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Topic: Should I move on???
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Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 06, 2013 12:19 AM
So...I'm torn. I feel deflated with this issue. I'm just wondering if my efforts and energies are a waste of time in regard to Ali. Should I just stop keeping my hopes up? Idk why I'm hoping for anything, and yet I am. : / Is it even a good potential relationship? Idk why I'm behaving like this, honestly. If someone could help me clear this up I would be thankful. I don't care how you do it, tarot, intuition, etc.... I could give you readings in return. IP: Logged |
vesta Knowflake Posts: 1838 From: Colorado Registered: May 2009
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posted September 06, 2013 07:07 AM
Hello dreaming, I pulled a few cards for you. Summer Taking action, fruition, intellect Introspection, self inventory The high priestess rx You need to go w/ your gut feeling what is your intuition telling you. Silver Insight, cleanse, clarify 8 of cups Leaving something behind
Reaching for your dreams, gardening Go for it, manifesting, planting, reaping The page of pentacles King of wands. To me it suggests that you will soon meet someone new. Anyway that is what I pulled, hope it helped. I sort of know how you feel there is a part of me that wants G to return and hopes for a reunion but I fear that I just need to let go and move on no matter how painful that may be. I just have to trust that there is someone out there for me who loves me enough to help set things right. I know you said you would trade and I feel like things may be so far off, I just don't know if I have the energy and strength it takes to keep pushing through. Do you see anything good happening for me soon ? I can see me leaving my husband but I truly need help I am just not strong enough anymore. Do you see any kind of help coming for me? This morning I saw a shooting star so I made sure to make a wish. I hope something positive is coming.
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redshoes Knowflake Posts: 660 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted September 06, 2013 07:34 AM
I feel if you are having to ask all these questions, then the r.ship isnt worth staying in.It seems since the full moon in aqua on 21 August, lots of clearing has been taking place. It is a very good time to cut free now of what you dont need or doesnt serve you well I have just finished a 5yr r/ship that was going nowhere Good luck IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 12:24 AM
quote: Originally posted by vesta: Hello dreaming, I pulled a few cards for you. Summer Taking action, fruition, intellect Introspection, self inventory The high priestess rx You need to go w/ your gut feeling what is your intuition telling you. Silver Insight, cleanse, clarify 8 of cups Leaving something behind
Reaching for your dreams, gardening Go for it, manifesting, planting, reaping The page of pentacles King of wands. To me it suggests that you will soon meet someone new. Anyway that is what I pulled, hope it helped. I sort of know how you feel there is a part of me that wants G to return and hopes for a reunion but I fear that I just need to let go and move on no matter how painful that may be. I just have to trust that there is someone out there for me who loves me enough to help set things right. I know you said you would trade and I feel like things may be so far off, I just don't know if I have the energy and strength it takes to keep pushing through. Do you see anything good happening for me soon ? I can see me leaving my husband but I truly need help I am just not strong enough anymore. Do you see any kind of help coming for me? This morning I saw a shooting star so I made sure to make a wish. I hope something positive is coming.
Thank you Vesta for this. I really do appreciate it.
I feel so addicted to know what is going on in his life, his mind...it's soooo annoying and distracting. I'll do your reading now.
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Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 12:26 AM
quote: Originally posted by redshoes: I feel if you are having to ask all these questions, then the r.ship isnt worth staying in.It seems since the full moon in aqua on 21 August, lots of clearing has been taking place. It is a very good time to cut free now of what you dont need or doesnt serve you well I have just finished a 5yr r/ship that was going nowhere Good luck
Wow....I haven't even known him for that long (5 years). But you are right. If I am asking these questions maybe I shouldn't even bother. Fact is though I broke up with him and initiated the no contact .....So now I just want to chat....not looking for a r/s or anything. I guess I just want to see what he is up to. That must have been painful for you....after 5 years in a full blown r/s?
