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Topic: I could use some help and was suggested to post here
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lilred
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posted March 25, 2014 01:29 PM
  
My love life hurts at this moment. I never really met a man I truly feel connected to. I always have to convince myself they are good for me or I am attracted to them. I ran into a Cancer man I had not seen since high school and we ended up chatting. He was working and I was on a date (I was bored to death) so we couldn’t talk too much but the chemistry was amazing. He left without saying good bye, but later a mutual friend came and inquired if my date was my BF (I said “God No”) and he said my Cancer friend was interested in catching up and if I was down he wanted me to have his number. (Why he didn’t ask himself, I never figured out) I texted him that night and he texted right back and before the end of the night asked me to dinner for a few nights later. Within the next 48 hours we texted each other over 400 times and talked on the phone 7. He wanted to buy me mani/pedis, clothes, wash my car…. I politely declined them all. But I did finally agree to meet him up a night early with his friends. We had an absolutely wonderful time! He told me he had only felt a connection like this 1 other time about 10 years ago. (we are both 34) He wanted to know everything about me (of course I kept stuff back) the more he knew the more awesome he thought I was. He wanted me to come home and watch a movie with him…. Spend the entire next day with him. I had to decline. I had family obligations and I had to protect my heart. He seemed so bummed. I couldn’t help start to trust he really was into me. I met up with him the next night. At dinner he asked me to move with him in October? When is it too early to get married? And if we could get and apartment together no? (we had a few drinks for I just blew it off) But when he started to drop the L word … I told him I wouldn’t take him seriously until he was sober and he looked me straight in the eye and did it again and I laughed. After that we went to a party, where it was all his friends plus his family He introduced me to everyone as his girlfriend and I just smiled. I was on some sort of crazy high. I would normally be running for the hills. There was something so charming about it. The next place we went he even told the bartender we had been married for 8 years, just to make me laugh….. and I did. But I did get to the point where I needed some space. So while he was talking to some friends I told him I was so to watch the last few minutes of the game at the other side of the bar and HE SAID NO!!! So of course I did. When I did he did text me to come give him a kiss and then two more times and called me three. With some alcohol in me and everything else that had happened, I felt the need to assert my independents, so I didn’t move and motioned for him to come over to me. And his ***** switch flipped! When I went back over he had gotten the check and said he had spent like $300, so asked if I could help. I said sure, I had not brought enough cash (anyway, he and kept saying I would never pay for anything when I was with him….blah blah blah, but from the beginning i told I don;t date guys for their money) I offered to go to the ATM, he told me to forget it and we left. Went back to his place to watch a movie and he was a snippy ***** and I remained sweet and pie. Then this morning I got a text saying he wanted to just be friends because he couldn’t handle that I didn’t have enough money to pay a small bar bill. I said “Totally Cool. I will get you that $40.” But honestly I am hurt and totally confused!
I know what you are think…. Run from the unstable douche…. But he made me start to fall and I am not sure what I should do. Our compatibility chart said we were pretty great. The chemistry was crazy and I have never had a connection like that! It sounds so crazy and I am completely embarrassed but I miss him and I feel like I never existed to him and I am having trouble wrapping my head around the fact he is gone.
HisSun Cancer 11.08
Ascendant Virgo 17.26
Moon Libra 22.45
Mercury Leo 7.02
Venus Gemini 26.42
Mars Gemini 5.24
Jupiter Leo 11.20
Saturn Virgo 9.33
Uranus Scorpio 17.08 R
Neptune Sagittarius 18.31 R
Pluto Libra 16.28
Lilith Leo 29.18
Asc node Virgo 10.12 II Libra 12.11
III Scorpio 11.49
IV Sagittarius 15.17
V Capricorn 19.23
VI Aquarius 20.29
VII Pisces 17.26
VIII Aries 12.11
IX Taurus 11.49
Midheaven Gemini 15.17
XI Cancer 19.23
XII Leo 20.29
Mine
Sun Capricorn 6.41 Ascendant Leo 4.12
Moon Taurus 12.54 Mercury Sagittarius 23.27
Venus Aquarius 7.44
Mars Virgo 13.26
Jupiter Virgo 10.15 R
Saturn Virgo 26.57
Uranus Scorpio 23.54
Neptune Sagittarius 20.50
Pluto Libra 21.35
Lilith Virgo 19.10
Asc node Virgo 0.38 Cancer 3.11
II Leo 24.20
III Virgo 18.58
IV Libra 20.07
V Scorpio 26.54
VI Capricorn 3.11
VII Aquarius 4.12
VIII Aquarius 24.20
IX Pisces 18.58
Midheaven Aries 20.07
XI Taurus 26.54
XII Cancer 3.11 IP: Logged |
FruityLlama
Knowflake Posts: 210
From: UK
Registered: Sep 2013
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posted March 26, 2014 09:09 AM
Hey there, I think this could be a case where the natal chart explains a whole lot more. Great synastry isn't rare, really, when you're looking at it in black and white. The two people themselves need to sustain the great synastry for it to work.
