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Topic: Why am I unlucky in love and relationships??
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amorphis
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posted June 28, 2013 02:45 PM
  
I have been asking this question to myself for a while now.. I have had this unluck when it comes to relationships. People call me attractive and pretty but whenever I flirt with a guy, it ends before it even starts. I also did some self-judgement and wondered if the problem is because of my behaviour but I am indeed doing the right 'moves' and everything..
When I was reading my natal chart etc, I got the general idea that "although I am successful in life in general, I am quite unlucky in love because I always go after lust and passion" (my ASC is scorpio). What do you think?
Here is my info :Sun: Leo
Ascendant: Scorpio
Moon : Aquarius
Mercury : Virgo
Venus : Cancer
Mars : Taurus
Jupiter : Cancer
Saturn: Capricorn
Uranus : Capricorn
Neptune: Capricorn
Pluto : Scorpio
Lilith : Saggitarius
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StarlightSmileSupreme
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From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted June 28, 2013 02:52 PM
Well, it could just be, you are hitting on the wrong guys. Do you seem to be drawn to the ones who are already taken?What about you sun and moon? In opposition, square your Scorpio asc? IP: Logged |
amorphis
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posted June 28, 2013 02:58 PM
I always try to get to know single guys actually.. but I have somehow always had unluck.. I always trust my instincts and try to analyze the guy as well (to see if he is a player or the type who wants a more serious thing) but somehow, it always ends bad  My sun is in house 9 and my moon is in house 3 if that's what you ask.. Sorry, I am new to this whole astrology thing, hehe  Sun House 9
Moon House 3
Mercury House 10
Venus House 8
Mars House 6
Jupiter House 9
Saturn House 2
Uranus House 2
Neptune House 2
Pluto House 12
Chiron House 8
Ceres House 9
Pallas House 8
Juno House 12
Vesta House 7
Node House 3
Lilith House 1
Fortune House 7 IP: Logged |
*Golden_Wing*
Knowflake Posts: 88
From: South Africa
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 28, 2013 03:48 PM
Well, honestly... I just think that you haven't really met the right guy yet. People say that you instinctively know when you have found the right man/woman.I wouldn't be too worried about it if I were you. Fact of the matter is, some people find love early in their lives & others only later on. I know it might sound unfair, but they say good things come to those who wait. I am in the exact same position as you are & really, astrology isn't going to help you get someone, it could only guide you when you have found someone. Just focus on yourself first, have fun in your life, leave the men, let them pursue YOU. If a man is interested enough & sees you as his potential partner, he will do everything in his power to win you over* :] IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
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From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted June 28, 2013 04:02 PM
With that combination, maybe you find guys do not always make their emotions available to you? They say one thing, but how they feel is a different matter? This could leave you feeling frustrated and, perhaps, from time to time, you get fed up and decide you are through with all of it? This seems like what the opposition would do when in these signs and houses and has had enough. How do you handle it in your life?Seems like, at times, you refuse to talk to the ones who do not make themselves emotionally available... IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 28, 2013 08:44 PM
Moving to Personal Readings.IP: Logged |
amorphis
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posted June 29, 2013 02:38 PM
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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
Well, honestly... I just think that you haven't really met the right guy yet. People say that you instinctively know when you have found the right man/woman.I wouldn't be too worried about it if I were you. Fact of the matter is, some people find love early in their lives & others only later on. I know it might sound unfair, but they say good things come to those who wait. I am in the exact same position as you are & really, astrology isn't going to help you get someone, it could only guide you when you have found someone. Just focus on yourself first, have fun in your life, leave the men, let them pursue YOU. If a man is interested enough & sees you as his potential partner, he will do everything in his power to win you over* :]
I thought I found the right person recently.. It felt really right and I have liked him for a long time but it ended really bad, to be honest You are right I am not looking for answers in astrology of course. I am just curious about my signs and stuff. I know I have to make a change in my life and I am not even questioning if I will find someone or not.. i am just living my life, but I just wanted to look at the problem from another perspective, hehe If astrology could solve everything, life would be much easier  quote:
Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
With that combination, maybe you find guys do not always make their emotions available to you? They say one thing, but how they feel is a different matter? This could leave you feeling frustrated and, perhaps, from time to time, you get fed up and decide you are through with all of it? This seems like what the opposition would do when in these signs and houses and has had enough. How do you handle it in your life?Seems like, at times, you refuse to talk to the ones who do not make themselves emotionally available...
