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Topic: Readings exchanges
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isabelle_lila
Knowflake Posts: 1027
From: france
Registered: May 2011
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posted September 26, 2013 01:29 PM
  
Hello everyone, I would like to exchange up to 3 readings. Since F (my ex) is coming back in the activities that we shared (even if he said after our breakup that he would not), I don't know what to expect. He tried & tried again to engage in conversation with me. In the end, I give in and talk to him. Was it a mistake ? So what is he thinking ? What are his intentions ? Will everything work out fine between us ? anything about the situation etc... Thank you. Ask your question ! IP: Logged |
Twirl
Knowflake Posts: 2050
From: Europe
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted September 26, 2013 01:35 PM
He seems emotionally unstable & I would be careful to trust him if I were you. Is he currently involved with someone else? Just my take of course.IP: Logged |
isabelle_lila
Knowflake Posts: 1027
From: france
Registered: May 2011
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posted September 26, 2013 03:10 PM
Hello Twirl,Thank you for your input. In which ways do you think he can't be trusted ? Yes, he is with someone. I told him in the past that he shouldn't come back because it is an uneasy situation for me (to say the least). This time, he is super determinated and now he is always on the forum/chat and wants to come to the events I will organized in october/november. Alas I still have feelings for him 
Do you haves questions ? 
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Twirl
Knowflake Posts: 2050
From: Europe
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted September 26, 2013 03:19 PM
Hi  This is someone who is emotionally manipulative. He wants what he wants and he will use his emotions (and play on guilt & use "but I need you, am nothing without you") into getting it. He wouldn't mind having an affair with you & still see the other girl. Needy, moody, co-dependent, deceitful, dishonest. I just wouldn't go there. This isn't someone to build on. Was he faithful in the past? Or was that one of the issues?
Just guard yourself. Sorry I have no questions, so it's okay. Thanks IP: Logged |
isabelle_lila
Knowflake Posts: 1027
From: france
Registered: May 2011
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posted September 26, 2013 06:36 PM
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Originally posted by Twirl:
Hi This is someone who is emotionally manipulative. He wants what he wants and he will use his emotions (and play on guilt & use "but I need you, am nothing without you") into getting it. He wouldn't mind having an affair with you & still see the other girl. Needy, moody, co-dependent, deceitful, dishonest. I just wouldn't go there. This isn't someone to build on. Was he faithful in the past? Or was that one of the issues?
Just guard yourself. Sorry I have no questions, so it's okay. Thanks
Thanks. I try to be on my guard with him (and even more with myself). I think you are quite right about the manipulative side ! Faithfulness was not the direct issue since I didn't want to be "intimate" with him the first time since everything was not clear on his side.
I just don't get why he is coming back since nothing has change on his side Thank you for your honesty. IP: Logged |
Twirl
Knowflake Posts: 2050
From: Europe
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted September 27, 2013 05:35 AM
Hi, Welcome & sorry if I put it down a bit too blunt. I think there may be some insatisfaction going on in his life & this type of man then seeks something (or someone) to ease & nurture those 'painful' bits inside him.
For you however I don't think that's a type of man you need in your life, because it's the type that makes people unhappy, because of that instability. Meaning you would have to deal with all the mood swings & the fact that he probably just dissapears again anyway. Also in all the cards I put down was 'deceit', 'untrustworthy'. So if it helps you, you can of course just communicate with him, but don't expect anything solid to come from it. So mind your boundaries & self protection. I think that in the long run you will see what type of man this is and decide you would like someone nicer and more suiting for you in your life and someone you can just be yourself with, without feeling 'on edge' about what his next actions will be (and if he will still be there in the morning or took off again) IP: Logged |
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