posted March 20, 2014 04:06 PM            

...and that's where I stopped reading. Girl, please. 😒✋

posted March 20, 2014 04:14 PM            

In the pic you put you look adorable!

This book (http://www.amazon.com/If-Wonderful-Why-Still-Single-ebook/dp/B00FJDE2DE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1395346283&sr=8-1&keywords=if+im+so+wonderful+why+am+i+still+single) is my dating bible, I've given it as a present to two other friends and they've found a guy soon after (I wish I had too lol) - but seriously, this book is great, talks about how not to lower your standard and how to date in a way where you meet the guy...

posted March 20, 2014 04:42 PM            

When I gain....it's like men don't even look at me. But when im my normal size, it's like I don't get guys that are looking for a commitment, not with anyways. So it's not just him where the fact that he deleted me on Facebook that is bothering me....

but yes you're right I do focus too much on my appearance. I also have venus square Saturn, ugh.

I have heard of that book and that's why it makes me wonder if I am so wonderful then why aren't I attracting a quality guy, one can only think at some point that their dating out of their league. i have 3 degrees and i with doctors, I have a good job. I have great caring, living, compassionate, nurturing qualities to offer...the guys I date can see that, they've commented and complemented me on it.......but yet at 35, I get takes!! They committ to the next girl, or in some cases the girl that they are dating and simply don't tell me about a out their significant other.

so I'm a bit disappointed and plus, it shouldn't be this hard. the fact that it has been is making me believe it has to be me.... after all iam the common denominator in all the people that I date

posted March 20, 2014 04:52 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
TY all

When I gain....it's like men don't even look at me. But when im my normal size, it's like I don't get guys that are looking for a commitment, not with anyways. So it's not just him where the fact that he deleted me on Facebook that is bothering me....

but yes you're right I do focus too much on my appearance. I also have venus square Saturn, ugh.

I have heard of that book and that's why it makes me wonder if I am so wonderful then why aren't I attracting a quality guy, one can only think at some point that their dating out of their league. i have 3 degrees and i with doctors, I have a good job. I have great caring, living, compassionate, nurturing qualities to offer...the guys I date can see that, they've commented and complemented me on it.......but yet at 35, I get takes!! They committ to the next girl, or in some cases the girl that they are dating and simply don't tell me about a out their significant other.

so I'm a bit disappointed and plus, it shouldn't be this hard. the fact that it has been is making me believe it has to be me.... after all iam the common denominator in all the people that I date

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posted March 20, 2014 05:38 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
TY all

I have heard of that book and that's why it makes me wonder if I am so wonderful then why aren't I attracting a quality guy

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I can't recommended the book enough, I think it's so good and if you do the exercises from it you'll gain so much!

posted March 20, 2014 05:54 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
I am in total shock! So the guy I have been talking to for a month or so...well he deleted me on Facebook this morning.? So ok, here's the back story...We talked everyday, every morning he'd say "good morning"...2 weeks ago we get a drink (I gained 10 pounds by then)..I was totally nervous and I told him so, so he knew. but regardless, he still said I looked beautiful (perhaps he was lying?), we still had a good time (at least I thought so?). That night afterwards I heard from him and the next morning. Since then I have not. And today he delted me on facebook.....the only thing that had changed was on my facebook, I posted abou a possible intrim position in NY for 7 months that I was thinking about taking, that and a new photo I had posted that was of a women's stomach (with rolls) with the tattoo that says "Still Beautiful"
...........so perhaps he thought that pic was of me and thought that I didn't take care of myself and decieded to move on??

I'm in shock, I don't get it. He's 41, he's not perfect and he really can't be expect barbie at this age (Im 35) or can he??

I am not looking for sympothy, but I'd really like to know if I am dating guys that are out of my leaque. I know I have a lose Venus sqaure Jupiter in my natal (but seriously I thought the "bad" guys were behind me especially after me and Satan aka John)

..Is it me, em I not that attractive? Too chucky? Do I not come across right on dates? Like what em I doing wrong, serously! it has to be me doing something if at 35, I cant find/get a good guy to commit.

I provided photos and all feedback, I take as postive......This solar year I have like 4-5 things in my 12th house, so I am trying to do a service to me and learn my faults, be better, etc.

The only diff. in the photos is that I am now 10 pounds heavier. I'm now a size 8.

Thanks everyone!!

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There are a million and one reasons why things don't work out and they have nothing to do with you.

He could already have a girlfriend. He could be on drugs, he could be moving, he could have been looking for a one night stand, or he just felt there wasn't any reason to string you along.

As a guy I can tell you that we categorize women into categories just as women categorize men into categories. Ours are just different than women's categories.