Well, I have never had a decent relationship but you can say that.. Guys that I have liked have always been the mysterious types who do not open up quite easily or who have melancholic nature so that's a challenge for me which means I have to get to know the guy and make him open up but that is not always good as it also means that those guys are emotionally 'reserved' a bit.. And yeah, then I get fed up when it doesn't work out I actually do not do anything because for me, love and relationships come from within. It's a bit intuitive and when i meet that person, I know that I meet him and get to know him or even break up with him for some reason... So when everything ends bad, I feel bad for a while but time heals everything and then I am open for new adventures IP: Logged |
andstuff
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posted June 29, 2013 03:22 PM
The main thing is not to listen to the likes of Golden Wing All this keep faith have patience bollocks should be reserved for people who voice it. Seriously. You are under no obligation to find love "later in love" just because someone told you it would be so. Ain't nobody's business when you do. I found mine like 20 years before Sun-Venus solar arc which revolted some old woman who was an adept of this particular indicator. Well so what. She couldn't explain why this happened. trNeptune conj nVenus perhaps. And let's be honest, men willing to win over are not always the right match, quite often they are just some random idiots one could keep not seeing and not knowing without any harm done to yourself IP: Logged |
HannieBananie
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posted June 29, 2013 03:26 PM
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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
Well, honestly... I just think that you haven't really met the right guy yet. People say that you instinctively know when you have found the right man/woman.I wouldn't be too worried about it if I were you. Fact of the matter is, some people find love early in their lives & others only later on. I know it might sound unfair, but they say good things come to those who wait. I am in the exact same position as you are & really, astrology isn't going to help you get someone, it could only guide you when you have found someone. Just focus on yourself first, have fun in your life, leave the men, let them pursue YOU. If a man is interested enough & sees you as his potential partner, he will do everything in his power to win you over* :]
You're right. ------------------
Pisces sun
Leo/Virgo moon ♥
Air woman. Fire man, made
me a girl who's barely
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amorphis
Knowflake Posts: 25
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posted June 29, 2013 04:41 PM
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Originally posted by andstuff:
The main thing is not to listen to the likes of Golden Wing All this keep faith have patience bollocks should be reserved for people who voice it. Seriously. You are under no obligation to find love "later in love" just because someone told you it would be so. Ain't nobody's business when you do. I found mine like 20 years before Sun-Venus solar arc which revolted some old woman who was an adept of this particular indicator. Well so what. She couldn't explain why this happened. trNeptune conj nVenus perhaps. And let's be honest, men willing to win over are not always the right match, quite often they are just some random idiots one could keep not seeing and not knowing without any harm done to yourself
You are right. I do believe in faith to some extent but I don't know if I will 'find' a guy now or later.. It doesn't really matter since I am living my life. I have just been doing a lot of self-questioning and self-judgement and I had this little realization about my relationships etc.. It's not something serious, I just wanted an 'astrological' point of view
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andstuff
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posted June 29, 2013 04:46 PM
Then you should keep your eyes peeled for your 7h ruler making transits to natal Venus. IP: Logged |
Victoria1123
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From: New York
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted June 30, 2013 12:03 PM
Hopefully someone didn't already mention this but...having a scorpio asc actually can give you a mysterious alluring (to be blunt "sexy") kind of a vibe. At the very least it makes those who dare want to know more about you and can intrigue them. I have this placement myself and the major problem is that guys will seem to only be attracted to you because they find you sexually alluring (not our fault though, this is w/out even doing anything physical w/ them) It can def lead to disappointment, so I understand that. The only other thing I can think of is your scorpio in pluto (another placement I have) sometimes there is a depth to us, that can "scare" other people. "Still waters run deep" right? That combined with our honestly and "detective" like nature, and our downright need to cut through & call out any kind of bs that someone is feeding us isn't always seen as "turn on" to some people (usually the players, and who wants them anyway.) My advice is to find someone who is able to understand depth and not run away from it and someone who is looking for something more along the lines of a serious relationship. Someone who can appreciate honesty and admires someone who has a zero tolerance for bs. Also, someone who has a sarcastic funny personality (I LOVE and Appreciate those types of people SO much)and lord knows I personally love to laugh, and love a good sense of humor. It helps to balance the dark/depth with light and fluffy. ------------------
Victoria Ashley
Birthday- 11/23/85 4:33am Las Vegas N.V Sun: Sag/Scorpio Cusp
Rising: Scorpio
Moon: Aries Venus in Scorpio-1st House
Venus Square Midheaven
Saturn in Sag-1st house
Sun-1st house.
