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Topic: Synastry help needed, is he a deceiver ?
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sis Knowflake Posts: 118 From: Registered: Mar 2011
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posted August 18, 2013 01:36 PM
Hi everyone.. I need help.. Could you please look at this synastry chart and give your opinions.. I am having an affair/open relationship with this guy on-off for nearly 4 years now. We went to the same high school, our fathers used to be friends at the time.. After graduation, we lost contact till he found me through his ex. After a short while we started having friendly sex but I was in love with another guy at the time and he knew it. He was also obsessed with his ex and I knew it. Our sex was not good, I was craving for the man I was in love with so I decided to end it. Right after I did it, I learned I was pregnant.Before I got the chance to tell him, I learned that he was back to his ex to marry her. So, I did not tell him. I had an abortion. A month later I got a message from him, he wanted to see me. I did not reply. I knew his relationship with his ex was over again. We ran to eachother one day, ý was cold as ice and he was questioning it but I walked away. I did not return his calls for about a year. Till one night when I was with a friend who liked him, I answered his call. I invited him to my friends house. She had cancer and I wanted to cheer her up.. We were on drugs and I forced him to have sex with her. I slept on the couch. In the morning, he gave me a kiss goodbye and he left. Only a week later we ran into each other in a gross market and talked about that night. He complained about it. I laughed. A couple of days later, he gave me a call, I was with my friend who had cancer. It was a full moon night and he asked if I would like to come to his house. I said yes, "we" can. When we were at his place,we talked about sex we had, about this and that, about my attitude towards relationships.. about him.. he told he was in love my vety best friend when we were in high school. I did not dig it. I guess I did not care. My friend who had cancer wanted to have one more round with him but this time he refused by saying he wanted to make love to me. At the end we decided to just sleep, 3 of us together. He gave a sweet hug which awakened feelings in me. A couple of days later we restarted. On-off. Hot & Cold. Together & apart. He dated someone else for 4 months but got in touch with me right before their break-up. Our never ending affair... But.. Just a couple of days ago, his flat mate for a short while and a friend of mine told me she stayed in the flat for only 6 days and in each of them he was with a different woman ! ( I was away for 1,5 months in a beach town ) Last week, he asked me if I am ready to stop swimming and arrive to the shore.. I answered the water that flows will find its way.. He got angry.. "If that's your answer then no need to talk" I am still not sure what was the meaning of his question. We are quiet open with eachother but still I do not trust him. I think I should leave him behind... Run away from him..Cause he is a womanizer, player and I can't get rid of the feeling that he is trying to make me fall for him even though he is not in love with me. But still what if ?.. Yesterday, he post a song on facebook and wrote " yes, the water is flowing, it's flowing in circles" and the lyrics of the song I could relate to. He is full scorpio. Is he trying to deceive me ? Can anyone tell me what his true feelings are by looking at the synastry chart ? I would be grateful. I am holding back.. and I need to know.
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sis Knowflake Posts: 118 From: Registered: Mar 2011
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posted August 18, 2013 01:42 PM
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sis Knowflake Posts: 118 From: Registered: Mar 2011
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posted August 18, 2013 03:17 PM
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redshoes Knowflake Posts: 315 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted August 18, 2013 04:09 PM
Do you really need the chart read for your answer ??Go back and read all you wrote then RUN! IP: Logged |
redshoes Knowflake Posts: 315 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted August 18, 2013 04:11 PM
especially this bit ...**Just a couple of days ago, his flat mate for a short while and a friend of mine told me she stayed in the flat for only 6 days and in each of them he was with a different woman** IP: Logged |
sis Knowflake Posts: 118 From: Registered: Mar 2011
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posted August 18, 2013 06:21 PM
redshoes, thank you I read your reply with a broken smile. I know you're right. When everything this obvious, you might think how come she does not get it. It's because before I get to see his shortcomings, I see mine. My love nature is out of order. I've never had a proper relationship. Always messed up. I do things, say things that confuse both of us. He told me once "you encourage me to have sex with other women. if your feelings were strong enough, you would not be able to do this" ( I forced him to have sex with my friend ).. I know I hurt him and said things to him most man can't handle at the early stages of our affair... Lovewise, I am erratic, unstable, and very weird. The last time we were together he told me he made some decisions.. I did not ask him about his decisions. as usual I jumped to another topic... That's why I need synastry insights. That's why before I run, I need to make sure he does not love me.IP: Logged |
redshoes Knowflake Posts: 315 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted August 18, 2013 08:07 PM
Oh right...maybe i could make a suggestion? Rather than synastry anaylsis, you go get some therapy...you know, sadly it can be very destructive to be starting any r/ship with others whilst we are so damaged ourselves I wish you well and hope you find some clarity and peace IP: Logged |
slowpoke Knowflake Posts: 552 From: Registered: Nov 2009
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posted August 19, 2013 04:35 PM