That makes me never want to get emotional involved with ANYONE. lol It's so confusing for me. I feel as though I'm out of my depth here. I don't know at times if I'm doing the right or wrong thing...: / Do you have a question I could do a tarot reading for? If so feel free to let me know. Thanks.
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Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 12:48 AM
Question: what do you see happening for vesta by the end of 2013? Five of cups Lovers Emperor
Hmmm....Is your husband abusing you? If not and it doesn't seem that he is, .... I see that you will come to regret breaking it off with your husband.... After a period of reflection you will realize that you just had a bit of clouded vision. As some point you will have this "ah ha!" moment and everything you should or could do will come into view. I feel that you will fall back into love.... But I also feel that are in someway being controlled. You will feel a bit like you love this but hate it and want to try something new... My suggestion: Take a period of maybe 3 months. Don't breakup, divorce or separate, but take a break from each other. Tell him...you want to find yourself, or visit family. Don't think of him or your issues with him for at least a month. Have fun. Explore. After a month, work on yourself and get a new hobby. Then in the last month....calmly....reflect. Pick up a piece of paper and write out the pros and cons. After you spend time doing it. Show it to someone( or a couple of people) who knows about the situation and both of you and ask them to add a few or subtract a few from the list...with reasons as to why.
I pulled more cards about you and your husband and I got that your husband seems a bit like a manly man/ the head of the home.
You on the other hand seem fickle? I don't mean to be rude. But I feel your moods, ideas, thought change often. Is this true? You are idealistic, caught in your thoughts, fantasies, distant. He's more practical,present, maybe simple? too simple for you? I feel that is where you miss the understanding between each other. You feel like he doesn't get you and runs water onto your flame of passion in life. He dampens your mood and seems idk... a bit boring and run of the mill? He thought loves you. He's confused about your actions. He just doesn't get where they are coming from...he seems like he's trying to figure out how. I feel like he's trying to hold on and you want to test or dip your feet in some other waters for now. Again I say take a break/ breather for yourself. Rejuvenate your heart and mind. And talk it through. You will regret leaving. And he's scared inside. He's trying to work in his own self. Trying to be better for you. I hope that was helpful. If it was totally off let me know and I'll try to read again.
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vesta Knowflake Posts: 1838 From: Colorado Registered: May 2009
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posted September 09, 2013 09:48 AM
Dreaming, Thank you for the reading. Actually you were off by a bit G or rather George is my soulmate who left me. I just feel so lost because I want to leave my husband who is more like the king of swords. Whom I can't stand. I feel trapped no idea of how to leave or who will help me as no one believes me anyway. They all tell me it is in my head and to be honest I just don't see things getting better. I have no clue of what to do. My husband and I have already admitted to each other our marriage is over I just don't have a way to leave. Anyway thanks for the reading, vesta IP: Logged |
slowpoke Knowflake Posts: 656 From: Registered: Nov 2009
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posted September 09, 2013 10:39 AM
If you haven't already, check @ slowpoke again.IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 04:25 PM
quote: Originally posted by vesta: Dreaming, Thank you for the reading. Actually you were off by a bit G or rather George is my soulmate who left me. I just feel so lost because I want to leave my husband who is more like the king of swords. Whom I can't stand. I feel trapped no idea of how to leave or who will help me as no one believes me anyway. They all tell me it is in my head and to be honest I just don't see things getting better. I have no clue of what to do. My husband and I have already admitted to each other our marriage is over I just don't have a way to leave. Anyway thanks for the reading, vesta
I didn't do a reading about any other man but about you and your husband, so G is not even in the equation here. I think that you need a break from your emotions and this relationship. Your emotions and thoughts are clouding reality. Whether you believe so or not is not the question. You will see in a couple months...that you made a huge mistake/ regret actions/ words etc. Just keep me updated on what goes on with you two. About G, tarot aside, if he was your true blue love, you would no have married someone else. Also, he would have done ANYTHING to be with you. To me it seems, you want to keep holding onto something pretty in this dark hour of yours so you are over idealizing what you had with someone of the past. I've done that. I still do it. In the end, you have to realize as do I, that if a person is meant to be in your life and is your true mate then...he will make it happen WITHOUT any coaxing, cajoling, hinting or suggestions from our side. They automatically do what they need to do to figure the issue out and get to us. This is not about G but about your current marriage and more importantly about you.
