posted January 05, 2014 02:25 PM            

So, I forget readings...are you able to post it on here.

I will say this, never go into this class/college thinking your gonna have someone stick by you thick and thin, because you wont...........BUT it's going to be ok....it will just turn into a situation where you both find/discover your interests and of course one cant be held back...so its not like this person will be lazy and say screw it, i see IT...YOU...BOTH OF YOU....growing into what you like/dislike and yearning to discover it.

One of you ( i think it will be you) will learn towards a "different folk" in the road and go towards it....the other person will not, they are ok where they are.

Ok, that's what immediatly popped in to me

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
Hey, you and I exchanged once before back in mid december. It really hit hard with me, and while the answer hurt it ended up being true. I don't like doing multiple readings for the same thing, but its been over two weeks, and was wondering if you'd like to exchange again?

I am very stuck. It seems nothing is happening, and I am thinking a lot about college starting in february. I signed up for classes in february with someone, and I want to know if they plan on sticking to it. I'm also curious as to where his head is. I have no clue what's going on. I will answer as many questions as you'd like, if you are interested in exchanging.

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posted January 05, 2014 02:48 PM            

But here is the bottom line with him.

First of all, no you two are not fine....there isn't going to be a "you two"....he has not started living....he is going to date, be in several relationships, etc.

He sees these lives on tv or in the movies, and that's what he wants. He needs and wants to expereince live, living, other people. He just doesn't want to hurt you. He likes you and really does care for you, but this is not where he wants to be....look for him to be moving in the future, I'd say within 2014 too.

I'd seriously start dating others, get your head out of this mess it will only cause you confusion. If you still want to see him, do so...but don't think he's going to become on the stragiht and narrow.

I want to make it a point that it's not you....some people get restless because they are not were they are suppose to be in their lives...he needs to be free, he needs to be elsewhere so again I see him moving at somepoint and that will help you a great deal!!!!

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
I am on my tablet and it freezes on me, so I think it'd take me a long time to find it. I can give you more of a background though.

I asked about my relationship. You bluntly told me you didn't see a relationship, and that he was pulling out...He was withdrawing, and so I gave him an out, which he took. What's strange, is I also gave him an out a few weeks before... He insisted we were okay, came over, and FAUGHT to get into my classes. Alas, a few weeks later he just wasn't putting any effort in so I told him I was done. I haven't heard a word since. Had something similar last year. Although then, we weren't close. From january 1st - Feb 1st. I just wanted insight on what the hell you think is going on, where this is headed. I'm terrified of feb 3. Him being there might kill me, but him dropping the classes definitely will.

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posted January 05, 2014 03:01 PM            

I'm not sitting at home waiting by the phone praying for him to call. Yet, I still cannot see him moving on. That kills me. It seriously gives me anxiety.

I think you're right about him wanting freedom. Being restless. But as for him not living, I don't know. He has a crazy past. Jumping from girl to girl, partying, doing stupid stupid things. I was his first SOLID relationship, not his first by far. He seemed happy. Also, your comment about him not wanting to hurt me is true. He has a serious inner conflict about that. Multiple times he has looked at me with a tortured expression and said things like "I hurt you and I feel like crap. I love you, I just don't want to hurt you"

But its him saying that, and me knowing it, that confuses me. Because I want a relationship. He claimed to want to be with me. Yet now he is gone. I don't get it.

Also, I don't understand him keeping ties with me if he wants out too. Signing up for those classes? Leaving behind valuable stuff on purpose?

I'm not intuitive, I don't have your gift. But I have a feeling, he is out exploring. Flirting. Going out. Focusing on his music. And in a few weeks, or a month, I'm going to get a call. Maybe I'm delusional, but that's honestly my thoughts.

posted January 05, 2014 03:07 PM            

What does cherful24 have to do to find love ?
8 of Cups - Hanged Man - Queen of Pentacles

I think that the queen here possibly represents the qualities you need to search inside yourself for. You seem to possess most of the qualities I'm seeing...down to earth, big hearted. Handling problems logically and matter of factly. Hanged man definitely has a sense of "let go" and a time of postponement, stillness. Eight of cups is showing the need to move forward. In this order with these cards I think you're being told that while you want to move ahead, there will be a delay.

Will cherful24 find love in 2014?
The moon - The World - Wheel of Fortune

My tarot deck is a jerk. I keep getting these cards too. I view them as the vague indorect cards. The equal of a shrug. The moon can be seen as something dark, but I don't view it that way. I honestly view it as things coming to the surface and you realizing something . The world is a happy ending. Maybe an ending to your search? Wheel of fortune I view as fate. The wheel with the world I'd see as a fated end to a cycle and a start to a new one. So if I had to say yes or no on this particular question I would swing towards yes, but if you don't I think the wheel is telling you it will happen when it happens... The wheel is constantly spinning, what goes up must come down. What is down must go up. Since you seem to be towards the bottom in regards to this specific question I would view this as a positive indicator that things WILL shift, and they will shift in your favor.

