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Topic: Beenylove need your help again .....please :(
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Lostinmyheaf
Knowflake Posts: 40
From: Canada
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 01, 2013 02:42 AM
  
Hi Beenylove, thanks for all your help. By now u must know about my problem. It's the same with my aqua guy nothing has changed. I sent him a message and i get a small reply. and i thought he was too busy with his career but i saw a picture today on a social network with his sister and him at a party. He didn't even bother telling me she was flying in to see him. I was actually going to send him a text after seeing his picture, don't worry I know u were joking .....when u said u love me.
But stopped myself from doing that.
Are we good together? Is this even worth it?
What can I do? IP: Logged |
cherful24
Knowflake Posts: 434
From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted September 01, 2013 06:40 AM
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Originally posted by Lostinmyheaf:
[no and no to both of your questions I hope you get enough strength to move on and get happy with yourself start to be free start to be bubbly again start to be excited about living and BAM Mr right we'll run right smack into you
B]Hi Beenylove, thanks for all your help. By now u must know about my problem. It's the same with my aqua guy nothing has changed. I sent him a message and i get a small reply. and i thought he was too busy with his career but i saw a picture today on a social network with his sister and him at a party. He didn't even bother telling me she was flying in to see him. I was actually going to send him a text after seeing his picture, don't worry I know u were joking .....when u said u love me.
But stopped myself from doing that.
Are we good together? Is this even worth it?
What can I do? [/B]
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redshoes
Knowflake Posts: 527
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted September 01, 2013 06:45 AM
Hope you dont mind me posting, but i can see you are struggling  What does your gut feeling tell you?
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beenylove
Knowflake Posts: 346
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Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 01, 2013 07:55 AM
Hello lostinmyheaf!!I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I never liked the way that he was shutting you down from the very beginning. I was in a relationship similar to this, and I tried to tolerate everything because I was too afraid that he will leave. All I got from that relationship was four years of immense frustration. The best advice that I can give you is that if a guy leaves you this upset and acts in such an inconsiderable manner constantly, he is NEVER worth your time. I definitely think that you deserve someone who is more involved / invested into your relationship. If you constantly feel lonely / unloved during a relationship, might as well be single so that you can actually welcome more nurturing energies into your love life. BUT I also know that figuring out matters of the heart are much easier said than done. Before I ask the tarot, I would like to know, have you tried talking to him about his communication issues? If so, how has he responded?
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Lostinmyheaf
Knowflake Posts: 40
From: Canada
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 01, 2013 11:29 AM
Yes I have, he can be the most sweetest guy but then get busy and no communication.
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Lostinmyheaf
Knowflake Posts: 40
From: Canada
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 01, 2013 11:45 AM
He is a true Aquarious, there will be times where he's really eager to talk with me, but then disapears and almost like waits for me to contact him (and that goes on for it seems like a long time) it's frustrating. IP: Logged |
Lostinmyheaf
Knowflake Posts: 40
From: Canada
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 01, 2013 12:47 PM
I just want to know ......why he keeps doing that? If I didn't know him well, I could say he does this on purpose. But it's his habit. Just gets to me that he both times declared his love but then goes all quiet. IP: Logged |
beenylove
Knowflake Posts: 346
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Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 01, 2013 04:26 PM
So I asked the cards why he acts like this. The card I got was King of Wands. Wands is a warm, affectionate energy, but also a very self-absorbed energy. He will always be this way. His needs, his career, his focus will always come before yours and that is just his nature. Now knowing that this is his nature, you have a choice. Should you stay or should you go?Then I asked the cards if you two are good together? I got the fool reversed which means "Naivety, foolishness." I really don't think he is the one for you and thinking so may be deceiving yourself. I asked what you can do, and I have to say even before I pulled the card I knew you would get it. Ace of Swords, a card of mental clarity. You must set the attachment to this guy aside and think critically about whether you want to stay in a situation like this. I asked what would happen if you stay in the relationship and I got two of cups reversed. This is a card of imbalance in a relationship and a lack of harmony. You will go through most of your relationship, feeling this way, and I do believe that you will eventually get tired of it. This card is also a breakup card. All in all, I would say based on what the universe is trying to tell you, don't deceive yourself now that you know that this is his nature, and think whether you want to continue this relationship where you will spend your time so frustrated. He is not a bad guy, (after all he did get King of Wands upright) but that doesn't mean he is the one for you either. IP: Logged |
Lostinmyheaf
Knowflake Posts: 40
From: Canada
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 01, 2013 05:43 PM
Thanks Beenylove, I've known him over 2 years and the first time he said love u, he disapeared on me, it's like a pattern. And over the time I started reading about aquas. (After all that's what aqua do ....right) by end of last year I started withdrawing from him. It was hard but I accepted the fact that he doesn't love me. And now he went and said his sweet love u again.......why say it? If u don't have time for a relationship? And everytime we do talk it ends with him saying love u first. The ldr I know has a lot to do with it. It almost feels like when he thinks he's losing me, he comes right back. I understand he's busy, I'm busy myself but a small text is fine. I'm just kinda upset. Lol IP: Logged |
Lostinmyheaf
Knowflake Posts: 40
From: Canada
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 01, 2013 06:13 PM
I think I'm just going to stop contacting him, let him be!
If he contacts me that's great.
And what gets me .....he doesn't hesitate to say all the sweet names and love u's, he'll be the first one saying it. IP: Logged |
beenylove
Knowflake Posts: 346
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Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 01, 2013 08:18 PM
If you decide to stay with him, yes, you will have to accept things to be the way they are, more or less, especially if he exhibits the same behavioral patterns. <3 Hope everything works out in your favor. <3 Let me know if you need anything else.IP: Logged |
Lostinmyheaf
Knowflake Posts: 40
From: Canada
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 01, 2013 09:34 PM
Thanks Beenylove .....for helping me and caring! 
Not sure if this will help maybe I'm going to delete my online communication for awhile. Right now I don't care about him anymore
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Lostinmyheaf
Knowflake Posts: 40
From: Canada
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 02, 2013 07:22 PM
Hi Beenylove, thanks for all the help over the last few weeks. So I sent him a couple of messages, and said "I want us to communicate more, I don't think that's much to ask. But if I understood wrong, and u didn't mean anything to do with romance love, sorry my bad.
I didn't want to say anything to get him mad at me, I'm not in the mood of arguing today.
I havnt got no response back as of yet, but I feel much better.
I do want to know ......the remaining of the year .....is 2013 going to get any better, my life seems frustrating, everytime I want to achieve for something ....it goes into a dead end. IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
Knowflake Posts: 964
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted September 02, 2013 07:31 PM
Actions speak louder than words :/
Why are u walking on egg shells, you're letting him walk all over you hun u need more respect for urself. Your behaviour is only going to attract ppl who like to take advantage. .. It seems like he's using u as an ego boost. Step away from him completely. IP: Logged |
Lostinmyheaf
Knowflake Posts: 40
From: Canada
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 02, 2013 07:43 PM
Yes your right .....and also easier said then done.
I have stepped away, it's not easy......but thanks for being honestIP: Logged |
beenylove
Knowflake Posts: 346
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Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 03, 2013 07:23 PM
Hey lost in my head!I looked for the next six months and I got 6 of wands - chariot - 2 of cups Things seems to be turning positive for you! I think the worst is behind you. It seems like career / education will go very well for you, and I also think that you will also feel much better emotionally. If there is a promotion or a step up that you are looking for, I think that it will happen. Hang in there <3 IP: Logged |
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