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Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 02:00 AM
  
Hello, I'm new to the site. I've been interested in astrology for some years now. I recently met a gentleman online a few weeks ago whom i feel comfortable chatting with. We plan to meet at some point but I'm not ready but he is willing to wait and being very patient. There is just something about him that i just cant put my finger on, i cant describe the feeling, its apprehension and maybe fear but i am so curious to meet him. He just moved to my city a few weeks ago for a graduate degree program and hes also teaching a math course at his college. I don't know why I'm so afraid to meet. I just got out of an eight year relationship last year. He doesn't look creepy...he looks out there like a mad scientist and he's handsome with gorgeous blue-gray eyes. I've verified his identity and schooling so far. Could someone please look at my charts and tell me what you think? I'd appreciate it very much.
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hannaramaa
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posted October 03, 2013 02:30 AM
He doesn't happen to have a beard and wear glasses does he?IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 02:40 AM
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He doesn't happen to have a beard and wear glasses does he?
haha, no he doesn't have a beard! He does wear glasses. Do anything stand out in the chart(s) to you at all? IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted October 03, 2013 02:42 AM
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haha, no he doesn't have a beard! He does wear glasses. Do anything stand out in the chart(s) to you at all?
I'll read it..... but what online site did you meet him if you don't mind me asking? Is he a psychology student? IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted October 03, 2013 02:51 AM
First thing I noticed in his chart was neptune in the 1st. Sometimes that can send off a "vibe" to others, especially intuitive types that all is not as it seems.IP: Logged |
EmpressMendez
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posted October 03, 2013 02:54 AM
Have you met others offline before? I'm getting the feeling you're just scared because it's your first time meeting someone off the Internet/dating site offline.IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 03:01 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I'll read it..... but what online site did you meet him if you don't mind me asking? Is he a psychology student?
I met him on okcupid. He is in the phd program (i did verify his pic and credentials is on the school's website and i also attended this same school years ago) for geography/international trading goods. I noticed the neptune in 1st house, he could really be a wolf in sheep's clothing and i am weary of his fifth house taurus stellium which to me seems like he could be a good "actor" and maybe arrogant. Wouldnt taurus energy be kinda wacky sitting the house of Leo? But he is wickedly bright. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted October 03, 2013 03:03 AM
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hannaramaa
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posted October 03, 2013 03:04 AM
He also has Venus opposing Neptune and Uranus in the 12th house. I didn't look at the aspects Uranus was making but Uranus in the 12th house seems erratic to me. Like, the 12th house already has issues but to put Uranus in there? Yikes!IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 03:07 AM
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Originally posted by EmpressMendez:
Have you met others offline before? I'm getting the feeling you're just scared because it's your first time meeting someone off the Internet/dating site offline.
Yes i have met three guys from okcupid since joining June 2012. I didn't click with those guys because i sensed one was a pathological liar and i actually researched him and verified that he tried lying about some things etc and im very cautious like i will not tolerate someone pushing to meet asap either. I will tell them no thanks and stop contact immediately. IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 03:09 AM
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hannaramaa
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posted October 03, 2013 03:11 AM
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Originally posted by Gracha:
Lol No. his username actually is relating to his being a lifelong learner.Couldnt i count uranus as being in first house since its so close to the ascendant?
Thank god. The way you described him sounded like someone I met on there and I felt the same way about meeting him. He had Sag in him as well, weird. Anyway, no it's firmly in the 12th at 8 degrees. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted October 03, 2013 03:12 AM
This may be off the wall but I'm looking and he's got Jupiter conj. his ASC (or close at least) and then he's got Neptune, and then he's got Chiron in Taurus, and Venus opp. Neptune so intuitively I'm wondering if he's lying about his appearance and perhaps you sense that?IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted October 03, 2013 03:14 AM
Could you unquote his username for me?IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 03:25 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
This may be off the wall but I'm looking and he's got Jupiter conj. his ASC (or close at least) and then he's got Neptune, and then he's got Chiron in Taurus, and Venus opp. Neptune so intuitively I'm wondering if he's lying about his appearance and perhaps you sense that?