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Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 04:26 PM
quote: Originally posted by slowpoke: If you haven't already, check @ slowpoke again.
Oh thank you. I'll post them on that thread. IP: Logged |
redshoes Knowflake Posts: 660 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted September 09, 2013 04:55 PM
quote: Originally posted by Dreaming111: Wow....I haven't even known him for that long (5 years).But you are right. If I am asking these questions maybe I shouldn't even bother. Fact is though I broke up with him and initiated the no contact .....So now I just want to chat....not looking for a r/s or anything. I guess I just want to see what he is up to. That must have been painful for you....after 5 years in a full blown r/s?
That makes me never want to get emotional involved with ANYONE. lol It's so confusing for me. I feel as though I'm out of my depth here. I don't know at times if I'm doing the right or wrong thing...: / Do you have a question I could do a tarot reading for? If so feel free to let me know. Thanks.
thanks for the empathy...yes it is very tough, but i am learning. i would say to you, if you feel out of your depth, step away and see how it feels not to be in it...time away always helps to ***** !! could i ask if i am making the right choice about cutting him out completely now? thanks!
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redshoes Knowflake Posts: 660 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted September 09, 2013 04:56 PM
not sure why the word a s s e s was blanked out??? lolIP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 06:02 PM
quote: Originally posted by redshoes: not sure why the word a s s e s was blanked out??? lol
assess? lol hilarious. IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 06:06 PM
quote: Originally posted by redshoes: thanks for the empathy...yes it is very tough, but i am learning. i would say to you, if you feel out of your depth, step away and see how it feels not to be in it...time away always helps to ***** !!could i ask if i am making the right choice about cutting him out completely now? thanks!
did redshoes make the right move by completely cutting the guy she was in a relationship with for over 5 years? nine of cups Yeah, you will or would have made the right choice by cutting him off completely now. My personal experience is though to cut him off initially and completely so he knows what he is missing out on and how his life is like without you. Then start building up.... He won't magically come back to you down the road transformed. I thought that would be my case but I suppose you have to talk it out eventually. Cut him off for now and completely. Don't be weak about it. Eventually the tide is in your favor. IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 06:08 PM
@ redshoes:Do you think that it was a mistake for me to have messaged him today? Idk why he is not replying. I know part of his family is in canada...Idk if he went as well. Usually when he is there he doesn't stay online. Or he could just be over with me and totally ignoring me. What do you think? IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 06:08 PM
@ redshoes:Do you think that it was a mistake for me to have messaged him today? Idk why he is not replying. I know part of his family is in canada...Idk if he went as well. Usually when he is there he doesn't stay online. Or he could just be over with me and totally ignoring me. What do you think? IP: Logged |
redshoes Knowflake Posts: 660 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted September 09, 2013 06:13 PM
quote: Originally posted by Dreaming111: @ redshoes:Do you think that it was a mistake for me to have messaged him today? Idk why he is not replying. I know part of his family is in canada...Idk if he went as well. Usually when he is there he doesn't stay online. Or he could just be over with me and totally ignoring me. What do you think?
Thanks for the reading....very very helpful....no they never ever change!!!! Men that is! Ten Coins no it wasnt a mistake BUT 10 is a completion card, so i would say no more contacting....you can now say that you have completed that issue and stand back.......LIKE ME!! LET US STAND BACK TOGETHER * will he stalk me lol? IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 06:27 PM
quote: Originally posted by redshoes: Thanks for the reading....very very helpful....no they never ever change!!!! Men that is! Ten Coins no it wasnt a mistake BUT 10 is a completion card, so i would say no more contacting....you can now say that you have completed that issue and stand back.......LIKE ME!! LET US STAND BACK TOGETHER * will he stalk me lol?
