posted July 23, 2013 02:34 PM
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Originally posted by bella_taurus:
WOW, I've been deceived a lot as far as dating and relating goes. The thing is he's just starting his life over after being deployed in Iraq. He has an ex-wife who seems a bit meddling and a son, who I am adore. We are in love, and he is always talking about marriage and having another child. We have had numerous discussions about our pasts and our ex's but the only thing I keep questioning is his integrity.
Ace of Cups
9 of Pentacles
2 of Pentacles (r)
6 of Swords
The Fool (r)
So, I like to read a 5 card spread where the center card is the anchor. The present. The first two cards are what is fading away, and the last two cards are what are coming into play.
Seems to me when you met, it was an instant "holy sweet Moses, where have you been all my life?" Did he treat you well? Lots of nice dates, sweet words? I mean obviously that's what happens in the beginning of every relationship, but this would have gone above and beyond. Made you feel like you were someone beautifully different. Kinda like he was the Lancelot to your Guinevere. A real delicacy and security came out of your initial interactions.
The 2 of Pentacles reversed tells me you're starting to realize you might have made a mistake... Pentacles represent physical work (or jobs) or internal work we have to do on ourselves. Upright, this card is about choices, deciding which avenue to take. Reversed, it is the same idea, but with a negative connotation. You don't want to leave, but you might have to, because I think you are starting to realize he might not offer you the growth and future you had envisioned for yourself. It's a lose-lose for you, as you see it, and I think that's making your decision even harder. Who wants to purposefully rake themselves over coals?
The 6 of Swords and the Fool (r) are what is coming. I think here is where the choice lies that the 2 of Pentacles (r) is struggling with. And it is a choice you have to make. You can leave (the 6), and while it will be painful, you at least can carry on the memories and lessons you've learned to a new experience. You can grow through the pain, by letting it strengthen you. It's also important to note the this card is #6 out of a suit of 13. It's almost the halfway point in a powerful mental cycle (the swords deal with our rational mind, our thoughts). OR... you can stay. The Fool (r) is about not following the winds of change and the caprice of an open heart. It's about standing still or even going the wrong way. If you look at the card itself, upside down, the Fool looks to actually be walking UP a very cold, icy hill. The sun is underneath him (whereas the Sun in tarot is about happiness and joy). The Fool's number is also 0. Upright, this means you can only make your march towards 21 (the ending number of the majors), but upside down... When you hit the bottom, that's it. No more numbers. No more rungs to climb until you abandon your descent.
Another way of looking at him is as an advice card. One that says, "Stop!" He is a major card, and major cards show up when we NEED to learn a lesson in order to grow karmically. This could also resonate loudly as a warning: this is a dead end. Don't walk down it. Learn to leave what you want behind and trust in the Universe. Trust that it has something more beautiful planned than you can ever know. It's like this picture:
For me, this says the choice is to stay and stagnate, ultimately missing out on a lot of wonderful choices that are destined for you. Stay and see what happens... but I don't think it's going to be good for you. The Fool upright has a sweet naivete. The Fool reversed is just that, a fool. Or you can move on and really embrace life.
Sorry to be negative, but I also get the sense that you kinda already know all this, and you're looking for some affirmation. It's hard, I know... but I say go. He has a lot going on--a lot of balls to juggle--and they aren't going to go away anytime soon :/
Lindaland
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posted July 23, 2013 11:13 AM
posted July 23, 2013 12:25 PM
) Thank you, I am curious as to what pops up