posted September 01, 2013 08:24 AM            

what strikes me in your post is the phrasing of your question: something about "you" that doesn't work, even in the phrasing about the chart posting here...

My point is that, you probably need to change how you look at yourself. There's nothing about you that would make a man want to marry you or not, the only thing that send men away is "neediness" and I can't say you're needy or not from your writing here or your chart.

I know society tell everyone/every woman that we're supposed to find prince charming, marry , and live happily ever after. And of course those who don't either by choice or circumstances (life happening) are "blamed" as "failures"...
Do you approach your relationships in a rigid manner thinking of that sublime moment at the altar? if you do subconsciously or not, this may send a vibe to potential partners who feel pressured or boxed...I'm not saying that you do, mind you..
In any case, from looking at your chart, i noticed that you have aquarius on your ascendant with its ruler uranus in your 11th house of hope and wishes making a sextile with your moon which is in your seventh house. This would tell me that you would have an independent personality, value freedom, your relationship and especially your emotional way of expressing yourself is colored by uranian flavors: value freedom in your relationship, detached emotionally sometimes, and the leo moon would make you a proud individual. Pluto is also transiting your twelve house at the moment: I would look into the meaning of that transit if I were you.

posted September 01, 2013 08:25 AM            

what strikes me in your post is the phrasing of your question: something about "you" that doesn't work, even in the phrasing about the chart posting here...

My point is that, you probably need to change how you look at yourself. There's nothing about you that would make a man want to marry you or not, the only thing that send men away is "neediness" and I can't say you're needy or not from your writing here or your chart.

I know society tell everyone/every woman that we're supposed to find prince charming, marry , and live happily ever after. And of course those who don't either by choice or circumstances (life happening) are "blamed" as "failures"...
Do you approach your relationships in a rigid manner thinking of that sublime moment at the altar? if you do subconsciously or not, this may send a vibe to potential partners who feel pressured or boxed...I'm not saying that you do, mind you..
In any case, from looking at your chart, i noticed that you have aquarius on your ascendant with its ruler uranus in your 11th house of hope and wishes making a sextile with your moon which is in your seventh house. This would tell me that you would have an independent personality, value freedom, your relationship and especially your emotional way of expressing yourself is colored by uranian flavors: value freedom in your relationship, detached emotionally sometimes, and the leo moon would make you a proud individual. Pluto is also transiting your twelve house at the moment: I would look into the meaning of that transit if I were you.

posted September 01, 2013 08:52 AM            

Nothing to do with the chart, it is to do with you not loving yourself first

posted September 01, 2013 09:28 AM            

Even dream girls get the blues. Being cool and self-sufficient is not a guarantee of happiness. Sometimes there's other things. I used to love a total loser who went to ruin and guess what all sorts come to me and I can't forgive them for not being him. More attractive, more educated, more successful... And yet they just lack a certain something. Not even talking about underloved late bloomers, those are ready to snap anyone up

Just saying "men" and "everyone" often refers to 2 or 3 individuals, whereas the rest is just one big d$ckless nothingness whose opinion barely matters and whose desire to be with us doesn't increase our market value

posted September 01, 2013 10:07 AM            

*give a man an inch and he will take a yard*

she also said women need to set the boundary line with men, if you don't how can you expect them to respect you and treat you well

posted September 01, 2013 04:30 PM            

The most important relationship in your life should be with yourself. A man nor a relationship should determine your worth. It is YOU who determines your worth and don't accept anything less than you deserve. Happiness comes from within. You aren't going to get what you're seeking from a man. I can say these things because I've been exactly where you are.

