posted August 04, 2013 04:16 PM            

A little background, I met this Gemini man back in April. We only chit chatted here and there but not much. Then some time in May things started to really ramp up. He was calling me and texting me and we established that we liked each other. BUT, instead of rushing into things as he says he'd normally do he said he wanted to try something different and take it slow. One particular reason was because he had just obtained full custody of his baby boy sometime last year and he said he wanted his focus to be on his boy, but that he liked me a lot and just take things slow.

I didn't have a problem with this at all as I respect him for stepping up and raising his son on his own. But then after we had a really nice time hanging out one Friday night, that's when things started to wane. But after a very heart felt talk I understood that sometimes he just gets kind of down and wants to be alone, but that he still likes me. This was back in June.

Well fast forward to now and most of the initiating of conversations I have to start. I don't hear from him at all. Most of the time when I text him I get no reply. He told me that he'll read his messages and just won't. The last time we talked on the phone (for like 4 hrs) I asked him if he wants me to just leave him alone..and he says no. But that was like a month ago. Now I'm feeling a little different like he doesn't want to be bothered with me or that he's lost interest. If you haven't noticed I'm one that likes to be reassured (not constantly though).

I do tend to have a habit of imagining the feelings of others towards me (which are usually negative) and this may be the case. I really don't want to keep asking if he still has feelings for me (and I don't) because I don't want to get on his nerves. I've met his mom, step-dad, and grandma and they all say they've heard great things about me. He's told me that I'm the women he's been seeking for a long time, because I'm responsible, I'm nice and he knows I wouldn't treat him like any of his exes did. But despite all of that, I get the feeling that he doesn't like me anymore or that I should just leave him alone. Last week I didn't contact him at all (which was really hard) and nothing from him. I've heard that if you don't hear from a Gemini for a week, then he's probably not interested anymore because they love to talk. He's told me though that sometimes he'd often ignore his mom and his friends as well. But for all I know he could be lying and just telling me that.

I know he must respect me on some level to tell me that if we jumped into something now, it wouldn't last and he wouldn't be a loving boyfriend. But at the same time, he's also making it very difficult to just be a friend to him.

I've been wondering if I should just give up on it and just move on. But when I try to I'll be good for about a week and then I'll send him a little message on fb...he replies..and then I'm right back where I started over analyzing everything and obsessing about it (privately of course). Do you know he even told me once not to over analyze our situation...but I do it any. I'm going to post our charts as I'm hoping someone could please give me some insight into this so I can have some sort of closure if needed.

Thank you.

Mine

posted August 04, 2013 05:03 PM            

Sorry I couldn't give you a chart reading, but just felt like offering a bit of advice.

posted August 04, 2013 06:58 PM            

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Originally posted by EmpressMendez:
Hey. I can't read charts, but I can give you my opinion on the matter. Maybe he is an introvert at heart and needs time removed from people to "recharge his batteries" (I am the same way he is!!). For example, I'm also talking to a Gemini, but he's the one wanting to see me and pressuring me because he feels like you do, and I understand that. But I'm a huge introvert and need time away from people for a long time after having too much interaction with them (which I have had the last couple of weeks, lol - more than I'm used to might I add). People would never guess I'm an introvert if they see me, but I am and that's what I'm sensing from him - not that he dislikes you. He must be going through something also, such as maybe a bit of depression. I do communicate with Gemini and don't ignore him though, but then again men suck at communicating and him possibly being introverted and maybe a little sad (he newly has full custody of his son could also be a bit stressful) just makes things a bit more difficult for him.

Sorry I couldn't give you a chart reading, but just felt like offering a bit of advice.

Good luck..hope someone helps you with the charts =)

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Thank you for responding!

Well I didn't want to go into too much detail, but he does have a few things that are really bothering him right now. One thing I can share here is that he has a CPS case open because of the mother of his child and that is weighing on him. There is something else too, but in his words he hates how these two things are controlling his life. Also when I ask him how he's doing, he'll just say the same old routine, work, eat sleep. Yea I agree, I think he's depressed. Two things I think might be contributing to it. One is his situation, but then two may be something he needs to see a doctor about.

He works in construction and lays tile in bathrooms and stuff like that. Well one day he was cleaning a work site, his hands were wet and so was the sponge and he said he got electrocuted. He says it's happened before, but after this one he had a headache which he never has. I looked it up and I read that getting electrocuted multiple times can cause depression. So there may be a possibility that he's depressed from that. I just don't know what to do. I try be there for him, but I feel like I'm not appreciated. But I obviously don't want to give up on him, because I'm here asking these questions.

posted August 07, 2013 09:31 AM            

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Originally posted by slowpoke:
There may be an easier way to read and understand complicated Synastry pie chart aspects. Pie chart aspects can also be produced onto a basic Synastry Aspect Chart. Review the sample chart at your leisure. It may help you gain even more insight than you currently have.
http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting

Slowpoke

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Thanks for replying but honestly I have no idea what I'm looking at, or how to read it..

posted September 05, 2013 01:23 PM            

Planet and color code, in both directions:

S = ego energy
MR = raw energy
P = passionate energy
Asc = showmanship energy

Yellow boxes = high priority position for favorable major aspects.

