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Originally posted by cherful24:
the first big sense that I got was that he trying to make a wrong...a right >> That could be very true, he definitely did wrong to me and I think it has taken him a while to realize that but it has finally come to him.
so I don't know if it has to do with something with you and him directly... such as something bad happened with you two
>>> We did have several big problems but one particular big problem which caused me not to speak to him for a year. He has tried to befriend me again but I am keeping him at a distance. I got the feeling that he still wants to but is trying to take it slower as not to cause an eruption again or bring up past problems.
or something maybe bad that you did to him, Exedra...or perhaps he didn't have past relationship that worked out well
>>> there was a past relationship and on again off again scenarios that were not dealt with maturely by either of us.
or his family, friends, whoever has a bit of doubt or miss trust in him. so I can tell you he played it with a bit of caution that.
>>> Not sure what to think of this. Many of his male friends have a crush on me, and his female friends have a crush on him, and both felt jealous for this and other reasons. I think he is trying to slowly get them to stop doing this and respect both of us. They were part of the problem for us ending in the very beginning and for probably a lot of background drama in the past.
another overwhelming sense I got is coming from you And that is: anxiousness.
>>> I think I'm anxious about what will happen and when. I am unsure about what paths to allow myself to go down. I am unsure if I am right to continue keeping him at a distance.... I am angry that he has never had the decency to ever come out and apologize directly and take responsibility for the wrong he has done.
for some reason what I am getting is that the impression he gave of you was that of a smart and studious woman.
>>> there is actually a good reason for him to be doing this. I think he is secretly reading things of mine online (blog, Facebook, etc...) and he would have come to discover many things that he wouldn't have known about me before and realized that I'm actually a lot more intelligent than I am ever given credit for. I never speak as much as I write.
I feel that the telling of information about you
is slower than what will might be expecting, but that's not a bad thing because he didn't want to say anything in such a way that they might receive it as puppy love and not something that is serious and developing of something permanent is serious that they need to be respectful of.
>>> It's hard to say why. I think he's worried about the jealousy around him- males and females as I mentioned before. He probably feels a lot more than he says but does't want women especially to start attacking his reputation because he has more affection for someone else. He also doesn't want his male friends attacking him to me by making them jealous.
the impression that they have when he left is that they thought....he knows what he is doing. and for whatever reason that means a lot to him.
>>> Hmmm... that's something for me to think more about. I can definitely see it being true though.
I'm sorry this news is not as exciting as you were hoping for....
>>> Not at all. It's close to a lot of things that I was thinking and I am happy not to have a mushy result.
its more somber but that's because he was trying to convey that you and him and are going to be serious and it's going to go the distance and he needs to have everybody on board for each and every mile.
>>> But that is more to think about too, because I was getting the impression that he had some realizations about me, life, relationships etc. He has done a lot of maturing in the last while since we haven't spoken. I could see him thinking all of that but at the same time wondering if it is even possible.
so it is very positive and it did have a very good outcome.
>>> agreed
there's just a lot of caution with him and with these people that he's telling about you.....
>>>Yes caution, and probably a little bit of a warning to them to not try to cause any BS if things did start again. I think he's matured and seen through their tricks, drama, gossip, etc.... and he's started to see what kind of true people there are out there for him.
I'm curious to know if something did happen that was bad or if he had a bad relationship in the past.
>>> Too many people, both male and female, were jealous and put negative things about me in his head.
there's something of a conflict here/that happened.... that I sense deeply.....i feel its weighing very heavily on this person and its a burden that he is trying to fix/clear and then he can become more relaxEd and free spirited, so to speak, about the rel. With you.
>>> He did some bad things that I still can't forgive him for. He took his actions too lightly. I know he regrets it all and he longs to have contact again. He did try but although I was polite with him, I rejected allowing him to get too close to me again right now. I did not slam the door though. But I am unsure about so many things. Obviously, I really want nothing to do with most of the friends in his life because of their drama and immaturity issues.
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posted November 30, 2013 01:51 AM
