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Topic: Ever Felt Like Giving Up?
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Terezi Knowflake Posts: 228 From: Trenton, New jersey, USA Registered: Mar 2014
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posted April 15, 2014 02:43 AM
Anyone ever felt like the world is so entirely against you? You finally think you understand why someone did someone or said something and then it.. just snaps.. You hold onto false hope and BAM there's the truth. Never felt worse and lower in my life than right now.IP: Logged |
FairyDust75 Knowflake Posts: 336 From: USA Registered: Dec 2013
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posted April 15, 2014 03:06 AM
Hugs to you Terezi. I know how you feel. Just try to keep your head up and moving forward. I know it's hard and maybe you feel hopeless but just know it has to get better. Be strong and you will get through this. IP: Logged |
LostTaurus Knowflake Posts: 867 From: Conway, AR, USA Registered: Jan 2014
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posted April 15, 2014 03:56 AM
Terezi, the one common and resounding message throughout our numerous exchanges has been that of urging you to cease predicating yourself - your very being - to the perceptions and whims of others...two others in particular. So if you're thinking about giving up; YES, give that up! No one should EVER subjugate themselves to any other human being. You are an extraordinary young woman with enormous things in store for you! When I say that 'guy A' will be little more than a blip in your rearview mirror, I say it with great confidence. So YES, give up on waiting for him! He is of no consequence to you in the big picture. When I say that he will one day look back with genuine fondness on you, I say it with what is (to me) unquestionable surety - you will hold a more substantial place in his history than he will hold in yours. Again, I am absolutely CERTAIN of this...but right now you're allowing him rent-free space in the high-end neighborhood of your head - STOP IT dear!! As for 'guy B'...well...I won't sugarcoat, I feel like handling it that way was a bad call. But it is not the end of the world. Again, you are an extraordinary young woman with enormous things ahead of you. Rather than focus on the loss, focus on the lesson. It's there, I promise. It's just clouded right now by (yes my dear) those false hopes you're clinging to and those false hopes are preventing your growth - so YES, GIVE THEM UP! Neither of these young men are, at this point in their lives, worth your dignity. If they were, they'd have found a way to prove it by now....but they haven't. It doesn't make them "bad people", it makes them young, impetuous and naive. You deserve better. But until you shake the delusion that they are somehow more than exactly what they're showing you they really, truly are at this point in their lives - FOR REAL - you will be mired in your own limitations. If I didn't care, I wouldn't say it. Please understand, I'm not trying to be cruel. IP: Logged |
peacefulclouds Knowflake Posts: 179 From: Jakarta, Indonesia Registered: Jan 2014
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posted April 15, 2014 04:13 AM
I also hate to use the numbers game, but these guys are 17 and you are 19... You still have so much to experience. I think you need to lay off readings for a while, because youre dictating your feelings based on the readings. You seek only positive results, ignoring the ones that does not fulfill your wish.. But remember as with any readings, patience is needed. Readings are for guidance, not to make results faster! please be kinder to yourself.IP: Logged |
Terezi Knowflake Posts: 228 From: Trenton, New jersey, USA Registered: Mar 2014
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posted April 15, 2014 08:12 AM
quote: Originally posted by LostTaurus: Terezi, the one common and resounding message throughout our numerous exchanges has been that of urging you to cease predicating yourself - your very being - to the perceptions and whims of others...two others in particular. So if you're thinking about giving up; YES, give that up! No one should EVER subjugate themselves to any other human being. You are an extraordinary young woman with enormous things in store for you! When I say that 'guy A' will be little more than a blip in your rearview mirror, I say it with great confidence. So YES, give up on waiting for him! He is of no consequence to you in the big picture. When I say that he will one day look back with genuine fondness on you, I say it with what is (to me) unquestionable surety - you will hold a more substantial place in his history than he will hold in yours. Again, I am absolutely CERTAIN of this...but right now you're allowing him rent-free space in the high-end neighborhood of your head - STOP IT dear!! As for 'guy B'...well...I won't sugarcoat, I feel like handling it that way was a bad call. But it is not the end of the world. Again, you are an extraordinary young woman with enormous things ahead of you. Rather than focus on the loss, focus on the lesson. It's there, I promise. It's just clouded right now by (yes my dear) those false hopes you're clinging to and those false hopes are preventing your growth - so YES, GIVE THEM UP! Neither of these young men are, at this point in their lives, worth your dignity. If they were, they'd have found a way to prove it by now....but they haven't. It doesn't make them "bad people", it makes them young, impetuous and naive. You deserve better. But until you shake the delusion that they are somehow more than exactly what they're showing you they really, truly are at this point in their lives - FOR REAL - you will be mired in your own limitations. If I didn't care, I wouldn't say it. Please understand, I'm not trying to be cruel.
I guess I'm just frustrated. I'm annoyed and I feel like I'll never get the answers and clarity I so seek. I'm not quite sure what that means yet in terms of him, I'm guessing that means I'm going to loath him or something? I'm not sure what you mean by me handling it like that.. I'm guessing that means I will NOT be receiving a reply from him. I guess this means that my hopes of things being okay.. are just dreams that will never be fulfilled, that makes me extremely sad and angry.. I was hoping something would work out for once but I guess not. I understand, they just don't care about me, I have to accept that they're going to leave me in the dust and never return. IP: Logged | |