posted January 02, 2014 08:05 AM            

It was not love at first, not for me. Actually, the attraction only came on later, a year and a half later from meeting him. So I want to know what's that about... And how I affect him.

SYNASTRY

COMPOSITE

posted January 03, 2014 02:00 PM            

I'm not an expert at Synastry/Composites, but one thing that stuck out to me was the lack of conjunctions in the Synastry. I think I read on one of the forums that there needs to be a few conjunctions to make things intense and bonding.

posted January 03, 2014 02:31 PM            

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so that he might feel that you fun, positive, and are a kind of lead to him in your relationship (whether friendship or romantic)

It's funny that you say this, because I'm such a wet blanket to what he finds "fun" but he hasn't really let go of the hope of convincing me to take his advice. For instance, I don't drink alcohol, never have. He does. He always says I should let go and get drunk, but I never do because I don't really trust myself around him, lol. I don't want to jump him in public and be turned down. It'd be very humiliating to me, tbh. On the other hand, I tend to pep talk him when he gets down and allows me to see it. Also, he always ends up following my lead and respecting my boundaries, even if, from time to time, he pushes my limits a little too hard. He never crosses me, though.

You fit his image of Lilith, the strong willed woman that is your own boss and individuality.

Lol, I do that. I've been told he speaks about me when drunk, and he's tone is always awed and in admiration. Like, he'll say "she'll be big one day, she's got all the things that can take her wherever she wants to go". It was really surprising to hear he speaks this of me, as he doesn't show me this more sentimental side of him. I guess I put the fear of being found weak in him. =/

He can find you attractive, feminine, there can be sexual attraction towards you.

He has never pulled a move on me, but he does like to stare at me or stare me down, and he has some problem with my personal space when we find ourselves alone. We both tamp down on our attraction, though.

he can find you as someone familiar, a sense of family feeling.

I think it helps that I'm the cousin of an old friend of his. My male cousin used to and still does play soccer with him every once in a while, so when we met, there was this instant recognization between us.

so he finds you endearing and you can be supportive of him.

I can attest that he really seems to care for me and I do support him.

You are unconventional, original in his eyes; and you might look for his guidance as Chiron is also a mentor figure.

Lol, I just behave differently from what he expects out of me. We have different backgrounds and our raising are polar opposites, so he probably thinks I'm unconventional. And I do look to him for help, or at least I know I can.

It can lead to disappointments if one is not careful, which requires maturity and compassion to solve.

I actually told him back in 2008 that I had a crush on him. He was very surprised but respected me and never made fun or ridiculed me. The one thing that stuck with me the most was what he said when he turned me: "We're friends and I don't want to hurt you". So you might be on to something here.

he can affect your personal transformation, which feels very fated, whether you become lovers or only stay as friends. (...) the opposite can also happen, thought AC conjunct Vertex is stronger.

I've known him for 8 years now. I'm not sure how much he has changed me, but I do think he has been a transformative agent in my life. For the better, I'd say. This relationship, whether romantic or just friendship, does feel fated, as I'm drawn to him, and I know he values me and the relationship, as he said so himself.

AC is conjunct North Node, so whether you are lovers or just friends, there is a sense of purpose in this relationship, lessons to be learned.
Sun/Mars, Sun/Mercury midpoints are conjunct Venus/Moon midpoint, which can show attraction and affection between you, but it seems that Jupiter/Pluto midpoint is opposing their midpoints, so there might be outer influences or relationships that can influence this relationship.
Venus is opposed to Moon/Pluto midpoint, so that there can be a very deep and intense emotional connection, thought one has to be careful as the intensity of Pluto needs to be handled with maturity. Unconscious inner issues can come out and affect the emotions between you.

I agree that this a relationship that has lessons for the both of us. We challenge ourselves to be better and about what we believe is better for the other. The growth and personal understanding that I got from it wouldn't have come to me otherwise, I don't believe. Even though we care for each other, we still don't show each other - or others for that matter - how much we care (unless one gets drunk, apparently ). Tbh, I'm not sure we'll ever be together TOGETHER, but I agree that we'd need a lot more maturity to handle ourselves and the relationship well, so no hard feelings are left behind if things fall through. We both have trust and confidence issues and they'd probably come up in a more romantic relationship, so being mature is a must, I agree.

posted January 03, 2014 02:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Twitterbird05:
Hey Fille,

I'm not an expert at Synastry/Composites, but one thing that stuck out to me was the lack of conjunctions in the Synastry. I think I read on one of the forums that there needs to be a few conjunctions to make things intense and bonding.

Just mah two cents. Not sure if that helps, but another piece of info to store away.

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Hey Twitterbird!

I actually remember reading something along those lines too, you know.

The thing is, the Sun-Moon conjunction is 3º degrees apart... I think that's still considered strong, right? And the few conjunctions that we have are with our angles, which I read once makes the aspect stronger... Fated relationship, if I'm not mistaken.

posted January 03, 2014 02:51 PM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Hey Twitterbird!

I actually remember reading something along those lines too, you know.

The thing is, the Sun-Moon conjunction is 3º degrees apart... I think that's still considered strong, right? And the few conjunctions that we have are with our angles, which I read once makes the aspect stronger... Fated relationship, if I'm not mistaken.

Anyhow, I just have to remember that some fated relationships are platonic and not always romantic, lol.

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Ah yes I missed the Sun/Moon one. I always think it's cool when there's an exact conjunction somewhere. Sun/Moon is great though.

posted January 03, 2014 02:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Twitterbird05:
Ah yes I missed the Sun/Moon one. I always think it's cool when there's an exact conjunction somewhere. Sun/Moon is great though.

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