There are some articles on the net and on here. They explain a lot better that aspects in synastry tend to play out in different ways. A venus/mars connection look great in synastry, but if someone natally has an afflicted venus or mars, then it may be an irritation, if you get me. Of course, it could work the other way too. If you have nothing special in synastry, but your natals show that you are a stable, decent person who works at relationships, then the not so good synastry can be enhanced and made the most of. Basically, every natal will show what each planet means to them, and then you can see how it translates when touched in synastry by someone else's planet. If you want me to look at natals, I can have a go  IP: Logged |
lilred
Newflake Posts: 24
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Registered: Mar 2014
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posted March 26, 2014 09:12 AM
Fruity Llama that would be wonderful! Thank you!IP: Logged |
FruityLlama
Knowflake Posts: 210
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posted March 26, 2014 09:18 AM
No probs, just need the birth details if that's alright IP: Logged |
lilred
Newflake Posts: 24
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posted March 26, 2014 09:24 AM
Aspects are at the top but birth info is as follows....Me: Dec 28,79 7:35pm cen.Valparaiso in 46383 Him July 3 79 12:05 pm cen. Time Valparaiso IN 46383 Thank you... I don't know what to do. I feel like I hurt him and want to apologize, I feel like he won't hear and i will just be hurt again. I just need to move on. But I can't handle him coming waltzing back in Thank you! IP: Logged |
happyaskings
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posted March 26, 2014 09:47 AM
...you've posted this same thread at least 3 times now. What are you hoping to find?IP: Logged |
lilred
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posted March 26, 2014 09:59 AM
The other two were closed... I was under the understanding I had to open a new one. I am new to this. My apologies.IP: Logged |
FruityLlama
Knowflake Posts: 210
From: UK
Registered: Sep 2013
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posted March 26, 2014 10:07 AM
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Originally posted by lilred:
Aspects are at the top but birth info is as follows....Me: Dec 28,79 7:35pm cen.Valparaiso in 46383 Him July 3 79 12:05 pm cen. Time Valparaiso IN 46383 Thank you... I don't know what to do. I feel like I hurt him and want to apologize, I feel like he won't hear and i will just be hurt again. I just need to move on. But I can't handle him coming waltzing back in Thank you!
Which Valparaiso is it? There are like, 5 on Astro! :P IP: Logged |
FruityLlama
Knowflake Posts: 210
From: UK
Registered: Sep 2013
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posted March 26, 2014 10:09 AM
Oh, its okay, I worked it out! Okay, hang on, I'm on it :P IP: Logged |
happyaskings
Knowflake Posts: 770
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posted March 26, 2014 10:12 AM
Only one is closed the other 2 are still open....IP: Logged |
FruityLlama
Knowflake Posts: 210
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Registered: Sep 2013
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posted March 26, 2014 10:33 AM
I actually got his ASC as 0* Libra. Libra risings can be, at their worst, superficial and indecisive. Relationships are important for them, but I guess if there is a choice to be made, it's gonna be pretty hard for these people. The money thing was pretty shallow and superficial- a negative Libra rising thing. They can also be quite impersonal. My sister is a Libra rising and she doesn't care about much, apart from cake and our cat :P Cupido in the 1st house in Libra again, show some superficial tendencies and an ability to manufacture an appearance in order to catch people's attention. I get the impression that he's quite sensitive deep down. Good a sweet-talking people. And also good looking, but he may be very well aware of this! Probably popular with the ladies! He has the ability to attract people effortlessly- to others he is magnetic. This guy aims to please everybody. But his Venus is in Gemini which is a mutable, changeable sign so he is probably fickle. Needs change in relationships. Gets bored easily. I see a grand earth trine- probably quite sensual? Chiron semisquares Venus. Despite the above, I wonder if he's quite insecure about relationships. He needs peace and harmony, and for people to like him. Painful feelings of rejection, not great with money, not great with women when it gets intimate. He has a few squares to Juno, too, which may enhance this. I'll keep thinking and looking IP: Logged |
lilred
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posted March 26, 2014 01:18 PM
Thank you,Fruity Llama! You have been great. Going back is not a problem. I just gave him his money back, he protested with a Hugh tantrum so I just called a spade a spade asking him to lose my number, turned my back and left. Chapter closed... Thanks You!IP: Logged |
FruityLlama
Knowflake Posts: 210
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Registered: Sep 2013
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posted March 27, 2014 08:54 AM
No problem, and good for you! Sounds like you did the right thing!  IP: Logged |
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