Try not to think of it as you doing anything wrong because you didn't (I'm assuming you didn't act atrociously) It's just one of those things. Be thankful that you were able to eliminate someone who isn't a possibility.

posted March 20, 2014 07:30 PM            

Sorry that it didn't work out, but it doesn't sound like you missed much--I think I remember him having transiting Uranus square his natal Venus and you won't be the only one he flies away from. The Venus square Saturn that you have will delay things for you relationship wise, but you will learn to love yourself more, and have patience to wait for the right one. The Venus square Jupiter can lend some impatience there to the mix. Usually the Venus square Saturn makes for later in life (after 30) relationships, but patience is what you will end up striving for to find the best one for you.

posted March 20, 2014 07:41 PM            

okay sorry for my rant

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Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
Hi Cherful,

Sorry that it didn't work out, but it doesn't sound like you missed much--I think I remember him having transiting Uranus square his natal Venus and you won't be the only one he flies away from. The Venus square Saturn that you have will delay things for you relationship wise, but you will learn to love yourself more, and have patience to wait for the right one. The Venus square Jupiter can lend some impatience there to the mix. Usually the Venus square Saturn makes for later in life (after 30) relationships, but patience is what you will end up striving for to find the best one for you.

Take care,
Spring

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posted March 21, 2014 09:43 AM            

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Lol, really the joke's on me! in reality that's pretty crappy I'm 35 so I feel like that's more than enough patience to wait for the right one. and if patience is all I get out of this well that sucks too because I'm not looking to gain more patience I've had enough of that with my career. I'm just unlucky in the love department and I've had to deal with a lot of horrible crappy men who use and abuse and are dishonest...it's the lot I've been given and that's what I have to deal with.... but it's really a cruel joke I mean I should have just been born ugly and then I would have understood why its my lot in life, why I have to deal with these types of men, etc... or at least it would have been better for me to understand, if that were the case I would have excuses to be like: yeah well I'm not attractive that's why I'm not in a committed relationship.... the thing is I never thought I was ugly I never thought i was unattractive and I never used my body as an excuse as to why I'm not in a successful committed relationship, it's not until recently have I sorta been thinking that way. and its something with this particular guy because we had such great chemistry is such a great mental repore and then he did a 180. but I get what you're saying if he had uranus going on, again just my bad luck.

okay sorry for my rant

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Hi Cherful,

I have been there, too, but two years ago (can't believe I waited that long) I started really taking care of me--my health changing had helped with that. What an amazing difference in perspective, too! I also made a decision earlier this year (not a New Year's resolution) to get married, which isn't a personal decision that I had concentrated on in the past, but over the years I had done a lot on my own and knew it was time. When you start getting older, your friends/family members start getting older/busier (especially the ones with kids) and you realize that you have to decide what's in your best interests and start putting yourself first. My health situation reminded me of that.

There are a lot of wonderful, supportive people on here and you are blessed to have them. Sometimes life's downsides don't always allow us to see that very clearly.

Someone once told me this: Don't give up the milk without the cow. It is so true, too. Focus on what makes you happy and not what takes away from it. I had to learn to figure which guys were good ones and which were not so good, and I think you are learning the same thing.

Thank you for being who you are Cherful.

posted March 21, 2014 02:47 PM            

Just fyi... wrote you a little note in my thread "For Everyone".

Love and Light!

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posted March 21, 2014 03:36 PM            

Its not him...this last one....was my breaking point. People cannot understand why Im not married or with someone and honestly either can I. So, since I am the common denominator with all who I date, I broke and thought it must be me, perhaps I have an ego and think I look better than I do. **** I dont know. I cannot figure it out. It¡¦s like you see all these message being advertised as long as you take care of yourself and your attractive, a man will want you.

Nope, cant get one!

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Hey Cherful! I know we have exchanged many readings, and I have to tell you in most of my readings your beauty comes up. I think I even told you this at one point. You are a very beautiful woman - please don't let that man get you down. <3

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posted March 21, 2014 03:43 PM            

Forget anyone that is THAT shallow. If that was his reason then shame on him.

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I would like to look at your natal chart and se e what is going on..If you don't want to post the natal chart you can give me birth info. Whichever you prefer, and if you would like..

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posted March 21, 2014 03:55 PM            

I guess I get stuck with guys who are expecting the barbie, but Im 35!! Im going to go up and down in weight. And I do date older so its not like im too old for them, ugh! Bad luck in love is what it is!

and he was 41. Ok, like he cant be expecting perfection. Whatever!!

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Originally posted by Heartsong11:
You're so pretty.

Forget anyone that is THAT shallow. If that was his reason then shame on him.

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posted March 22, 2014 04:15 AM            

Reading your post made me a bit sad. Altough I totally get what you are saying & I understand how devastating this idea can feel, it's not true. It’s not about your looks of course! Nor is it something you did.
But it is telling that you perceive yourself (and the value you give yourself) based on how you look & how much you weigh. But that (being pretty) is of course not what you really offer in a relationship. That would be very one dimensional. So it does show some (deep-rooted/old) insecurity-issues which I suspect is what you reflect back on the dates and with the guys you choose.
Everything they say (and/or touches an old wound in you), you will then immediately interpret as something ‘not right’ with you. While more times than not, that’s not the case at all. Second, it also comes down to how you view relationships in general. What do you think it’s all about & is that correct?

My suggestion is to look into it with a good therapist (so not just the spiritual side), which will help you uncover the mechanism & behaviour, which will make you value yourself more & will then lead to attracting different & more secure relationships. If this is repeating and it has been like that for years, best jump on top of it and look into it, because that way you can work through it and create change which will make you feel so much better.

Hope that helps & good luck!

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