As far as your problems with dating, you're not the only one. That's the way it is. You have to weed through the garbage to find the rare gems. If men contact you on a dating site and start talking about sex, tell them that it is disrespectful and cut them off. Make it clear that sh*** isn't acceptable. Make sure there are no sexy pictures on your profile. Respect yourself and a man will respect you too ... Demand nothing less! You can generally tell before meeting a guy what they are after, so don't waste your time setting up dates and hanging out with them. If they are making sexual comments or asking/sharing nasty pictures, trust me, they aren't looking for a "serious relationship". I don't care what their profile says. Most of what you'll find online is a waste of your time. Be very wary and careful.

posted September 01, 2013 06:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Astro keen:
Hi Venuscorpio,

Someone on this site recommended a book for women who tend to get involved in relationships which never last very long because the women simply don't value themselves enough. This translates into being too nice and in overcompensating behaviours. Men realise quite early on that they control the women; these women lack the edge they need and simply lose interest. Lots of examples about what being 'edgy' or self-worth means in different scenarios. The book is "Why men love b****** - From doormat to dreamgirl'' by Sherry Argov. I would suggest you read this.

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posted September 01, 2013 06:28 PM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
@Astro

Even dream girls get the blues. Being cool and self-sufficient is not a guarantee of happiness. Sometimes there's other things. I used to love a total loser who went to ruin and guess what all sorts come to me and I can't forgive them for not being him. More attractive, more educated, more successful... And yet they just lack a certain something. Not even talking about underloved late bloomers, those are ready to snap anyone up

Just saying "men" and "everyone" often refers to 2 or 3 individuals, whereas the rest is just one big d$ckless nothingness whose opinion barely matters and whose desire to be with us doesn't increase our market value

PS RAS said there is a problem with photobucket images, somehow they are not displayed properly

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True! You can be a self-efficient, independent strong women doesn't matter men don't respect me for that, I can be the dependent type make a man feel needed, doesn't work. I love you post very blunt and honest lol

posted September 01, 2013 06:31 PM            

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Originally posted by ScorpionAz:
There's a lot of good comments thus far on this post so there's not much I can add. However ...

The most important relationship in your life should be with yourself. A man nor a relationship should determine your worth. It is YOU who determines your worth and don't accept anything less than you deserve. Happiness comes from within. You aren't going to get what you're seeking from a man. I can say these things because I've been exactly where you are.

As far as your problems with dating, you're not the only one. That's the way it is. You have to weed through the garbage to find the rare gems. If men contact you on a dating site and start talking about sex, tell them that it is disrespectful and cut them off. Make it clear that sh*** isn't acceptable. Make sure there are no sexy pictures on your profile. Respect yourself and a man will respect you too ... Demand nothing less! You can generally tell before meeting a guy what they are after, so don't waste your time setting up dates and hanging out with them. If they are making sexual comments or asking/sharing nasty pictures, trust me, they aren't looking for a "serious relationship". I don't care what their profile says. Most of what you'll find online is a waste of your time. Be very wary and careful.

I want to say ... take a break from dating and work on yourself. Love will find you as soon as you love yourself. You don't have to try so hard. It usually surprises you when you're not looking for it. And don't feel so down on yourself because men want sex. That is the nature of the beast. When you meet someone, take the time to get to know them. If "86" is the year you were born, then you are still pretty young. RELAX!

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posted September 02, 2013 05:49 AM            

You have natal S sqr. MR - your are not afraid to take on a challenge, but, you might become argumentative in the process.

You have a tight Grand Trine with your natal M (tri. NN and tri. UR) - this suggest that you have the potential to be favorably flexiable in your emotional issues.

Your VE is aspected well, but, - it is positioned poorly between your natal MR sqr. S and your natal JP sqr. SA.. And this where your astrological problems are rooted.

Your natal MY is in an (exact tri. with JP and conjunct P) - this is powerful communication aspect combination but, like your VE, it is situated in your planet collection where it is not as beneficial as you might like.

The bottom line, your communication potential is out of sink with your love potential. This is not your fault and this does not mean you can not have a meaningful love life, it does mean you may have to learn how to temper what you say and, perhaps learn how to apologize.

