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Topic: Marriage on the brink of divorce? Please help
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ProudLeo Knowflake Posts: 75 From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227 Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 27, 2013 12:46 AM
I have asked several times for some insight or interpretation of my personal chart to see what is going on with my inward struggles my marriage is showing signs of stress and I would really like to figure out what is going on. We have been married for 12 years and made it through some serious and difficult obstacles. Lately tho, I am feeling trapped and not attracted to my husband...are my changes causing me to detach. Divorce? Or will it pass. Why the transformation in me? Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated. IP: Logged |
Bluejay Knowflake Posts: 55 From: Registered: Jun 2013
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posted September 27, 2013 01:45 AM
Is this you and your husband's chart or are you asking for someone else? Just curious because I've read many of your posts about the Cancer musician. If you are married and you are having mind blowing sex on the beach with someone you barely know, then I'd say you have no interest in being married to this man. It sounds like you were already planning your future with the new guy. Also, if the Cancer knew you were married then that could explain the disappearing act. Cancers are very sensitive, and if you do it WITH them then you will do it TO them, so I'd say he would never trust you with his heart. Sorry, it's off topic, I was just very confused after reading your other comments. Unless you are in a polyamorous or open marriage my advice would be to get a divorce! It doesn't matter if your husband cheated first, or he's mean to you, or he doesn't tell you you're pretty. Whatever other reasons people use to justify cheating. You don't seem invested in the marriage at all and you are probably staying for security reasons. I'd advise to fully commit or leave. IP: Logged |
happyaskings Knowflake Posts: 602 From: Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 27, 2013 03:04 AM
quote: Originally posted by Bluejay: Is this you and your husband's chart or are you asking for someone else? Just curious because I've read many of your posts about the Cancer musician. If you are married and you are having mind blowing sex on the beach with someone you barely know, then I'd say you have no interest in being married to this man. It sounds like you were already planning your future with the new guy. Also, if the Cancer knew you were married then that could explain the disappearing act. Cancers are very sensitive, and if you do it WITH them then you will do it TO them, so I'd say he would never trust you with his heart. Sorry, it's off topic, I was just very confused after reading your other comments. Unless you are in a polyamorous or open marriage my advice would be to get a divorce! It doesn't matter if your husband cheated first, or he's mean to you, or he doesn't tell you you're pretty. Whatever other reasons people use to justify cheating. You don't seem invested in the marriage at all and you are probably staying for security reasons. I'd advise to fully commit or leave.
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SilverFeather Knowflake Posts: 906 From: Mercury sometimes...Jupiter some other times Registered: Aug 2012
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posted September 27, 2013 07:39 AM
now that u asked the question, I think it's about time u let go. I asked the tarot about you I got the High Priestess, you're not being sincere.
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ProudLeo Knowflake Posts: 75 From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227 Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 27, 2013 08:06 AM
Yes, cancer knows about my husband and my husband knows about cancer....and I know about my husbands previous many affairs. What I'm really looking for is anything in the charts that would point to WHY I have been experiencing this transformation in the past year or so....any aspects that have changed my focus or is in opposition to my husband. I've been committed for 12 years without falter, doing everything possible to keep my marriage I had to sacrifice everything...not just as in all of my goals and dreams, but my actual core nature and personality. We made it through his affairs and emotional abuse and he has actually made some very positive changes since his last affair and I forgave and we had a really strong, healthy relationship but...no passion...just obligation and responsibility...that basically is what kept me through the roughest of times. But I've been content non the less....but why the sudden change in me in the past year. Why am I not content with it anymore...and this was happening long before cancer found me...and because I married so young (my husband is 14 years older than me) i had no real experiences with love or relationships but, of course, thought I had it all figured out. So, no...this isn't because of cancer...that's pretty much come to an end anyway....this is because of something going on with me...and I'm trying to figure out what is going on and where I should go from here. I wasted a lot of time not being myself in order to be a stereotypical "submissive wife" and I actually think I convinced myself I was happy...every time he would stay instead of leaving with his mistress...or every time we would get through another tragedy...it was like a victory...but to what end? Are we even compatible...because over this last year or longer I feel like I'm just becoming the real me and I don't think he likes her. So...looking at the charts can it be that we just aren't compatible, it's just a passing transit, or persevere and keep going. Is it possible i made the wrong decision in marrying him? Those are the things I'm looking for. I'm well aware of the rest...thanks. IP: Logged |
Love&Light Knowflake Posts: 889 From: India Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 29, 2013 09:25 AM
I can understand what you are trying to say. But I am not an astro person so lets hope someone else comes along and answers this question of yours but in the meantime can I give you a practical advice? Why not try to do something, however 'small', that can help you be yourself, go out, take a part time job, make new friends. Just get your space. Then perhaps you will be able to see in better perspective. Just my 2 cents.IP: Logged |
ProudLeo Knowflake Posts: 75 From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227 Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 29, 2013 09:58 AM
quote: Originally posted by Love&Light: I can understand what you are trying to say. But I am not an astro person so lets hope someone else comes along and answers this question of yours but in the meantime can I give you a practical advice? Why not try to do something, however 'small', that can help you be yourself, go out, take a part time job, make new friends. Just get your space. Then perhaps you will be able to see in better perspective. Just my 2 cents.
Thank you...that's exactly what I have been doing over this last year...becoming myself. Someone pointed out yesterday saturn transit my asc in scorpio!! Makes total sense!! Right on the money...I almost fell to the floor when reading it. Things have been completely cut off with cancer man, this is a time to come into myself and get on the path meant for me. I did learn some valuable lessons from him tho...and I think it had a purpose. And I have shared all these things with my husband...now that I have a place to start looking for answers, we have something to work with. It's been a few good days for us and we will see what lessons are ahead. Thanks everyone. IP: Logged | |