Green column and row = emotions

Black column and row = North Node = groups of people that you know and do not know.

Gray column and row = communication channels

Black Aspects Not In NN columns = strong influences that could lead to physical fighting and separation.

Inner Box (VE on VE to JP on JP) = the core of the unit, favorable aspects in this area are very good indicators of sucess.

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What Draws You Together?

S 95 M - S & M with major aspects is a basic natural nature draw.

NP 91 VE - generates a feeling of wonder

What Is Holding You Together?

MY 119 M - a feeling of belong while conversing

MY 56 VE - a shared sense of value

VE 61 MY - a shared sense of value

VE 125 VE - shared values with humor

VE 56 MR - shared times of comfort

VE 119 UR - expectations of the things to come, play

MR 120 SA - able to become meaningful companions

JP 115 VE - shared values with humor

JP 64 MR - able to apply physical task with little stress

JP 1 UR - a tremendous ability to communicate!

NP 91 VE - generates a feeling of wonder

What Are Your Problems?

S 95 M - once you are together, you know you do not like each other.

610.83 M - not enough substance fed into the emotions.

MY 92 Asc - not able to read the body language of the other.

VE 90 JP - a fun time being wasteful with resources.

JP 180 MY - you tend to argue about a different side of the same coin, without knowing it.

UR 183 MY - I don't believe you said that. Elaborate or stop wasting my time.

NP 94 M - this is not meeting my expectations, is payback possible?

NP 91 VE - it felt so right.

NP 88 MR - I do not like sex anymore. Close up shop.

SA 3 P - this is a power house aspect that requires favorable support from other aspects to bring the best from you both. Otherwise, destruction is possible.

What Might Happen If You Stay Together?

The strength of this unit is in the communication package.

S 118 SA
MY 119 M
VE 56 & 61 MY
MR 120 SA
JP 181 MY
JP 1 UR
UR 183 MY

And this is really good, because it supports SA 3 P!

But, sex or the lack of it may start the process to breakup (NP 88 MR). Because, one of you may get turned off by it. The cause can be personal or it can be because of the partner. NP 91 VE could feed into this. And SA 3 P may start to get pushy over the matter.

North Node: both directions

NN represents small groups of people, from family members, work associates + boss, the social environments you frequent, teams and clubs you are part of and, all of your neighbors.

The aspects to the NN represent your natal planets action towards the NN and its potential response toward the Synastry unit from the actions.

MC of just the SD (Subject Date Person):

If the SD is active in public commerce as a business person or the Synastry unit wants to do business activities, then the aspects made to the MC suggest how the second person might help the SD and what the quality of that support might be like. If the SD is not an active business person or unit, then the MC is of little importance.

If the second person wants to do business activities, the MC for this entity is not taken into account on this chart. However, if there are aspects that pertain to the SD, then it is safe to say that the SD would have valuable input for the supporting person, if the SD Synasttry MC aspects imply it.

The Bottom Line:

The draw based on love and affection is not very strong here. But, lasting units exist because of adequate communications, of which there is plenty here. JP 1 UR is the star aspect and is supported well with the S 118 SA and MR 120 SA. You have the potential to be loyal to each other in a supporting way.

You have laughter in the unit via:
VE 125 VE
VE 90 JP
VE 119 UR
JP 115 VE
JP 1 UR
UR 183 MY
These influences will help keep the unit upbeat.

The growth potential of the unit does not appear to be strong as an independent entity. However, one of the individuals may have a natal JP (tri. VE and conj. UR) aspect combination.

This is a statistical report, the Synastry Aspect analysis does not suggest the results to be an absolute given.

slowpoke

posted September 05, 2013 02:00 PM            

It would be nice, if you might try constructing the Synastry Aspect Chart yourself and use this site as a guide. Once you have mastered this, you can use the tool over and over again for anyone you may be interested in.

There may be an easier way to read and understand complicated Synastry pie chart aspects. Pie chart aspects can also be produced onto a basic Synastry Aspect Chart, a color coded chart. Review the sample chart at your leisure. It may help you gain even more insight than you currently have.
http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting

http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting#!in-the-closet-astro-tools/c1s43

slowpoke

posted September 05, 2013 02:08 PM            

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Originally posted by slowpoke:
Sadly, I'm pressed for time.

It would be nice, if you might try constructing the Synastry Aspect Chart yourself and use this site as a guide. Once you have mastered this, you can use the tool over and over again for anyone you may be interested in.

There may be an easier way to read and understand complicated Synastry pie chart aspects. Pie chart aspects can also be produced onto a basic Synastry Aspect Chart, a color coded chart. Review the sample chart at your leisure. It may help you gain even more insight than you currently have.
http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting

http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting#!in-the-closet-astro-tools/c1s43

slowpoke

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