posted October 01, 2013 04:54 PM            

There are two guys very dear to my heart and I've been trying to come to terms which one I might be really in love with. Both are good friends of mine and I don't want to mislead either one. I had synastry and horary readings, and both seem to indicate existent and/or future feelings from each...

Guy #1 has a very calming energy, which is good because I'm highstrung most of the time. He's older than me. If I had to use words to describe him, they'd be warmth, cosyness, home, partnership.

Guy #2 energizes me. Makes me work that bit more to show him up. His energy is stimulating, exciting, gives me a frissom every time we get in touch with each other (email, phone, in person). Words that describe him would be adventure, passion, sex.

I'm so bummed out I can't have both or a mixture of them...

Can anyone see what's up with me, or with them, or which one is better for me, or anything that might clarify things a little bit? I'm too close to things to be objetive and it's driving me CRAZY.

posted October 01, 2013 05:43 PM            

Just had a quick glimpse for you. I asked about the potential of the relationship/love connection. Nothing written in stone just yet.

Now I must say that for both of the guys I'm getting a bit of 'mmm-nottoosure about a long term/serious connection'.

I think you and guy 1 are too different & one would totally 'take over/overrule the other. I'm guessing that's him, so this is not your best pick. Feels codependent & unsatisfactory.

posted October 01, 2013 06:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Twirl:
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Just had a quick glimpse for you. I asked about the potential of the relationship/love connection. Nothing written in stone just yet.

Now I must say that for both of the guys I'm getting a bit of 'mmm-nottoosure about a long term/serious connection'.

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Could this be my confusion interfering? Both know I'd never go for anything not serious, relationship-wise... Or just that right now we're not getting romanticly involved? That's actually what it looks like to, which is why I'm asking. (I'd at least leave that door open).

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I think you and guy 1 are too different & one would totally 'take over/overrule the other. I'm guessing that's him, so this is not your best pick. Feels codependent & unsatisfactory.

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We are indeed too different, but we have a lot in common also. In our frienship so far I'm the one calling the shots, though... He pursued me when I wasn't available, and it seems now he expects me to do the pursuing... I've never felt unsatisfied around him. It's just that he seem to want me to take care of him, while remaining independent.

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Guy 2 is an 'option', but also feels difficult to get on the same page. Guessing one of you is also a bit dominant over the other, but much less than with guy one. Also here nothing written in stone. I'm also not too sure how trustworthy this man would be, but it still feels like a better match/potential than number 1. Do you live rather far apart?

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Tbis is interesting, because Guy 1 leaves in another state, but Guy 2 lives 45 min away from me... Could this be reversed? The first interpretation would actually fit Guy 2 but better than Guy 1, since he tries to keep tabs on me...

posted October 01, 2013 06:25 PM            

No, it's not reversed. I just asked that question to see if it was also actual distance or that guy2 just likes to keep his options open.

The feelings I described (like unsatisfactory) would be in an actual relationship (that's why you don't recognise this), but I don't think the potential is that good with both.
I would just be a bit careful with both & see if you can add a number 3 on the list

posted October 01, 2013 06:39 PM            

I'm definitely leaving my options open, if they'd just turn into control freaks over me! I already have one overbearing mother, no need to add another figure, lol.