Yes, now I have you as a partner in crime. lol Yeah men don't change and we shouldn't force them to be what we want them to be. Kind of makes for a not so satisfying situation later.... I hate spelling things out for them. It's weird because when I don't he used to get upset that I was being "cold" lol.... It was more like, " No, I'm being like you...." Anyway, will redshoes's guy stalk her? nine of pentacles.... Yes. lol And he won't let you know for a while about this. In the end he will work to win you back. Lucky girl. haha Do you see Ali as being with, interesting in, or dating someone else? Maybe I'm not on his radar at all.
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Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 06:27 PM
quote: Originally posted by redshoes: Thanks for the reading....very very helpful....no they never ever change!!!! Men that is! Ten Coins no it wasnt a mistake BUT 10 is a completion card, so i would say no more contacting....you can now say that you have completed that issue and stand back.......LIKE ME!! LET US STAND BACK TOGETHER * will he stalk me lol?
Yes, now I have you as a partner in crime. lol Yeah men don't change and we shouldn't force them to be what we want them to be. Kind of makes for a not so satisfying situation later.... I hate spelling things out for them. It's weird because when I don't he used to get upset that I was being "cold" lol.... It was more like, " No, I'm being like you...." Anyway, will redshoes's guy stalk her? nine of pentacles.... Yes. lol And he won't let you know for a while about this. In the end he will work to win you back. Lucky girl. haha Do you see Ali as being with, interesting in, or dating someone else? Maybe I'm not on his radar at all.
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Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 09, 2013 06:28 PM
@ vesta, slowpokeLet me know if you guys want me to do readings for you. IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 11, 2013 01:48 AM
Update:It's official. He's ignoring me. Oh well, I can't say I didn't try. Ironically, I'm not even upset. I suppose I didn't really expect any better from him. IP: Logged |
bethbabe Knowflake Posts: 354 From: CA Registered: Jun 2012
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posted September 11, 2013 01:52 AM
quote: Originally posted by Dreaming111: Update:It's official. He's ignoring me. Oh well, I can't say I didn't try. Ironically, I'm not even upset. I suppose I didn't really expect any better from him.
wow....i just saw your first post, and intuitively, i wanted to tell you to move on....then i scrolled down to find your update! You deserve better!!! IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 11, 2013 01:58 AM
quote: Originally posted by bethbabe: wow....i just saw your first post, and intuitively, i wanted to tell you to move on....then i scrolled down to find your update! You deserve better!!!
Yeah, I feel that way too. I feel nothing at the moment. Not angry. Not sad. Not anything. That's surprising since I'm normally emotional over this sort of stuff esp the dynamic between us. On a better note. I had a fantastic day today. So I guess keeping up with other parts of my life, helps soften the blow of this. IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 11, 2013 02:01 AM
quote: Originally posted by bethbabe: wow....i just saw your first post, and intuitively, i wanted to tell you to move on....then i scrolled down to find your update! You deserve better!!!
Yeah, I feel that way too. I feel nothing at the moment. Not angry. Not sad. Not anything. That's surprising since I'm normally emotional over this sort of stuff esp the dynamic between us. On a better note. I had a fantastic day today. So I guess keeping up with other parts of my life, helps soften the blow of this. IP: Logged |
bethbabe Knowflake Posts: 354 From: CA Registered: Jun 2012
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posted September 11, 2013 02:01 AM
quote: Originally posted by Dreaming111: Yeah, I feel that way too.I feel nothing at the moment. Not angry. Not sad. Not anything. That's surprising since I'm normally emotional over this sort of stuff esp the dynamic between us. On a better note. I had a fantastic day today. So I guess keeping up with other parts of my life, helps soften the blow of this.
Yayy! i'm glad you had an awesome day! sighs, i am having no luck in the relationship department either. But i have been trying to focus on my studies only so that takes my mind off of things just a little at least. LOL hooray for the both of us IP: Logged |