I tend to attract alot of sag rising men. I'm not sure what it is they want with me but no way lol my ascendant falls in his 8th house which is conjunct his vertex, is he going to try killing me?? I know i must sound crazy but he scares the heck out of me. What's weird i normally get a little obsessed over a guy but nooo it didnt happen with this one but at the same time i am curious about him. My ex boyfriend whom i was with for eight years was sag rising. He fooled me big time and he was a moon/venus/sun in gemini. The picture he had on his profile was a couple of years old. i DID actually sense that he was lying about something. After doing my research, i found pictures of him online and the schools website which showed he is about 30 pounds heavier, but im not shallow so that doesnt really bother me and another thing the weight gain makes him look different. The hair color, hair line eyes are the same, oh and the ears are exact too. Im seriously wondering if he has suffered some kind of nervous breakdown or has a medical condition. But, he did tell me he gained weight and needed to get back into the gym. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted October 03, 2013 03:36 AM
That's so weird! I FEEL like this is deja vu. If your Vertex falls in his 8th house, he would be more affected. He would feel it's fated I think (anyone else have input on this?) Two, you added a lot of asteroids that were unnecessary (imho). If you take those out, it'd be easier to read the chart. Three, I've seen a lot of Cancer/Sag couples, I don't know what it is. Are you sure you're scared? I noticed your composite has Libra ASC and that alone could point to general wishy-washiness in the relationship (composite is the relationship, synastry is how two people interact if that makes sense) IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 03:41 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
That's so weird! I FEEL like this is deja vu. If your Vertex falls in his 8th house, he would be more affected. He would feel it's fated I think (anyone else have input on this?) Two, you added a lot of asteroids that were unnecessary (imho). If you take those out, it'd be easier to read the chart. Three, I've seen a lot of Cancer/Sag couples, I don't know what it is. Are you sure you're scared? I noticed your composite has Libra ASC and that alone could point to general wishy-washiness in the relationship (composite is the relationship, synastry is how two people interact if that makes sense)
Okay ill repost without asteroids. I didnt mean to add ceres and pallas. Im an aries and he's taurus. Do you mean youve seen that ascendant in couples? IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted October 03, 2013 03:43 AM
Taurus guys are freaky btw. They have their routine in every day life but sexually they're weird. Maybe that's the Uranus in the 12th house thing.And I meant Suns or ASC, doesn't matter... I've just seen a lot of Cancer influenced people get along best with Sag influenced people. I think they have a lot of similar qualities. IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 03:52 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
That's so weird! I FEEL like this is deja vu. If your Vertex falls in his 8th house, he would be more affected. He would feel it's fated I think (anyone else have input on this?) Two, you added a lot of asteroids that were unnecessary (imho). If you take those out, it'd be easier to read the chart. Three, I've seen a lot of Cancer/Sag couples, I don't know what it is. Are you sure you're scared? I noticed your composite has Libra ASC and that alone could point to general wishy-washiness in the relationship (composite is the relationship, synastry is how two people interact if that makes sense)
I feel scared perhaps more unsure than anything. My ascendant falls into his 8th house and THAT scares me. IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 03:56 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Taurus guys are freaky btw. They have their routine in every day life but sexually they're weird. Maybe that's the Uranus in the 12th house thing.And I meant Suns or ASC, doesn't matter... I've just seen a lot of Cancer influenced people get along best with Sag influenced people. I think they have a lot of similar qualities.
Thats weird. He likes exploring too. So you said my ascendant being in his 8th house would feel fated to him, i didnt know he'd feel that. Why'd you call it dejavu? Did you notice that his moon is in pisces and sits in 3rd house while my moon is gemini and sits in 12th? Maybe i just dont want to meet him but i do its hard to explain. IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 04:39 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
He also has Venus opposing Neptune and Uranus in the 12th house. I didn't look at the aspects Uranus was making but Uranus in the 12th house seems erratic to me. Like, the 12th house already has issues but to put Uranus in there? Yikes!
I unquoted the name. Thank you for the help!! IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 06:51 AM
Does anybody else have anything to add? Am I just being crazy?IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 01:44 PM
Should I be worried about his taurus stellium not really touching the other planets? How would someone with sun in 5th house behave would they have leo like qualities? What about the 7th house venus opposite uranus and jupiter? Does it mean he's erratic with love or overly at times? I think he could possibly want freedom and a partner but prefer his own space. With jupiter conjunct the ascendant I'm assuming that'd make him jovial and trusting but his jupiter is retrograde so I'm not quite sure how this plays out. It looks like his mc is opposite my ic, I think he has some sort of secret about himself with pluto in 10th house. Not sure really. But he seems very reserved but I feel like something else is underlining.IP: Logged |
EmpressMendez
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posted October 03, 2013 01:53 PM
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Originally posted by Gracha:
Yes i have met three guys from okcupid since joining June 2012. I didn't click with those guys because i sensed one was a pathological liar and i actually researched him and verified that he tried lying about some things etc and im very cautious like i will not tolerate someone pushing to meet asap either. I will tell them no thanks and stop contact immediately.
Oh, I see. Maybe you're scared of just him not being "it" again? Or, the opposite..that he is IT  -- well, that is what I'm sensing. Something similar to that..just your own fear of maybe wasting your time. Not that he is scary himself, or a bad person. This is all coming from what I feel, no cards or charts involved by the way. Let me warn you that sometimes I cannot tell the differences between someone that is mellow (as in using some form of substance to relax), scared, etc because they all feel the same to me and that is the same feeling I'm getting from you. Okay, I wish you luck!! Keep us updated if you can =) IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted October 03, 2013 02:15 PM
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Originally posted by EmpressMendez:
Oh, I see. Maybe you're scared of just him not being "it" again? Or, the opposite..that he is IT -- well, that is what I'm sensing. Something similar to that..just your own fear of maybe wasting your time. Not that he is scary himself, or a bad person. This is all coming from what I feel, no cards or charts involved by the way. Let me warn you that sometimes I cannot tell the differences between someone that is mellow (as in using some form of substance to relax), scared, etc because they all feel the same to me and that is the same feeling I'm getting from you.Okay, I wish you luck!! Keep us updated if you can =)
Thank you EmpressMendez! Yes I am afraid too of wasting my time and I have thought about him being it but I don't want to think that it scares me to heck if he's IT. I've retrained myself to not look at the future with a guy I'm dating because I've been disappointed too many times so far. There is a lingering fear that he could play some type of major role in my life and not knowing what that is. Thank you I will keep you updated on what happens. IP: Logged |
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