posted June 23, 2013 05:21 PM            

However, the irony (is it irony?) is that it turns out, they are professional friends. Close friends, in fact -- so I see him around often. For example, we went to his b-day celebration.

Why does he affect me? He shouldn't. Now I try to avoid him and that's making it weirder.

posted June 23, 2013 11:22 PM            

Mars conjunct Pluto, WOO!

It really is no wonder you find this guy so electrifying, and it is highly likely he feels the same way about you.

posted June 24, 2013 02:57 AM            

However, it took us both a long time of looking from a distance before we spilled the beans. Maybe 6-9 months of across the room glances (we saw each other roughly 2x a month out dancing at the same place). I was always involved with someone or he was... or he was very drunk and I don't drink, etc.

Anyway, my friend knew I was crushing on him big time. So one weekend I wasn't out and he approached her and asked about me. He apparently said, "she's really beautiful" and she was like "You need to talk to her because she thinks you're hot!"

We were already FB friends, so he messaged me his number. Well, that particular night I was having ex-boyfriend drama and I was emotionally not available/ready to talk, so I blew him off. At the time, he drank a lot so I wasn't even sure if I wanted to get involved. Thankfully, he has since stopped and has been alcohol free for about a year.

The next time I tried to contact him, he was having ex-girlfriend drama, so it faded. However, the next time I saw him out dancing, I walked up and said hello and hugged him. He squeezed me around the waist really low and pulled me in tight... we had a moment just staring at each other and he apologized for being forward. I said "no worries, I invite you to manhandle me anytime" and then I slyly walked off to meet my bestie on the dance floor...

I was hoping to see him later so we could talk, but he left early.

There is more to tell -- must charge my phone!!

posted June 24, 2013 05:27 AM            

April was his b-day, and we had fallen out of touch, so I sent him a FB message and said, "Happy birthday! You are the epitome of a sexy Aries man". He responded, "thank you" and that was it. As it turns out, he was back with his ex. I gave up at that point. But I was so intrigued by him... something in his gaze just tells me I should know him.

Two weeks later, at a completely different venue at a show in a different part of town, I met my current partner and it was like WOW! (my relationship is the best I've ever been in, so there are no issues there). As soon as I saw him, it was like, "you're my future husband" where in the earlier scenario it was more like "wow, I have to know you".

Well the unlikeliness of all things happened and it turns out they're friends! *headslap*

They were having an after work drink together and my partner was talking with my former interest about how wonderful, beautiful... blah blah... all the things guys say when they first meet you. At some point in the conversation, they figured out I was the girl that interest #1 let go of before interest #2 came into the picture.

Awkward!

But it all worked out and we're all friends now.

So fast forward to a year later (April 2013). Birthday party time (oy vey)! Well, since we're all friends and I've settled happily into my relationship, I baked him his cake and we both go (me & my partner) to his b-day celebration.

I had run into him occasionally while out dancing or in passing while he's with my partner, but this was the first time we really had a moment. I greeted him with a hug and it was hard to let go, to be quite honest. But I did & I only wished him happy birthday without the innuendos from the previous year. *lol*

But he looked at me and said he was so happy that I had shown up. He seemed genuinely moved. He looked at me as if he had more to say but it was a crowded room and people were waiting for his time, so I awkwardly freed myself. My partner & I hung out with people throughout the evening and I got out of there without any drama. Well, except for some other creepy a-hole trying to hit on me by getting in my face and telling me how good I smell. :/

But back to the point. We locked eyes more than once that night and EVERY time it was like he had many words to say.

2 weeks ago, we were all supposed to meet up (public, at a dance night). My partner was tired and told me to go ahead (not unusual for us, we trust each other, and we go out without each other). But I got so weirded out about seeing this other guy that half way there, I actually felt like throwing up. The anticipation of being in the vicinity of this other person was enough to make me a nervous wreck. I drove all the way there and then drove past, got right back on the freeway, came home, and got sick.

I don't like feeling this way. What the heck?! I've not ever cheated and I don't plan to start. And I'm not unhappy or unfulfilled. This other guy just gets under my skin and it gets difficult to remain cool headed around him in a platonic manner. I can control myself fine, but those eyes... the way we interact without words... It's insane! I feel bad about it even though I'm not actively doing anything to pursue him.

I posted the synastry chart here to try to figure out WHY. It's making me so weird. And I can't explain this to my partner without him taking it the wrong way.

Thanks for the insight that I've received so far. I truly didn't think our synastry was that good so this is really helpful... I do understand a lot more now! I'm still a baby in astrology.

posted June 24, 2013 05:45 AM            

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Originally posted by britterfly:
How does he behave toward you??? Spill the beans.

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You said spill the beans! Sorry the response was so long but I've not spoken about this to anyone in the last year. :/

posted June 24, 2013 01:44 PM            

that was so much fun to read! thank you!

that is all really exciting, but i feel sorry for you as far as the committed relationship goes. What terrible timing for all this to come about! My toes were curling while reading about this! I can just imagine his intense eyes staring at you with all the things he wants to say. WOWEE! woo! I bet he is just beside himself knowing you are in such a committed relationship with his FRIEND of all people. I bet he is just going wild. The fatefulness of all of this is just great fodder for a novel! lol

Keep me posted!

posted June 24, 2013 04:41 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:

i did notice that this guy has a pisces moon, so the alcohol would be something pretty reasonable - pisces moon/mars like to escape and often use drugs and alcohol to do that. they are VERY sensitive men, so although you are outwardly handling a lot of Aries energy, this guy will be emotionally more sensitive and (probably) less willing to actively pursue you. if the ultimate move was made it'd likely come from you - you have the more 'aggressive' moon/venus

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He is VERY sensitive. Always getting hurt/heartbroken.

posted June 24, 2013 05:02 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
why not post the chart with your current bf for comparison??

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Here ya go! I do love this man... he makes me "awwww" all the time.

Again, me on the inside, him on the outside.

posted June 24, 2013 10:12 PM            

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Originally posted by britterfly:
awwwww you were his mommy in a past life. Do you feel that with him?

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With my partner? Ha! I do find myself mothering him.

posted October 12, 2013 10:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
I saw him last night. Totally platonic but jeeeeeze every time I melt inside.

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posted October 13, 2013 06:16 AM            

I swear, that's all you need!

posted October 13, 2013 06:28 AM            

Long story short, my marriage is open.

It was always going to be, really, but the deciding factor?

Yeah. This man.

All I can say is ... good luck! It's ... very, very intense.

I'll be happy to share more when the hour's not as late. It's clearly a much longer and more complicated story, heh.

posted October 25, 2014 01:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
I never came back to thank you, so thank you all for sharing.

His presence in my life waxes & wanes. He is very present now... I don't even know why. Maybe it's just Mercury retrograde?

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It IS Mercury retrograde. He's been pressing on my mind for about 10 days straight.

AAAARRRRGHHHHH!! *faints*