posted January 28, 2014 01:10 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
I can read intuitive for you have a question

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Okay, um so there's this guy I like and I've been liking him for about a year now. The first time I saw him in class, I thought he was cute and all. I don't know if it was love at first sight, but I found him really interesting the moment I saw first saw him. I never seen him or heard of him around school before but he was not a new kid. In fact, I was the new kid. Anyway, we had guitar class together and I discovered he was a very talented and confident guy--which made him more interesting to me. From that day on, I realized I was falling for someone I barely knew or even talked to. I tried to not like him--even avoided him in class, but it was inevitable. I was very attracted to him. I tried not to like him because I was scared of getting hurt. Then we had vocal class together and we kind of got closer as friends because of that. It was an all-time high period for me until my friend decided to break it to him that I like him. After that, I started avoiding him because I was too embarrassed. I haven't had an actual conversation with him ever since. All it ever was was cold and dry small talk especially because I kind of brought that kind of air into our conversations. I guess you could say we started drifting apart. Then in December, I was very disappointed when I heard he was taking this girl (she's my friend) to the semi formal. It kind of hurt, but I didn't let it ruin my night at the semi. I was literally on the verge of giving him up since he seemed to like her a lot and vice versa. But then after new year's, the girl started dating one of my best buddies, so basically, he got left behind. Me and her started talking because of my friend. We're actually kind of close now. She told me things about him that I never knew of. Because of her, I found out he has a learning disability. Funny I never noticed when I had 2 classes with him. But I guess it's because he only had trouble with musical theory. Almost everybody has trouble with that. I also found out he is not as confident in love as he is with other parts of his life. He is actually kind of shy and he also never had a girlfriend before. I don't know what I should do. My best friends (they're guys) think he's too slow and introverted for me and some even said he used to do drugs. I'm not sure about the drugs part because he once told me he doesn't like drugs. He even thinks pot is bad. What should I do? I still really do like him even if my friends don't think he's on the right level for me.

posted January 28, 2014 01:25 AM            

what I think you should do is try to just be his friend or forget about him and become interested in someone that shows you he's interested..... I think that's the type of guy that you need and not someone that's going to be mysterious..... you seem to be a very analytical person so I'm sure his mysteriousness really does interest you and you want to dig for more, but again it's just going to be more wasted energy and on your part.

this whole scenario it reminds me of an 80's movie with Lea Thompson.... it was very popular but it was basically this girl who was a nice person and the guy had attraction to her but he was out of your league but he still tried to be with her and she was nice and let it happen but in the end he finally realized this isn't who I want..... you're the guy in this case in the guy you have a crush on is Lea Thompson.

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
Okay, um so there's this guy I like and I've been liking him for about a year now. The first time I saw him in class, I thought he was cute and all. I don't know if it was love at first sight, but I found him really interesting the moment I saw first saw him. I never seen him or heard of him around school before but he was not a new kid. In fact, I was the new kid. Anyway, we had guitar class together and I discovered he was a very talented and confident guy--which made him more interesting to me. From that day on, I realized I was falling for someone I barely knew or even talked to. I tried to not like him--even avoided him in class, but it was inevitable. I was very attracted to him. I tried not to like him because I was scared of getting hurt. Then we had vocal class together and we kind of got closer as friends because of that. It was an all-time high period for me until my friend decided to break it to him that I like him. After that, I started avoiding him because I was too embarrassed. I haven't had an actual conversation with him ever since. All it ever was was cold and dry small talk especially because I kind of brought that kind of air into our conversations. I guess you could say we started drifting apart. Then in December, I was very disappointed when I heard he was taking this girl (she's my friend) to the semi formal. It kind of hurt, but I didn't let it ruin my night at the semi. I was literally on the verge of giving him up since he seemed to like her a lot and vice versa. But then after new year's, the girl started dating one of my best buddies, so basically, he got left behind. Me and her started talking because of my friend. We're actually kind of close now. She told me things about him that I never knew of. Because of her, I found out he has a learning disability. Funny I never noticed when I had 2 classes with him. But I guess it's because he only had trouble with musical theory. Almost everybody has trouble with that. I also found out he is not as confident in love as he is with other parts of his life. He is actually kind of shy and he also never had a girlfriend before. I don't know what I should do. My best friends (they're guys) think he's too slow and introverted for me and some even said he used to do drugs. I'm not sure about the drugs part because he once told me he doesn't like drugs. He even thinks pot is bad. What should I do? I still really do like him even if my friends don't think he's on the right level for me.

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posted January 28, 2014 02:10 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
you're going to waste too much of your energy, and too much time is going to have to go past because you're going to have to get him to actually be interested in you in a romantic and intimate way and he's not there..sorry.

what I think you should do is try to just be his friend or forget about him and become interested in someone that shows you he's interested..... I think that's the type of guy that you need and not someone that's going to be mysterious..... you seem to be a very analytical person so I'm sure his mysteriousness really does interest you and you want to dig for more, but again it's just going to be more wasted energy and on your part.

this whole scenario it reminds me of an 80's movie with Lea Thompson.... it was very popular but it was basically this girl who was a nice person and the guy had attraction to her but he was out of your league but he still tried to be with her and she was nice and let it happen but in the end he finally realized this isn't who I want..... you're the guy in this case in the guy you have a crush on is Lea Thompson.

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Funny you mentioned about him being mysterious and all. I did somehow see this in my synastry chart with him but I never really understood it and saw how it was evident until you told me this. Also, with the movie you are talking about, that's exactly what the girl I was talking about did too. She also assumed the role of the guy in that movie. She told me what happened at the semi formal. She said she thought it was what she wanted but then it turns out it wasn't. She didn't feel it wad right for her. That's why she gave up on him and she has been crushing on him for two years--that's way longer than me. My friends have been telling me to find another guy and focus more on guys that actually like me, but I really can't. Most of the guys that like me are younger than me and some are older but I find them too unfit for my tastes. I'm always looking for that guy that possesses every quality I look for (my Venus in Virgo). I always find it hard not to be critical of guys. But lately, I've been trying and I'm pretty sure I'll get out of this fantasy world soon. I'm actually thinking of being just friends with him because I don't really think he's "boyfriend" material. I guess I'm taking your advice and probably go find someone else. Thanks for your advice

Truly appreciate it. And by the way, what's the name of the movie? I kind of want to watch it.

posted January 28, 2014 02:16 AM            

even though you don't think that they're f it it's good just to explore and see what it is that you like and don't like I did the same thing I always turned people down and unfortunately that caused so much problems because I was never good relationship I didn't know what I wanted or how to act. that I became I'm comfortable with guys like me and I froze the relationship so, it's better to have experiences than none