posted April 05, 2014 11:03 PM            

I have lots of questions myself if that's okay..

posted April 05, 2014 11:29 PM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Hmmm...how will S feel about being at my graduation and meeting my family?

Ask away!

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Will do!

He's thinking logically about it, he's going to be patient but he's a bit worried he might not be emotionally ready.

(King of swords, Temperance, Strength rx)

My question:

What is CW's true opinion of me?

Why did we stop talking in April of last year?

posted April 06, 2014 12:40 AM            

As for why communication ceased last April, I'm getting that it was just...a fadeaway. No bad vibes or anger or hurt or resentment; none of that. Just...a fade.

posted April 06, 2014 01:02 AM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
7/C, 5/C, 2/S - I think CW sees you as someone he(?) used to know. In fact, the Gotye song went off in my head as I was shuffling. No sense of feeling one way or the other, really.

As for why communication ceased last April, I'm getting that it was just...a fadeaway. No bad vibes or anger or hurt or resentment; none of that. Just...a fade.

Does this resonate?

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I'm not sure what that means..? He and I formally had an extremely close relationship.

As for that.. I guess.. he just stopped caring..?

posted April 06, 2014 01:20 AM            

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Originally posted by Terezi:
I'm not sure what that means..? He and I formally had an extremely close relationship.

As for that.. I guess.. he just stopped caring..?

It seems strange.. he acted.. suddenly out of character around that time that we stopped talking.

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I feel strongly like he was...not in a good headspace for what it was the two of you were becoming. He knew this. Rather than try to handle it or address it or grow past it, it's like he just shrugged his shoulders and walked away. If I'm looking ahead, I feel like there's a point in time where he'll look back and be ashamed that he handled it like that.

posted April 06, 2014 01:24 AM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
I feel strongly like he was...not in a good headspace for what it was the two of you were becoming. He knew this. Rather than try to handle it or address it or grow past it, it's like he just shrugged his shoulders and walked away. If I'm looking ahead, I feel like there's a point in time where he'll look back and be ashamed that he handled it like that.

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I'm not sure what you mean.. He regrets walking away from our friendship..?

posted April 06, 2014 01:30 AM            

But I do think there will come a time when he looks back on how he handled the development of distance between you, and he'll regret that he wasn't clearer in it. He'll smile when he thinks of you, and he'll wonder how/why and he'll feel bad about losing touch and not trying harder to keep it.

posted April 06, 2014 01:34 AM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
I don't think he thinks about it one way or the other right now. It's like it's...just not occurring to him, I honestly know of no clearer way to explain it. There's a level of immaturity I'm sensing from him that just precludes real thought on it right now.

But I do think there will come a time when he looks back on how he handled the development of distance between you, and he'll regret that he wasn't clearer in it. He'll smile when he thinks of you, and he'll wonder how/why and he'll feel bad about losing touch and not trying harder to keep it.

Are you guys young? Like, teenagers young? Or did you become close as teenagers?

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That's quite sad.. could be due to his lady he likes so much. But yes that's him, immature and out of touch with his feelings.

So I guess he'll just regret it and do nothing to change that. Kinda makes me depressed considering i was told we could work together to turn this around. That's okay though, I guess if it doesn't matter to him that's okay.

posted April 06, 2014 01:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Terezi:
That's quite sad.. could be due to his lady he likes so much. But yes that's him, immature and out of touch with his feelings.

So I guess he'll just regret it and do nothing to change that. Kinda makes me depressed considering i was told we could work together to turn this around. That's okay though, I guess if it doesn't matter to him that's okay.

I'm 19 and he is 17. We met earlier last year, became close, drifted apart and such.

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No, no, no! I'm not saying he "doesn't care" at all; I'm saying he doesn't yet have the depth to understand it! In time, he'll look back on you fondly. He'll wonder where you are, how you are, and what you've been up to. He may look you up. If you're willing to talk to him, you guys can hash it out then. My guess is that, by the time he does, you'll have grown past wondering and just be glad to hear from an old friend.

posted April 06, 2014 01:41 AM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
No, no, no! I'm not saying he "doesn't care" at all; I'm saying he doesn't yet have the depth to understand it! In time, he'll look back on you fondly. He'll wonder where you are, how you are, and what you've been up to. He may look you up. If you're willing to talk to him, you guys can hash it out then. My guess is that, by the time he does, you'll have grown past wondering and just be glad to hear from an old friend.

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Ah so it just points back to his immaturity! Ah okay this makes me feel a bit better.

Quick question (again if you dont mind, in regards to "what we were becoming".. he um.. would hold my hand and such.. I had grown fond of him and i started to develop feelings for him. By that do you mean.. he didn't want a relationship?

posted April 06, 2014 01:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Terezi:
Ah so it just points back to his immaturity! Ah okay this makes me feel a bit better.

Quick question (again if you dont mind, in regards to "what we were becoming".. he um.. would hold my hand and such.. I had grown fond of him and i started to develop feelings for him. By that do you mean.. he didn't want a relationship?

