posted July 17, 2013 01:40 AM            

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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
Oh wow! He's born a week or so after a Lindaland user here! Any ways, I bet he'll be really considerate and gentle, but also really slow and probably doubt himself a lot. Don't be afraid to be a little forward with him, but also really supportive. Be private with him.

He might be a little depressive too, so be prepared to ride out some waves and swim to depths for him. If he's not as high maintenence as his chart might suggest, all the better!!

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posted July 17, 2013 02:15 AM            

What would he be like? Well, I can tell you a little about my personality, but my Moon is in Gemini. Sun in Scorpio by itself is emotional enough as it is. The person you're asking about also has Moon in Scorpio. He will probably have strong emotional reactions to everything, even if he doesn't show it. He may seek emotional intensity in everything. Dry, boring relationships wouldn't fly with that person; at least, not for very long. He may have one of the biggest, most fragile and vulnerable egos you will ever encounter; his Ascendant sign will indicate how much of his ego is on display. For example, Ascendant in Virgo / Virgo Rising = very modest and proper person on the outside, even though he may experience a constant torrent of emotions internally. People with strong Scorpio placements are good at hiding themselves, masking their thoughts and feelings.

This person also has Mercury in Scorpio. My Mercury is in Libra. I tend to go a little overboard when I think or communicate... I weigh pros and cons constantly, deliberating with myself... and when I have company, I do it out loud. I also try to avoid making other people feel like they have "lost" in an argument or in any kind of game. Your person probably won't do that. He may think and decide decisively, and he is likely to communicate the same way. He will probably not have any trouble making up his mind, and once he does, he will stick to his decision no matter what, as a matter of pride. He may be incredibly persuasive, and he may be capable of saying some unbelievably hateful, damaging things if provoked. You don't want to pick a fight with him. Just... don't. You will regret it.

Would he come back? It depends on why the two of you broke up. With all the Scorpio placements, and with Venus and Mars in Virgo, this person is likely to look at (or rather, feel his way through) every aspect of a situation in detail. If he can't see himself together with you in the future, because he feels that the two of you are too different, or because there is something fundamental in your life that he disagrees with, or something that you lack... or if he simply isn't ready... he has the willpower to cut the cord and never look back.

If you broke up with him, or it was your fault, and you want him back... you'd better be prepared to apologize and explain yourself, and you'd better be 100% honest and genuine. Since my Moon and Mercury are in air signs, a thoughtful, logical approach might work best with me... but since this guy has an overload of Scorpio, you may want to appeal to his feelings. A guilt trip will probably not work.

Mars in Virgo does not chase. Mars in Aries will come charging after you like the animal he is... Mars in Scorpio will stalk you from a distance, like a tiger stalking a gazelle in tall grass... and will pounce when least expected. (Hi Ami Anne! I tossed that in just for you. ) If you want to be pursued, this may be the wrong guy. Mars in Virgo can be romantic, but it's going to be a more thoughtful, practical romance. Mars in Virgo will demonstrate his interest and desire by being proper; by being polite in social settings, by dressing well (and modestly), by living healthy, keeping a clean house, balancing his checkbook, and hopefully fixing any issues in his life. Once you get to know him, he will continue to demonstrate his attraction and loyalty by being supportive, by listening and doing anything he can to help you. He will show (instead of telling or bragging) that he is prepared for a relationship, and that he is able to take care of you (or that he is working towards that goal). Earth signs are also known for being affectionate. (Heheh... or do I flatter myself?) If you manage to reconnect with this guy, and you want to get closer to him, ask him (politely, quietly, demurely, and in private) for a massage. Mars in Virgo just wants to be accepted. He feels like he has to work hard to get any kind of recognition. He's doing all this stuff, putting the polish on himself and his life, so you will like him. If he does something nice for you, say Thank You -- and mean it! -- and do something nice for him.

I had strict parents and a traditional religious upbringing. I think one of the side effects of that is I have a lot of repressed, conflicting feelings about sex and intimacy. Your person may be going through similar things, depending on his childhood. Like somethingexcellent said... he will probably be considerate and gentle in private. He will probably be very respectful. He may have a very hard time making the first move or initiating anything. If you get to the point in your relationship where you want to share some intimacy with him, you may literally have to take his hand and (gently) drag him along.

posted July 17, 2013 09:56 PM            

I can only comment on what I'm like in relationships, and you can decide whether or not it sounds like him at all.