There may be an easier way to read and understand complicated Synastry pie chart aspects. Pie chart aspects can also be produced onto a basic Synastry Aspect Chart, a color coded chart. Review the sample chart at your leisure. It may help you gain even more insight than you currently have. http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting#!in-the-closet-astro-tools/c1s43 Slowpoke IP: Logged |
next to neptune Newflake Posts: 15 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 19, 2013 05:31 PM
It is a difficult synastry chart, you really have anything in it... There is both excitement with uranus-moon, but also creating a distance where you both want to break free from eachother eventually... I'm also a bit concearned with neptune-moon hard aspect going both ways...and your moon signs isn't compatible at all either... I don't know what have kept you "together" actually, maybe it's the soft sun-saturn aspect, but I really think there is some challenges, mostly with the moon signs... I don't see why he is such a womanizer though? He is a mix of virgo-scorpio-libra, those can be charming indeed, but unreliable and liars? I don't think so... But with the neptune-moon in hard aspect you can't be sure...only sure about there must be some deception going on at some point, and both of you are not telling the truth as it is...IP: Logged |
redshoes Knowflake Posts: 315 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted August 19, 2013 07:52 PM
Could i just add that with mars, sun and venus in Scorp, this would give an insatiable sexual appetite, which of course could lead to many partners, especially with VenusIP: Logged |
next to neptune Newflake Posts: 15 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 19, 2013 08:02 PM
quote: Originally posted by redshoes: Could i just add that with mars, sun and venus in Scorp, this would give an insatiable sexual appetite, which of course could lead to many partners, especially with Venus
I don't think so, just because of 3 planets in scorp that is conjunct...the person might have a very healthy sexual drive, but not necessary leading to many partners? In fact I think they prefer one partner, scorpio isn't know to be a fan of one night stands... And it seems like all these planets are in 3rd house? Well as long as it's not 5th or 8th... And I don't know if he has aspects between moon and mars, or the aspect to his mars and venus, that could also say something about that... But it's a shame if you just wan't to quit him because you are afraid that he is a womanizer, I'm not so sure about that! Once a scorpio + scorpio is in a relationship with someone they truly love, they are very faithful IP: Logged |
redshoes Knowflake Posts: 315 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted August 19, 2013 08:13 PM
quote: Originally posted by next to neptune: I don't think so, just because of 3 planets in scorp that is conjunct...the person might have a very healthy sexual drive, but not necessary leading to many partners? In fact I think they prefer one partner, scorpio isn't know to be a fan of one night stands... And it seems like all these planets are in 3rd house? Well as long as it's not 5th or 8th... And I don't know if he has aspects between moon and mars, or the aspect to his mars and venus, that could also say something about that... But it's a shame if you just wan't to quit him because you are afraid that he is a womanizer, I'm not so sure about that! Once a scorpio + scorpio is in a relationship with someone they truly love, they are very faithful
Hmmm i see what you mean, but i have known a few Scorpio men who cannot find one woman to satisfy their huge sexual appetite and have cheated. I agree they are faithful once they find the right one, but it's the finding the one that can prove difficult with all the pluto stuff!
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sis Knowflake Posts: 118 From: Registered: Mar 2011
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posted August 20, 2013 06:15 PM
slowpoke; thank you for the link. I will try it. next to neptune; his moon is in Virgo, mine is in Gemini. We're both ruled by Mercury. So how can those two signs be incompatible when they are ruled by the same planet ? my moon trines his pluto, his moon trines my mercury & ascendant. Even though we have moon squares & oppositions, can the positive aspects help to deal with them ? Maybe moon trine mercury helps us to deal with harsh moon square neptune aspects ? We have good Venus & Mars aspects. My Venus sextiles his sun & venus, but opposes his Saturn. His Venus sextiles my venus, trines Jupiter & Saturn. My mars does not make favourable aspects to his planets, but conjuncts his north node & neptune. His Mars sextiles my sun, mercury, ascendant; trines my Jupiter. When his planets making favourable aspects to my planets; am I the one who feels for him more ? Apart from my sun squares his pluto, we seem to have very good sun aspects.. In synastry when you have good sun aspects, do we interprate it a romantic relationship or friendly ? He is a womaniser. I know it for sure. His ex girlfriend who he was obsessed with for many years told me he slept with many of her friends. Also, a man who slept with 6 different woman in 1,5 month qualifies as a womaniser. His chiron is in the 8th house. Can this placement be the cause ? Redshoes, he always says to me he can be loyal. But I think even he is with the right one, he can be loyal only for a while. He has a strong sex drive. Pluto man... Although I searched the internet and read several articles, I am confused about how to interpret house lays. My sun, venus, mercury is in his 5th house.. Does this make me more into him or him more into me ? We both have strong egos... Thank you so much for giving your time.. I really appreciate it. I am always confused about my affairs... Always...
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sis Knowflake Posts: 118 From: Registered: Mar 2011
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posted August 20, 2013 06:22 PM
I typed a long message but I don't see it.. Although it seems to be added to the total number of messages.. agggh I hope it shows up..IP: Logged |
sis Knowflake Posts: 118 From: Registered: Mar 2011
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posted August 21, 2013 04:49 PM
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