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posted March 07, 2014 02:54 PM            

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My friend has been helping me with this guy lately. So far, there has been good progress between us, although I still can't figure out how he feels about me. I wish he was that easy to read like other guys so that I could be more confident around him. He does seem to keep things to himself a lot. I could never get him to have a deep conversation with me. Other girls have tried, too.

I've had way too many chances to tell him but never had the guts to. I've been told that I should make the first move because of the kind of guy he is. The thing is, I'm scared to get hurt and all those other times I had the chance to tell him, I didn't think it was the right time.

This week, I've been getting a bunch of signs telling me to tell him. Like the one time at mass, they played the song Sag by John Mayer. The lyrics to the chorus were, "Say what you need to say.." over and over. Yesterday, I wasted another chance. My friend told him I needed to tell him something while he was talking to people. He actually stopped conversing with them just to hear me out. But like always, I denied having to tell him anything and told him something else instead. He told his friends it was important and I didn't know until my friend told me. He already left when I found out.

I'm gonna see him at church tonight. I'm thinking I should do it, but I'm not sure if this would be the right time. Should I do it or not?

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posted March 07, 2014 03:48 PM            

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Well I don't have a psychic answer for you but I think you should tell him. I'd try and pick a quiet time when you're alone and just tell him how you feel. You won't know unless you try. Yes, it sucks to be rejected, but it doesn't sound like that would happen in your case. He seems like he's interested. And even if he doesn't feel the same at least you know and don't spend all this time wondering. I say go for it and I'll think positive thoughts for you that it goes in your favor. Please post if you do decide to tell him and how it goes. But I think you'll be ok Good luck to you!

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posted March 07, 2014 04:35 PM            

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Thanks FairyDust75. I'll definitely post what happens if I ever end up doing it

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posted March 07, 2014 10:49 PM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
Please post if you do decide to tell him and how it goes. But I think you'll be ok Good luck to you!

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Well, I did decide to actually do it tonight...but there were circumstances that stopped me from doing so. My friend who likes me ("D") came to the youth club at church, so I basically couldn't do it. D was all over me and my friend "T" (the one who's helping me) told him that "N" (the guy I like) seemed pretty jealous. I couldn't tell if he was jealous, though. All I knew was that every time D would stand or sit next to me, he was always around--either behind me, right beside me, or right in front of me. He just kept teasing me like he always does. I told T about it and he and K (my other friend) tried their best to keep D away from me. I'm kind of worried because I don't wanna hurt D's feelings, but I don't want N to think I'm dating him either. I decided to just write him a note and told T to give it to him. I don't know how it's gonna work out, but I hope it works out fine.

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posted March 08, 2014 07:16 AM            

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I was going to suggest asking him to go out just the two of you. At least you would be alone and could talk without others around you. Did he respond to the note?

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posted March 08, 2014 08:52 AM            

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I left right away after I gave my friend the note, so I don't really know if he responded. And I couldn't ask him to go out alone because he was in social mode and he wasn't taking me seriously at the moment. What's worse is that he's also friends with D.

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posted March 08, 2014 09:33 AM            

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Hmmm, maybe for all you know he's asked D if there's anything between D and you. That might not be a bad thing.

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posted March 08, 2014 04:24 PM            

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He did ask me that question twice. And every time he did, it was when me and D are just hanging out. I said no but I don't think he believes it. The last time he asked, I clearly said no, but then D was all like, "Soon..". I was mad at him for saying that but I literally didn't want him to get hurt. He would get hurt if I told him he has no chance.

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