During the coarse of the year, your life goes in and out of high points in direct correlation with your natal planets. Every year the transiting Sun will hit both your favorable natal aspects and your unfavorable natal aspects. When the transiting Sun hits your favorable natal aspects, this can be called the high points. This may help you take action to improve your life, I have listed your important cycle peaks and valleys. If you can, make a vertical calendar, then color code the calendar according to the data given. This may help you visualize and internalize your life cycle. This one calendar can be used for life.

(101 - 108 = Jan. 01 thru Jan. 08 of any given year, do positive upbeat things.)

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This is your Vertical Sun Cycle:

101 - 108

128 - 327 (This is not your time to be heard, bit your lip and go with the flow!)

331 - 418

423 - 612 (This is not your time to be heard, bit your lip and go with the flow!)

614 - 710

723 - 929 (This is not your time to be heard, bit your lip and go with the flow!)

1004 - 1106! - This is the best time of year for you. Do as many positive things you can possibly do during this time, on any given year.

1111 - 1211 (This is not your time to be heard, bit your lip and go with the flow!)

1213 - 1231

There is a bonus to this list. If you find people who have a birthdate, of any age, on any of the positive dates I have listed, then these people will have their natal Sun in good aspect with many of your natal planets. Some of these people may have the potential to be friends with you. But, caution, this does not mean that they will be compatible with you. You will have to research Synastry Aspects to get a clearer picture of that.

posted September 02, 2013 06:07 AM            

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Originally posted by slowpoke:
I am looking at your natal chart based on 5 deg. orbs.

You have natal S sqr. MR - your are not afraid to take on a challenge, but, you might become argumentative in the process.

You have a tight Grand Trine with your natal M (tri. NN and tri. UR) - this suggest that you have the potential to be favorably flexiable in your emotional issues.

Your VE is aspected well, but, - it is positioned poorly between your natal MR sqr. S and your natal JP sqr. SA.. And this where your astrological problems are rooted.

Your natal MY is in an (exact tri. with JP and conjunct P) - this is powerful communication aspect combination but, like your VE, it is situated in your planet collection where it is not as beneficial as you might like.

The bottom line, your communication potential is out of sink with your love potential. This is not your fault and this does not mean you can not have a meaningful love life, it does mean you may have to learn how to temper what you say and, perhaps learn how to apologize.

During the coarse of the year, your life goes in and out of high points in direct correlation with your natal planets. Every year the transiting Sun will hit both your favorable natal aspects and your unfavorable natal aspects. When the transiting Sun hits your favorable natal aspects, this can be called the high points. This may help you take action to improve your life, I have listed your important cycle peaks and valleys. If you can, make a vertical calendar, then color code the calendar according to the data given. This may help you visualize and internalize your life cycle. This one calendar can be used for life.

(101 - 108 = Jan. 01 thru Jan. 08 of any given year, do positive upbeat things.)

=========================================================
This is your Vertical Sun Cycle:

101 - 108

128 - 327 (This is not your time to be heard, bit your lip and go with the flow!)

331 - 418

423 - 612 (This is not your time to be heard, bit your lip and go with the flow!)

614 - 710

723 - 929 (This is not your time to be heard, bit your lip and go with the flow!)

1004 - 1106! - This is the best time of year for you. Do as many positive things you can possibly do during this time, on any given year.

1111 - 1211 (This is not your time to be heard, bit your lip and go with the flow!)

1213 - 1231

There is a bonus to this list. If you find people who have a birthdate, of any age, on any of the positive dates I have listed, then these people will have their natal Sun in good aspect with many of your natal planets. Some of these people may have the potential to be friends with you. But, caution, this does not mean that they will be compatible with you. You will have to research Synastry Aspects to get a clearer picture of that.

Best Wishes,
slowpoke

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Thank you what does the 1004-1106 signify? Is that Oct-Nov??

posted September 02, 2013 12:02 PM            

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?