posted March 18, 2014 01:58 PM            

I finished earlier than expected. Left you a message on the other thread (letting you know I can right now if you'd like)... so if you'd like please let me know.

posted March 18, 2014 02:19 PM            

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Originally posted by CrimsonRed:
Hey sweetie,

I finished earlier than expected. Left you a message on the other thread (letting you know I can right now if you'd like)... so if you'd like please let me know.

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Fille, oh fille... where can you be? (lol)

You must be busy.

posted March 18, 2014 02:34 PM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Sorry, was studying but felt something *cough*someone* calling me here

I'm here. Do you need anything from me, Crimson?

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Yes, please tell me your birthday again and D's and if you have natal chart.

posted March 18, 2014 03:28 PM            

Here's what I got...

I feel he's very attracted to you, but you don't need me to tell you that. You're 'taken' with him and now I understand why you were kidding around in the way you asked your question, because yes, (and I mean this in the nicest of ways) that you feel like a teenager around this guy. Butterflies?

There's a pretty nice energy between the two of you, but at times I see trouble in communication. As if there is an undercurrent of uncomfortable at times. I hate to say this, coz I'd love to say nothing but positive, but I have to tell you what I feel. It's all different types of communication glitches... at times maybe misunderstandings, or one wants to communicate (you) and he wants to do his own thing and concentrate on that. I think that's what you're experiencing now.

He feels to me like he's extremely preoccupied with all that he's doing. I also see him having lots and lots of contact with people... friends, things to do, things to plan to do... lots of people... and he goes along this way and that way. Before you know it days and weeks have gone by.

He again feels very absorbed in what he does and I'm not sure if he's really desireous of a relationship that requires him to focus on an ongoing basis.

There's definately an attraction and a draw, from both sides, but I feel you to be a lot more ready to 'get on with it', meaning start dating on a regular basis, whereas even though the idea really appeals to him, because you appeal to him, he puts it off and almost says to himself that he'll think about it later/deal with it later, like tomorrow, or the next day. Then he gets a message/call, someone comes along (as I said friends, family, people) and his attention gets drawn away to his own stuff.

With work, studies (previously), business, career, he's determined. That's the energy I get for that. He feels very ambitious, putting a great amount of his focus, time and energy on those things.

What I feel, and I wish I felt different.. but I feel that a relationship would be possible quite down the road for him only. At this time, somehow I don't see it coming together in the way that you wish. (Now where is that magic pouch so that I can throw some magic dust on it and make it different?)

It feels touch and go to me. As if you two can come together and enjoy each other and all seems well, and then 'where is he?'. Then again I see you have contact and it's great, like before, and then again "where is he?".

I hope this resonates with you and I hope what I got is helpful to you.

Love and Light!

posted March 18, 2014 03:40 PM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Thanks! Will check back in a few hours.

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Sure, no prob.

I've got to go myself... will be back later.

posted March 18, 2014 07:37 PM            

First and foremost, thank you for taking the time out to do this for me, Crimson. Also, thank you for being honest. It's not all flowers and I need to realize that, even though I'm looking at this with rose-colored glasses.

I'm not a butterfly in the stomach kind of girl, but I get tongue-tied around him. At the same time he calms my doubts about him being attracted to me when we're near each other, he makes me feel inexperienced and awkward. It's very weird, because I'm usually very self-possessed, always have been, even at an early age.

You are so right about communication glitches. Because I get so tongue-tied, sometimes I just can't wrestle myself into interacting with him for more than a few sentences. When we make jokes about ourselves, we're good, but I've noticed that when we make jokes about one another we end up stepping on each other's toes. I know he doesn't mean anything bad by it, and I hope he feels the same way about me, but our sense of play and humour with each other just isn't in syntony. Yet, hopefully.

He does seem very driven and career-oriented. It's one of the things that I find attractive about him, actually. I just don't understand him not wanting a relationship right now. I'm 99% sure, positive he was going to ask me out a few weeks ago. That is, until I said I've been too busy studying to have free time for anything, much less know which movie was on theaters right then. The way he reacted to me saying that was pretty telling that he was vying for a way to get me to go out with him. But ever since it's all bantering here and there, intense staring and teasing smiles/grins, nothing more from him. It's just confusing to me, he's confusing me.