(feel free to ask me all the questions you want by the by, I'm grateful for your help, many thanks)

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I think he liked you a lot, but in a deeper way than a 17 year old male can handle or understand. I don't know if you've ever heard of the K.I.S.S. practice? (K)eep (I)t (S)imple, (S)tupid? Google it if not. That's very much the approach 99.9% of young men in his age range take to male/female interaction (unconsciously) because it's all they can handle - anything else is too complex and overwhelming. It's not that they're stupid at all, just...still clumsy...when it comes to feelings.

Umm...hmmm...how will C react if I ask him not to come to my graduation?

Do you have others?

posted April 06, 2014 02:09 AM            

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Originally posted by Terezi:
(King of swords, Temperance, Strength rx)

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I have to say, I found this to be quite a lovely reading. Positive. Encouraging. I like it!

posted April 06, 2014 02:11 AM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
I think he liked you a lot, but in a deeper way than a 17 year old male can handle or understand. I don't know if you've ever heard of the K.I.S.S. practice? (K)eep (I)t (S)imple, (S)tupid? Google it if not. That's very much the approach 99.9% of young men in his age range take to male/female interaction (unconsciously) because it's all they can handle - anything else is too complex and overwhelming. It's not that they're stupid at all, just...still clumsy...when it comes to feelings.

Umm...hmmm...how will C react if I ask him not to come to my graduation?

Do you have others?

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Wait.. you're saying he.. returned my feelings but didn't realize this..? o-o;; That's kinda.. eye opening.

Sure thing!

I pulled: The fool, two of pentacles, four cups rx

He's going to be a bit naive, realizing that there needs to be balance but he's going to be disappointed. Overall though, I don't think he's going to be too upset.

Well.. I'd like to know..

Why did CW cry at the party?

posted April 06, 2014 02:21 AM            

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Originally posted by Terezi:
Well.. I'd like to know..

Why did CW cry at the party?

Is CW simply going after this other girl because he doesn't know what he wants?

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His feelings were more than he could comprehend, so he shelved them.

I'm getting that he was overwhelmed, but that it didn't have anything to do with you or another girl - nothing like that.

He's going after her (I'm getting he's already with her...) because his interest in her fits into a context he understands and is comfortable in.

Does that make sense? Everything is predicated on his level of maturity and ability to cope with what's before him.

posted April 06, 2014 02:24 AM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
His feelings were more than he could comprehend, so he shelved them.

I'm getting that he was overwhelmed, but that it didn't have anything to do with you or another girl - nothing like that.

He's going after her (I'm getting he's already with her...) because his interest in her fits into a context he understands and is comfortable in.

Does that make sense?

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Odd.. I wonder why he was so distraught then.

*nods* makes sense. I don't understand though.. He said to me that he's not worthy of my feelings towards him..?

From what i got.. he doesn't take this relationship all too seriously since he has trouble with his emotions, that's just my vibe.

(Oh did what i said in regards to your question make sense? Feel free to ask more)

posted April 06, 2014 02:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Terezi:
Odd.. I wonder why he was so distraught then.

*nods* makes sense. I don't understand though.. He said to me that he's not worthy of my feelings towards him..?

From what i got.. he doesn't take this relationship all too seriously since he has trouble with his emotions, that's just my vibe.

(Oh did what i said in regards to your question make sense? Feel free to ask more)

What doesn't make sense to me is, I seem to overwhelm him and he's not sure how to place me in his mind.. any idea based on what you've read as to why that is?

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As for why he was upset, I can't tell specifics, only that there was a strong sense of overwhelm.

Again...it all lands squarely in the lap of his level of maturity. He simply doesn't yet have the tools to cope with substantial emotion. They'll come in time, just not one minute before they're supposed to.

Yes, the cards you drew for me made total sense. Thank you!

posted April 06, 2014 02:32 AM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
As for why he was upset, I can't tell specifics, only that there was a strong sense of overwhelm.

Again...it all lands squarely in the lap of his level of maturity. He simply doesn't yet have the tools to cope with substantial emotion. They'll come in time, just not one minute before they're supposed to.

Yes, the cards you drew for me made total sense. Thank you!

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Oh dear.. I hope I didn't hurt him..

I feel bad for that other girl.. I just feel like he doesn't have his head on straight.. I remember all the times he'd look at me or I'd catch him in the act. It's just odd, i thought he felt something, i sure did.

posted April 06, 2014 02:37 AM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Aww, that's very sweet! I don't really have anything else right now though... you've been a huge help!

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posted April 06, 2014 02:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Newrise:
Great idea! I can exchange! I would love some advice from my spirit guides on my 27th Birthday :O

Thanks!

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Sure sure!

posted April 06, 2014 02:48 AM            

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Originally posted by Terezi:
Hahaha, well I'm happy to help. Man I'm still confused though. x.x;; He's a huge annoyance to me. I seem to remember you saying something that he felt something towards me in some regard?

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Oh yeah. He didn't understand the feelings. That's why he shelved them.

posted April 06, 2014 02:50 AM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Oh yeah. He didn't understand the feelings. That's why he shelved them.

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