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posted March 27, 2014 09:33 PM            

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i feel like crying today
i have been looking for a job for past one year or more constantly! no luck!
no body is willing to hire me. am tired and frustrated of doing household chores and feeling like good for nothing.
can you kind intuitive souls give me some clues whether i will get a job in 2014? when? how? i have tried all my links.. they say i have no work experience so it's impossible for me to get a job. i have been out of work, because i was rearing child and taking care of my family!
what should i do to get a job?

can you help me please ? that would be very kind of you

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posted March 27, 2014 10:23 PM            

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Britannia, if you'll be patient with me, maybe I can help...

When you say you have no skills, clarify a bit. Everyone has skills, and something tells me that you may be overlooking or (more likely) minimizing the ones you have. What were your skills prior to becoming a stay-at-home mom and what are the skills you utilize every day that you may just be taking for granted?

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posted March 27, 2014 10:36 PM            

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thanks for your kindness lost taurus!

i have done bachelor in science and masters in business administration, but i never worked here in america! i have worked for a while in my home country but that was many years ago, almost a decade ago! i have no work experience to write in my resume. either i can go to school first or keep looking for a job that nobody is willing to offer me because of bland resume. i have been told again n again that job is just around the corner, and now it seems that i have been waiting for ages. it's been 3 years or more! i have stopped counting!
what should i do

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posted March 27, 2014 10:50 PM            

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Okay...with a Bachelors' in Science and a Masters' in Business, all you need is to brush up your skills! Search out your area for volunteer opportunities utilizing the skills which you probably feel have foundered a bit - that's the BEST way to get your confidence back.

I really think you've just lost touch with your skill set and lost faith in your abilities because you've been 'out of the loop' for so long. Organizations are ALWAYS looking for smart, driven, focused, devoted people to help with grant writing, lower level admin, coordination, marketing, etc... So what are you passionate about? Feeding hungry kids? Battered women and children? Animal rescue? PTO? Ecological conservation? Tell me.

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posted March 27, 2014 11:00 PM            

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i have volunteered couple of times in the past. they had so many people available to volunteer for them that all i could manage to do there was arranging files on the shelves or making copies of the notes. that's it! i can go back there again but i don't see any value in it. i am not adding any value to their set up!
i have been looking for other volunteer opportunities in the area though! i have been doing it for past 4 months
it was health care organization!

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posted March 27, 2014 11:12 PM            

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Hmmm...what about internships? Have you looked into any of those around your area? You could always pair some volunteer work with an internship to re-hone skills.

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posted March 27, 2014 11:23 PM            

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no i haven't looked into that option! i'll try to look for one..i feel tired though and demotivated! may be it's a phase that will be over sooner or later! idk! thanks losttaurus! i don't know what more to add now

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posted March 28, 2014 12:31 AM            

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Your sense of tired and lack of motivation is coming from your despair and absence of faith in your ability to achieve what you want professionally. You've spent enough time convincing yourself that you're somehow not capable of getting 'back on the horse' (so to speak) that it's easier not to take the risk. It's a vicious cycle, that.

Here's the real rub with it though: the only things you'll regret at the end of your days are the things you didn't try (and put your 110% into) when they really mattered to you - even if you try and fail sometimes.

You have to force yourself out of it sweetie. You've confused the time you've taken to raise your child(ren) as somehow divergent from your intended path - it's not. That time doesn't detract from the woman you saw yourself becoming before marriage and kids came along one iota more than you allow it to. You're the deciding factor though.

I believe in you. Do you?

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