Sigh. So basically I need to wait for him to sort out his life - is that it? I seriously, seriously don't want to fall for a guy who's not going to eventually reciprocate my feelings, to be completely honest with you.

At least he's attracted to me, huh? :'/

posted March 18, 2014 08:42 PM            

Rose colored glasses are ok. It's glasses that would blind which would cause problems. But you don't have those, so no worries.

LOL... you're funny... when I said 'butterflies', I was expressing that type of nervousness.. like getting tongue tied and such... nervousnesses that as we mature we no longer have... so thank you for clarifying and I can understand how awkward that must feel.

Although it can be fun, coz it's because of the strong attraction between the two of you. And if he doesn't talk much either, then he's feeling the same attraction that freezes him (so he doesn't just ask you out already).

I remember you talking about that instance with the movies and all. I remember, and I think I did write you at that time, that he will ask you out again.

He confuses you because he likes you but he doesn't want to get into the type of relationship that you're hoping for... as I mentioned there's every reason to believe that he will ask you out, but I didn't feel the 'steadiness' of a relationship.

The bantering, staring, teasing, grins, smiles and all is because there's a draw and an attraction between the two of you, like I had said, but still I don't feel he wants that 'continuously commited' relationship thing right now. Just not right now. That's just what I felt. I'm sorry, like I told you, I'm looking for my magic dust...

Hopefully you will be able to find a calm and flow a little more and not worry so much.

posted March 19, 2014 10:12 AM            

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@filleaspirant I'm going through the same thing and I just decided to let it go,I can't stand mixed messages. You pursue me one week and then the next don't talk to me for 5 days lol I can't deal anymore. Why can't they just be honest and say they were attracted but they changed their minds?

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Oh kaianna, I know the feeling! But I don't think this guy, D, is sending me mixed messages. Not honestly. What I do get from him is interest. He's veeeery interested in me and I'm starting to think it's not just based on attraction, you know? I think he's really interested about the kind of person that I am. I find that so freaking attractive it's annoying.

posted March 19, 2014 10:22 AM            

Thank you for the clarifications, hun! *huggles*

My natural disposition is to be rational, so I'm struggling a bit with these romantic notions and outbursts. I apologize if I'm being a nuisance. C'est l'amour, I guess.

And yes, I remember you saying he would ask me out again. I just wish you could spray us with your magic dust and speed him along.

Thank you for your time and patience, Crimson. I hope all is well with you and the hubby.

posted March 19, 2014 11:55 AM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
@Crimson,

Thank you for the clarifications, hun! *huggles*

My natural disposition is to be rational, so I'm struggling a bit with these romantic notions and outbursts. I apologize if I'm being a nuisance. C'est l'amour, I guess.

And yes, I remember you saying he would ask me out again. I just wish you could spray us with your magic dust and speed him along.

Thank you for your time and patience, Crimson. I hope all is well with you and the hubby.

Much love. xx

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Hiya fille...

You're very welcome, anytime, sweetie. I know you work and study hard and having romantic confusions and worries shouldn't have to be an addition to your life.

I understand how rational you are and how alien and uncomfortable emotional rollercoasters feel to you. Don't let it throw you off kilter. Some things just have to unfold in their own time. At times... no matter how much you try it will still unfold it it's own time. I say this with caring and affection towards you... "Sweetie.. you can't control this." I know it's hard, but we're all here, supporting you. Hug!

And you're not a nuisance!

Yeah!... where IS that magic dust?!?! lol :P

Have a great morning and sending you 'magic patience dust'

posted March 19, 2014 03:44 PM            

Think my life lesson is to be patient, lol. I have zero patience when it comes to certain things.

posted March 19, 2014 04:11 PM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Oh kaianna, I know the feeling! But I don't think this guy, D, is sending me mixed messages. Not honestly. What I do get from him is interest. He's veeeery interested in me and I'm starting to think it's not just based on attraction, you know? I think he's really interested about the kind of person that I am. I find that so freaking attractive it's annoying.

He did something really thoughtful today. It was completely unexpected but very nice and cute. Still hasn't asked me out, though.

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Maybe its the mars retrograde lol I hope we both find patience through this and also acceptance because you can't change people but you can still love the things about them that annoy you (: