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Topic: Why does he hate me?
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Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1768 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted November 22, 2013 12:17 AM
Why does A hate me? I talked to him and he called whatever we had ******** and was pretty cruel. I tried to keep the peace but I didn't just nod my head and agree with his version. I don't get how a person who prides himself on care and empathy would become this monster especially toward me when I never betrayed him. Why the heck does he hate me so much? Also...does he really have no value for what we had? (Or is he just being emotional?) Could someone do a tarot for me?
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Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1768 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted November 25, 2013 02:49 AM
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DeepFreeze Knowflake Posts: 186 From: Pluto Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 25, 2013 02:56 AM
I know you asked for a Tarot as did I in another thread. LOL It's not a tarot but I thought I would offer this. Sorry if it's not wanted. I've been cruel just as you describe. It's not right, but it's all in the past now so hopefully I can be more mature about stuff like that. Anyway, I wouldn't be so quick to say that he does hate you. I ALWAYS did it because my feelings were such that even remaining on good terms would be extremely difficult, exhausting, and perhaps painful. Simply because I felt love. I felt it was impossible to go one step backwards. I couldn't go forwards, so it was all or nothing and I chose nothing. It may be just him pushing away, creating distance because he doesn't know how else to deal with it. IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1768 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted November 27, 2013 12:45 AM
...Hmm...But if it's love then...you figure out a good medium to work from...You don't just take a hammer and trash the place. How is that constructive or even logical. How many people will suck up their pride for you after a breakup? How many can you say genuinely cared for your happiness and well-being...? I'm just coming to a conclusion that I fell for a jerk. I don't feel like he has a conscious. Maybe he's a sociopath. Idk.. I feel he has a cold heart. A selfish heart. A person cannot ever experience love if they are selfish. That is what I believe. Just sucks how someone can adore you and care for you deeply and then spit all over you like you are some contagious crap. I feel...like punching him... :/ IP: Logged |
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1768 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted November 27, 2013 12:46 AM
Oh and deepfreeze thanks for the insight...You're a guy right? IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze Knowflake Posts: 186 From: Pluto Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 27, 2013 01:12 AM
quote: Originally posted by Dreaming111: Oh and deepfreeze thanks for the insight...You're a guy right?
Yes I am. Hahaha, I could be a sociopath. Who knows? It's weird logic I know. Did you even mention anything about his chart? I don't remember. Me? I can smash the place up and walk away. I don't necessarily plan and plot it all out but I've figured it out over time. It serves two purposes: One is, I can disappear and bury all of that stuff. As if they don't exist. Out of sight, out of mind. Even though that's not EXACTLY true those feelings can be buried and try to move on. The second thing is, by being a butthole and "smashing the place up" it drives them away, ensuring that I do get that space. If they're mad at me or hate me then they won't come bugging me. If they're around or we try to be friends then I'm simply reminded of what was lost. The pain of it just lingers on. I did that one woman about 6 years ago. After about a year we were good friends again. Then just recently she wanted to get back together. I felt kind of bad but I can't. I can already see that nothing would be different. Well anyway, I just thought I'd throw that spin on it. That may not even be true for him. It's possible though. IP: Logged |