posted May 05, 2014 09:27 PM            

This friend of mine contacted me out of the blue, with what looked like enthusiasm to be catching up with me. After only a few words exchanged, he went AWOL.

So, what gives? What was his purpose in contacting me? And am I hearing from him again soon?

I can read playing cards for whoever answers me in the morning, as I'm going to bed right now.

posted May 05, 2014 10:46 PM            

okay so I know you said originally long time ago I was not going to get a new job for a long time .....so does now seem like its the time for a new job for me??

I've had 3 interviews lately. today was a second interview with a company I did an interview with a week ago.... a new position opened up with them and encourage me to go for that one as well. so I was like well sure okay

how does this non-profit organization look for me... its a diabetes organization will this new position.,does this new or original position looks like I'll be hired for one of them.

or will the other interview I did in a obgyn looks like I'll be hired?

I also have an opportunity with the university that I'm at now

..... How does my career look, is it exactly the question... in terms of me getting a job

posted May 05, 2014 10:58 PM            

yes you will hear from him. He'll pop back in. but nothing is going to come out of it. I almost feel as if he's going to ask to meet up with you for drinks but then that's it . he's not going to show he's not going to contact you again to actually make the plans to meet up with you.

it's kind of like the one hit wonder but I sense you will hear a few more times from him like maybe 2 or 3.

there's no seriousness behind his contact. It's not like he's thinking..... I care about her I wonder how she's doing.

I get an overwhelming feeling that he wants something. something shady. totally not trying to be inappropriate but the two things that come out are BJ or money.

posted May 06, 2014 12:23 PM            

How have you been? Hope well.

It's one of those days where I don't want to do what I have to and while procrastinating I found myself here. Just sat aimlessly reading things when I ran across your post. As I read it something hit me, so I'll share it with you.

I got that this friend of yours went awol last time because of feelings of intimidation on some level. As if you being a 'better' person made him feel his own 'lacking' and he didn't want to see it/be reminded of it/look at it/deal with it, ergo awol. Then I feel that he did miss much about you (don't know if that's romantic or just something else, but he missed stuff about you that was a positive for him when you were friends previously) and therefore the contact. During the contact he perceived from you that which reminded him of what he previously felt and again awol. Because his contact was for his own self interest, (which he saw as not being able to get fulfilled), therefore he's off pursuing his own interest. Not that you did anything. You didn't do anything last time either. So if you're thinking about that, I feel you can't figure out what you said that he reacted to... coz you said nothing. I just feel he's intimidated in a certain way and that's the cause of his behavior.

Then I read what cherful wrote (hi cherful)... and when I read her saying that he'll contact you a few times but nothing really will come of it... I felt a strong confirmation feeling, like yeah, she's absolutely right about that. Just sharing what I got/felt/thought.

Wishing both of you gals a great day.

I'm off to try to get it together and be productive.

posted May 06, 2014 06:46 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
I know I just open the thread saying thank you and goodbye but I wanted to exchange with you because I desperately need some answers on my career

okay so I know you said originally long time ago I was not going to get a new job for a long time .....so does now seem like its the time for a new job for me??

I've had 3 interviews lately. today was a second interview with a company I did an interview with a week ago.... a new position opened up with them and encourage me to go for that one as well. so I was like well sure okay

how does this non-profit organization look for me... its a diabetes organization will this new position.,does this new or original position looks like I'll be hired for one of them.

or will the other interview I did in a obgyn looks like I'll be hired?

I also have an opportunity with the university that I'm at now

..... How does my career look, is it exactly the question... in terms of me getting a job

thanks and I'll be back with yours

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Hi cherful,

I asked "what can you tell me about cherful's career for the next 3 months?" and pulled Queen Spades, Queen Clubs and 10 Clubs, with 5 Hearts as base. I re-asked to make sure, as the base card wasn't clear on what the theme of the first reading was and pulled 3 Clubs, 2 Spades and 9 Spades, with 6 Clubs as the new base.

Is one of these jobs your dream job? With 2 Queens, I'm seeing a lot of rivalry in the next 3 months, with very shrewd people that are all about being professional. The 10C points to achievement and success in your career. Also points to a business relocation/trip, so I think you're going to be working away from where you currently are. Didn't you have a proposition to work out of your state? I think I remember reading this? Looks like it'll happen.

In the second spread, 6C tells me you'll be actively pursuing new opportunities. This is an opportunity for you to expand your knowledge, outside your comfort zone. I can definitely see you leaving your current job to pursue this new opportunity. It'll be a challenging time, because I feel, intuitively, that you'll be faced with something you're not familiar with and will have to learn to deal with, but I feel once you've mastered it, these feelings will be nothing but a memory.