Does cherful24 know someone who could be their love?
5 of cups - Ace of Wands

posted January 05, 2014 03:14 PM            

You're not crazy....I totally get it. When your in love and want to be with that person, it's hell. It's like the old saying....time heals old wounds....I also believe dating others does too...go on match or something and keep your mind busy, it will make things better and faster!

He cared for you, he likes you...if this was a different phase in his life, I am sure he would be with you....but he is in a phase in which he wants to explore and live, experience new people.

Yes, the leaving stuff and keeping ties, is hard....it's almost as if HE'S NOT LETTING YOU EMOTIONALLY MOVE ON...just in case he does decide he will come back (but he wont for a stable lasting rel.)

Again, he likes you...i think what you need to do, is cut off ties, have him get his stuff, and say you need to be alone right now and he can't contact you (but really try to get out there and date)

close the books on him now. He is out there so don't sit at home hurting and wanting more from him, just close it...that will re-write things and maybe in time you two can keep in contact...but I don't see that happening as again I really think he's gonna move and when he does, he will have so much excite, he wont be thinking about you.

so take control over it. don't let him have the last say.

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
I think something is wrong with me. I have a mental block that I have tried very desperately to break. Obviously I'm trying, I haven't contacted him in seventeen days, I blocked him on everything, and I have been going out.

I'm not sitting at home waiting by the phone praying for him to call. Yet, I still cannot see him moving on. That kills me. It seriously gives me anxiety.

I think you're right about him wanting freedom. Being restless. But as for him not living, I don't know. He has a crazy past. Jumping from girl to girl, partying, doing stupid stupid things. I was his first SOLID relationship, not his first by far. He seemed happy. Also, your comment about him not wanting to hurt me is true. He has a serious inner conflict about that. Multiple times he has looked at me with a tortured expression and said things like "I hurt you and I feel like crap. I love you, I just don't want to hurt you"

But its him saying that, and me knowing it, that confuses me. Because I want a relationship. He claimed to want to be with me. Yet now he is gone. I don't get it.

Also, I don't understand him keeping ties with me if he wants out too. Signing up for those classes? Leaving behind valuable stuff on purpose?

I'm not intuitive, I don't have your gift. But I have a feeling, he is out exploring. Flirting. Going out. Focusing on his music. And in a few weeks, or a month, I'm going to get a call. Maybe I'm delusional, but that's honestly my thoughts.

...I pulled your cards just now , but since I asked three questions not one its taking me a while to answer.

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posted January 05, 2014 03:25 PM            

Its just really hard, maybe more so since he is my first everything. I really did believe wed always come back to each other. I wish I could erase him, and meet him for the first time in my thirties.

Do you think he will remain in our classes, or even in contact? Last year, we were new enough that after three weeks I gave up hope. In my head he had moved on. I seriously would of bet everything he was never going to contact me again. But he did. He did, and I fell really hard. Nine months back, then this.

We had been making a lot of comments these past few months. We act married. Were just comfortable around each other. But yes, he kept mumbling "yes wife" and jokingly saying "its like were married." He also expressed interest in marrying me in the future. Mixed signals, eh? I think he wants to. But not now.

I just wanted this to work. I'm trying to maintain my pride and backbone, I probably sound whiney to you, but I am fighting. I really am. I want the storm to pass. I either want him to come back and fix it like last time, or to move on. It feels like I'm in limbo. I want to know what he's thinking so badly. I wish I could talk to him, then erase his memory of it :P. He still has some things of mine too. Wanna hear something strange? He has a knife he carries everywhere. Daily. He left it here once before.... Before he dropped off the fact of the earth for a month. He got it back, and didn't leave it again. Not once. Until last time he came over. That was not an accident.

Also have no clue how you can be "out there" dating if you love someone else. I'm going out but I'm not dating. I tried that last time. It made Mr miss him more and killed my self confidence. Also hurt someone in the process.

posted January 05, 2014 03:36 PM            

So you need to close the book...let him live, perhaps in the future he will come back to you. But he wont if you don't have a back bone.

i get it...I was just feelilng the same way you were about someone...he totally moved on and I was left with nothing. I tried to date and it didn't work.

He can be your romeo...but that doesn't mean your his jullet (at least not in this phase of life)

Time heals all wounds

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
God its really nhard seeing that because I think the same!me thing in terms of wrong time. In fact , Rosalind just looked at our charts and said the same thing. Right people, wrong time.

Its just really hard, maybe more so since he is my first everything. I really did believe wed always come back to each other. I wish I could erase him, and meet him for the first time in my thirties.

Do you think he will remain in our classes, or even in contact? Last year, we were new enough that after three weeks I gave up hope. In my head he had moved on. I seriously would of bet everything he was never going to contact me again. But he did. He did, and I fell really hard. Nine months back, then this.