I take a while to open up usually, unless it's with Air signs or Leos (don't know why that is exactly, but this has always been the case for me..). Once I open up, people see a completely different side of me. I'm very loving in relationships and can honestly say that once I truly care about someone, it's very hard for me to be detached from them in any way.. I think that's because I'm picky when it comes to who I choose to date and have just about always gone over my choice very carefully before deciding to move forward. If he's anything like me, he'll be forgiving, but it may take him some time to forget.. also, for me direct communication is always best, so if you want to talk to him about whatever happened between you two, try that approach if you haven't yet. Hope this helped some.

posted July 18, 2013 07:29 PM            

Almost 2 years in is when he decided he finally wanted to try the relationship thing, but slowly, I didn't force him or give any ultimatums but I'm sure he could sense that I was almost to the point of just walking away (if it were really that easy).

Things went smoothly for 9 months with very few arguments, the two things he is not good at is communicating and compromise!

There were some times he would say things that hurt my feelings but even he admitted that he was trying to push me away, I'm sure it had to do with his previous relationship with the mother of his children, she put him through hell and basically made him lock up his heart and practically throw away the key!

Things started going crazy after his best friend moved to another state, he then started hanging with another scorpio who was BAD!!! he ended up cutting ties with him because he spoke bad about his kids and hit me!

since he no longer had someone to hang out with he started hanging with his scorpio cousin which whom I thought at first was very nice and polite (boy was i ever wrong!!!) it's like both of those guys put thoughts into his head and he started treating me like crap then would be sweet for a few days then back to being evil!

It came to a point that I think he was purposely sabotaging the relationship, he ended getting on chat lines talking to girls, trying to have sex with a co-worker of his, then when confronted he states he wants to sleep with other women! it made no sense I was always there for him did everything he asked and then some, gave him little nudges when he was scared to do things that needed to be done, I was supportive and loving 100%

after him saying what he said you could see the hurt on my face and anytime we were out it came off to people like I didn't wanna be there cause I had an attitude (it was usually with his retarded cousin!)

well his cousin basically told him he don't want me to come with him anymore so basically he started dumping me for his cousin! The day I broke up with him I never even said those words! he took it as that because of his ego, we woke up on a sunday made love, then got in the shower (he never told me about what his cousin said) so I asked to go with, He yells at me and said your not coming with me I'm going by myself! I want to be alone (but in my head I'm like your in my city, in my apartment, with ME!!! how dare you), so I replied back saying "well grab your stuff and be alone then! he says "Don't say that to me (with a smirk on his face) cause you know I'll do it!" the proceeds to leave!!!

I was serious about him taking his things!!! but not to break up just so he could be gone for a few days (but he doesn't leave his things when he's ready to leave) so I packed up his stuff for him loaded it in my car and went to where he was (his cousin umpires softball) I wasn't expecting him to be by the car when I got there I was gonna ask for his keys to "grab" something and then put his stuff in there and take my key back ( I can see the key part as breaking up but it wasn't that) he wouldn't have known till he tried to come back when he was done doing whatever, well it didn't happen like that he was standing by his car with his cousin! It went totally opposite of what I wanted or expected to happen, he said are you serious? I said ya I told you to grab your stuff, he said that's what's up it wont hurt me none, handed me my key and i left, but the super bad part about it all 4 days prior to all this going down I found out I was pregnant! but I wanted to retest so I waited till sat but he was out with his cousin so I said I'd tell him sunday!!! well I didn't get a chance to and he wouldn't answer my calls when I tried calling the wednesday after! so I had to hunt him down and I told him which didn't go over well since he was already furious!

He came over last night (which is the same night he was told) because I requested it for comfort and to talk about what we are gonna do about the baby! he of course charms his way into having sex! but the next morning turns into that cold hearted person he was before I told him!

posted July 18, 2013 07:39 PM            

to me, it seems this relationship started bad and ended bad.

you're prolly feeling scared because of the pregnancy and are
seeking support at this moment....to this i say: go where you're loved

i also sense you have some plutonic and scorpio placements too?
you had posted a topic requesting a reading on whether you would last with him
here: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/007617.html

posted July 18, 2013 07:58 PM            

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Originally posted by hikoro:
seems to me breaking up was the right decision.
take care of yourself....
and, next time, think things (relationship-wise) through before having a baby with someone
i know, i dont know the details, i mean, condoms break, pills fail, etc...
what i mean is that pregnancy doesnt solve things..

to me, it seems this relationship started bad and ended bad.

you're prolly feeling scared because of the pregnancy and are
seeking support at this moment....to this i say: go where you're loved

i also sense you have some plutonic and scorpio placements too?
you had posted a topic requesting a reading on whether you would last with him
here: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/007617.html

regardless, you broke up with him...i dunno. seems to me that you were not happy, but at the same time, you may have done it in order to get a reaction or so he would claim you, (very plutonic in a way, kind of mind-game playing) but, it seems to me he is not into you at all.

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Thanks for the reply: I did it because I wanted him to take me seriously and let him know how fed up I was getting with things, he never took me seriously, at times when I would be trying to get my point across because he felt he had this hold on me like i wasn't going anywhere.