus, networking-meeting new people-encouraging new ways of being you-land job that you will be happy with....again I see it being a process because it's you that has to change. You can put yourself into new places/meet new people..........but I keep getting that it's you that has to change.......hope that makes sense

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Originally posted by beccathelion:
So... networking? I'm a writer by trade, so I'm not entirely sure how the image aspect would help me in the long run. I guess I get seeming more mature and dressing more the part... but my grades have always been 4.0 or higher, and I got a full scholarship to a top 10 grad program for writing. Is it maybe an attitude thing? I'm prepared for it not to happen overnight for sure. The best things in life take a lot of effort. I know I need to have more confidence, and I'm working hard on that. I guess I don't totally get the clothes thing though. Maybe that ties back into confidence?

ps: i'm all for blunt. if you can't say it the first time and say it right... what can you do, you know?

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posted June 13, 2013 12:35 AM            

That makes a lot of sense now actually. Thanks for the clarification. What can I read for you?

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Originally posted by cherful24:
Well, it's like this....

People you would ramdonly meet...wouldn't believe that your career is being a writer. Perhaps it's coming off more as "oh, ya, I'm a writer...like non-serious vibe.....like a freelancer)

I'm not saying go out and buy glasses and a leather briefcase...but you actually need to become and look the part of a proffesional.

Where's your work? Why aren't you showing it to be people who matter?????? Start being around people who matter in the industry.

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posted June 13, 2013 12:48 AM            

Aboeut me and "him"...I told his wife in the nicest email about his behavior. I can't believe I did that, but I was at my breakig point with him. I never had an affair....he had an emotional one with me for sure...

So, now I want to know what's next...do we have a path togther...is he going to stay in this marrriage...what does he want with me........if we don't, when can I finally move on and bring my soulmate/marriage guy into the pic!

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Originally posted by beccathelion:
I definitely do minimize what I do... that's for damn sure. I can get better about that. I'm still in grad school; I graduate in September, and I'm in the middle of a thesis for a different genre, so it's been a sort of weird middle ground. I am signing up for UCLA's certificate program, just to make sure my resume is up to date (I got my undergrad in tv writing, but it wouldn't help to get an extra laurel.) I just feel like a novice, because I still haven't hit the real world, but I guess you are what you think you are... so I should start thinking I'm actually a professional.

That makes a lot of sense now actually. Thanks for the clarification. What can I read for you?

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posted June 13, 2013 01:06 AM            

Relevant past: 3 of Cups
How you feel about situation: Judgment
Immediate present: Death

How you want to feel: King of Pentacles
Environment: 3 of Wands
Advice: 9 of Wands
Future outcome: 8 of Swords (clarifier Emperor)

Seems to me you are the one with the power here. You hold more of the strings than you think, but you're conflicted given that there was/is an emotional link. However, you're starting to feel like you are being taken advantage of... but only because you can't see what's coming down the pike. I get the sense that you are planner and an intuitive. You hit your arrows dead center, and you rarely make a misstep, which isn't to say you have now... but this guy sort of blindsided you a bit. Or the situation at least. Maybe it went faster than you planned. Might be some latent guilt given the 3 of Cups. Always shows an affair for me, but I think you are taking serious solace in the fact that things go how they go; Judgment says you're putting your faith that things play out how they should, and regardless of the outcome, there's a lesson to be learned and thankful for.

That said, things are ending. But not immediately. He's gonna keep trying, and I think you're gonna get a little sucked back in... more out of guilt than anything. I get the sense you want to be settled and that it's growing strong (obviously you said sole mate) but I get it in more of a "let's get a house, let's get a dog, let's get our security rolling" way. Keep planning for that. You don't need your soul mate with you to set up the framework. He's coming, but something about this spread tells me you have to do some prep work for his arrival. 4 majors in this spread... this is a life lesson that's big. Learn to embrace the unknown both within yourself and the world around you.

Advice is stand on your own feet and wear the slight like a badge of honor. Learn from it (and if there hasn't been a slight yet, there's one coming. Be ready.) It'll be tough, and you are gonna want to internalize it... because you respect this man. Or did. Is he older? Or reminds you of your father. An older man and your self worth are bound here. Overcome it. Let Death work its endings AND its beginnings in your life.

You're on the cusp of something. I give it a year. 7 months and you meet him. A year until anything starts to happen. It sucks right now, but the one thing I can't shake is goodness coming down the pike. Transformative. Important.

Hope this helps. Good luck!!!

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Originally posted by cherful24:

Aboeut me and "him"...I told his wife in the nicest email about his behavior. I can't believe I did that, but I was at my breakig point with him. I never had an affair....he had an emotional one with me for sure...

So, now I want to know what's next...do we have a path togther...is he going to stay in this marrriage...what does he want with me........if we don't, when can I finally move on and bring my soulmate/marriage guy into the pic!

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