posted December 02, 2013 10:35 PM
1 - What did F want with me in the past?Heirophant (R), 2 of Cups, 7 of Swords
I get a feeling that he wanted the closeness of a connected relationship- the support, the emotional bonding, without the rules.
Also he felt a bond with you and did really care about you, he just wasn't someone that could be pinned down. He had this internal need for rebellion, to go against status quo. He couldn't help being underhanded in his actions, it was just part of who he was. It was really quite a struggle at times for him obviously.
2 - Why did he say those things to hurt me?
He was really pigheaded and wouldn't budge from his beliefs. He wasn't prepared to accept anything that might go against what he rationalised to himself. He was just focused on short term gratification.
3 - What more I need to learn to find love again?
Step back and instead of focusing on specific incidents, look at the bigger picture. What did you learn from him, what did you learn from the experience? What will you now accept as appropriate behaviour? What will now be lines that shouldn't be crossed? Boundaries should be firmer. Learn that if there are fundamental differences, and if trust is shakey, that sometimes cutting things off is the healthy thing to do.
Lindaland
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posted December 01, 2013 07:09 PM
Been super busy trying to tie up loose ends lately. Don't know where my original thread was, but can you write down those 3 questions you wanted me to answer?
posted December 02, 2013 05:44 AM
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