We had been making a lot of comments these past few months. We act married. Were just comfortable around each other. But yes, he kept mumbling "yes wife" and jokingly saying "its like were married." He also expressed interest in marrying me in the future. Mixed signals, eh? I think he wants to. But not now.

I just wanted this to work. I'm trying to maintain my pride and backbone, I probably sound whiney to you, but I am fighting. I really am. I want the storm to pass. I either want him to come back and fix it like last time, or to move on. It feels like I'm in limbo. I want to know what he's thinking so badly. I wish I could talk to him, then erase his memory of it :P. He still has some things of mine too. Wanna hear something strange? He has a knife he carries everywhere. Daily. He left it here once before.... Before he dropped off the fact of the earth for a month. He got it back, and didn't leave it again. Not once. Until last time he came over. That was not an accident.

Also have no clue how you can be "out there" dating if you love someone else. I'm going out but I'm not dating. I tried that last time. It made Mr miss him more and killed my self confidence. Also hurt someone in the process.

I really appreciate your detailed replies. Thank you so so so much

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posted January 05, 2014 03:40 PM            

I'm trying, but it always comes back to me still missing him and wanting him back. I can't stop those thoughts. I try to keep busy, I suck it up and go out, I focus on other stuff. But at the end of the day, I still want him.

posted January 05, 2014 03:53 PM            

But that's how I am...I tried to date and it kept reminding me of him...etc

So all I can say is time heals all wounds...like I just got so tired of being tired, it's almost like wanting to lose weight...you really have to want it before you commit yourself to losing weight. Now I am comitted to moveing on!!!

I had a couple of new jobs and that really helped to..so get your mind busy!!

Things just pop in mind. I'd ignore it when I was younger and until recenlty, but it's like engery kept getting stronger so I gave and started to do readings.

I hate overthinking on things and I hate reading other people's responses because it screws my perceptiion of things.

My natal chart says I have lot of psychic intention too so I guess I was just born with it.

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
How did you do it? Did you just keep going through the motions until it happened?

I'm trying, but it always comes back to me still missing him and wanting him back. I can't stop those thoughts. I try to keep busy, I suck it up and go out, I focus on other stuff. But at the end of the day, I still want him.

The only thing I can control are my actions. Which I do by NOT contacting him. That won't last though if I feel like this much longer.

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posted January 05, 2014 03:58 PM            

I wonder if your gift is like tarot. You read something, you chose a path, but choices you make along the way change the path. Ya know?

I can understand not wanting to read peoples responses, I'm sorry about mine. I was venting. I like understanding reasons and I like logic. He is not reasonable or logical. I can't ask him, so I come here.

posted January 05, 2014 04:04 PM            

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
I can't do the involvement thing. It'd kill me seeing the pictures and stuff. Did it fade at least, become bearable?

I wonder if your gift is like tarot. You read something, you chose a path, but choices you make along the way change the path. Ya know?

I can understand not wanting to read peoples responses, I'm sorry about mine. I was venting. I like understanding reasons and I like logic. He is not reasonable or logical. I can't ask him, so I come here.

I'm just tired of feeling sad, stressed, and sick. Likes he's enjoying his life, moving on, doesn't miss me. He dropped everything so easily, and I can't. Grrr.

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posted January 05, 2014 04:46 PM            

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
Ignore this for now, I'm going to keep editing this post as I interpret the cards, okay?

What does cherful24 have to do to find love ?
8 of Cups - Hanged Man - Queen of Pentacles

I think that the queen here possibly represents the qualities you need to search inside yourself for. You seem to possess most of the qualities I'm seeing...down to earth, big hearted. Handling problems logically and matter of factly. Hanged man definitely has a sense of "let go" and a time of postponement, stillness. Eight of cups is showing the need to move forward. In this order with these cards I think you're being told that while you want to move ahead, there will be a delay.

Will cherful24 find love in 2014?
The moon - The World - Wheel of Fortune

My tarot deck is a jerk. I keep getting these cards too. I view them as the vague indorect cards. The equal of a shrug. The moon can be seen as something dark, but I don't view it that way. I honestly view it as things coming to the surface and you realizing something . The world is a happy ending. Maybe an ending to your search? Wheel of fortune I view as fate. The wheel with the world I'd see as a fated end to a cycle and a start to a new one. So if I had to say yes or no on this particular question I would swing towards yes, but if you don't I think the wheel is telling you it will happen when it happens... The wheel is constantly spinning, what goes up must come down. What is down must go up. Since you seem to be towards the bottom in regards to this specific question I would view this as a positive indicator that things WILL shift, and they will shift in your favor.

Does cherful24 know someone who could be their love?
5 of cups - Ace of Wands

This one is throwing me off. Due to the order maybe it is saying that someone from your past who may of dissapointed you now may be a viable option?

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