Pluto Conjunct Asc- 12th house
Mars in Libra- 12th House.
Mercury, Neptune, Uranus-2nd house. Mercury in Retrograde.
Mercury conjunct Uranus. Chiron in Gemini-8th house. True Node Taurus-7th house. Moon in 6th house.
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amorphis
Knowflake Posts: 25
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Registered: Jun 2013
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posted July 01, 2013 12:33 PM
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Originally posted by Victoria1123:
Hopefully someone didn't already mention this but...having a scorpio asc actually can give you a mysterious alluring (to be blunt "sexy") kind of a vibe. At the very least it makes those who dare want to know more about you and can intrigue them. I have this placement myself and the major problem is that guys will seem to only be attracted to you because they find you sexually alluring (not our fault though, this is w/out even doing anything physical w/ them) It can def lead to disappointment, so I understand that. The only other thing I can think of is your scorpio in pluto (another placement I have) sometimes there is a depth to us, that can "scare" other people. "Still waters run deep" right? That combined with our honestly and "detective" like nature, and our downright need to cut through & call out any kind of bs that someone is feeding us isn't always seen as "turn on" to some people (usually the players, and who wants them anyway.) My advice is to find someone who is able to understand depth and not run away from it and someone who is looking for something more along the lines of a serious relationship. Someone who can appreciate honesty and admires someone who has a zero tolerance for bs. Also, someone who has a sarcastic funny personality (I LOVE and Appreciate those types of people SO much)and lord knows I personally love to laugh, and love a good sense of humor. It helps to balance the dark/depth with light and fluffy.
You are so right! I read a lot about the nature of Scorpios and Scorpio ascendants and what you described summarizes everything perfectly.. Hopefully, I can meet a person like that Disappointment surely sucks when I expect more from the person and he doesn't do anything.. :/
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starmoon
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posted July 01, 2013 01:59 PM
did anyone point out yet that your sun and moon are in opposite signs? i bet the trouble stems from that - people with sun/moon opposite often lack some degree of functionality in a relationship because it's as though the head and the heart are being pulled in opposite directions. you can feel very deeply for someone and then rationalize a way out of it. the emotions of the moon and what you really want are in conflict with your outer persona. my SO has a moon/sun opposite also in leo/aquarius and i see that internal struggle with him as well. the desire to be close (leo) fighting that desire for freedom (aquarius). the opposite sun/moon can lead to some self-defeating behaviors and with a virgo mercury you're probably spending a lot of time dwelling on your own faults. IP: Logged |
slowpoke
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posted August 02, 2013 02:28 PM
Good Synastry Astrology relationships are difficult to come by, but they are possible.If you want to learn your aspect dynamics for love, then I suggest that you review your 2014 Transits. Because Transit aspects equal Synastry Aspects. What you see in your Transit Aspects, in terms of aspect combinations will also be true for your Synastry aspects as well. http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting#!in-the-closet-astro-tools/c1s43 slowpoke IP: Logged |
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