I'm sorry this isn't great news. It's a bit of a mixed bag.

posted May 06, 2014 07:03 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
the concert was not serious. why you're thinking ok what the hell happened to him. he's not thinking that/u.
he's carrying on his merry little way.

yes you will hear from him. He'll pop back in. but nothing is going to come out of it. I almost feel as if he's going to ask to meet up with you for drinks but then that's it . he's not going to show he's not going to contact you again to actually make the plans to meet up with you.

it's kind of like the one hit wonder but I sense you will hear a few more times from him like maybe 2 or 3.

there's no seriousness behind his contact. It's not like he's thinking..... I care about her I wonder how she's doing.

I get an overwhelming feeling that he wants something. something shady. totally not trying to be inappropriate but the two things that come out are BJ or money.

I think your friend is in a bad position and he turned the corner for the worSt. like I see him slumming it. I have a really bad feeling about him and what he's doing. seriously like I get the notion that he's doing drugs or he needs money for drugs something bad something shady and he's mixing with the wrong people

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I really don't know what to make of this. He has never asked me for anything, in fact, he's the one who usually does me a favor or two. While I agree that I'm not mostly likely featuring in his head front stage, I'm not sure he would ever do drugs. We've talked about it before and he was very adamant he would never go that way.

posted May 06, 2014 07:15 PM            

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Originally posted by CrimsonRed:
Hey there fille,

How have you been? Hope well.

It's one of those days where I don't want to do what I have to and while procrastinating I found myself here. Just sat aimlessly reading things when I ran across your post. As I read it something hit me, so I'll share it with you.

I got that this friend of yours went awol last time because of feelings of intimidation on some level. As if you being a 'better' person made him feel his own 'lacking' and he didn't want to see it/be reminded of it/look at it/deal with it, ergo awol. Then I feel that he did miss much about you (don't know if that's romantic or just something else, but he missed stuff about you that was a positive for him when you were friends previously) and therefore the contact. During the contact he perceived from you that which reminded him of what he previously felt and again awol. Because his contact was for his own self interest, (which he saw as not being able to get fulfilled), therefore he's off pursuing his own interest. Not that you did anything. You didn't do anything last time either. So if you're thinking about that, I feel you can't figure out what you said that he reacted to... coz you said nothing. I just feel he's intimidated in a certain way and that's the cause of his behavior.

Then I read what cherful wrote (hi cherful)... and when I read her saying that he'll contact you a few times but nothing really will come of it... I felt a strong confirmation feeling, like yeah, she's absolutely right about that. Just sharing what I got/felt/thought.

Wishing both of you gals a great day.

I'm off to try to get it together and be productive.

Blessings, Love and Light!

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Hi Crimson,

I'm good. How are you?

Intimidating? Yeah, I can see why he would still find me intimidating. We go back a long time (almost 9 years) so we have a bit of history between us. Ah. I know what he misses about me: support and understanding. That was really what I've always given him. He confides in me and I've never betrayed his trust. I was wondering if I'd said anything that could be perceived as wrong or cutting, so thanks for letting me know this was mostly a reaction of his to his emotions.

We mainly talk and share stuff about ourselves. I'm sure he'll be around again. He always is.

Thank you for pitching in and the well wishes.

Would you like a reading? Let me know your question, if you do.

posted May 06, 2014 07:26 PM            

but follow your intuition and do what you feel is best maybe he really is in a dark place maybe he really is it and I'm totally reading the energy wrong.

QUOTE]Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Hi Crimson,

I'm good. How are you?

Intimidating? Yeah, I can see why he would still find me intimidating. We go back a long time (almost 9 years) so we have a bit of history between us. Ah. I know what he misses about me: support and understanding. That was really what I've always given him. He confides in me and I've never betrayed his trust. I was wondering if I'd said anything that could be perceived as wrong or cutting, so thanks for letting me know this was mostly a reaction of his to his emotions.

We mainly talk and share stuff about ourselves. I'm sure he'll be around again. He always is.

Thank you for pitching in and the well wishes.

Would you like a reading? Let me know your question, if you do.

Have a lovely day, too![/QUOTE]

posted May 06, 2014 07:31 PM            

both of the positions or something that I currently do however it on a grander scale so there would be much learning and I would have to up my professionalism a lot...... I don't know if either are my dream job but I do really like both of the places and would love to work there if its a good match for me !

does it look like I would get either of the positions or no

TY!

QUOTE]Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Hi cherful,

I asked "what can you tell me about cherful's career for the next 3 months?" and pulled Queen Spades, Queen Clubs and 10 Clubs, with 5 Hearts as base. I re-asked to make sure, as the base card wasn't clear on what the theme of the first reading was and pulled 3 Clubs, 2 Spades and 9 Spades, with 6 Clubs as the new base.

Is one of these jobs your dream job? With 2 Queens, I'm seeing a lot of rivalry in the next 3 months, with very shrewd people that are all about being professional. The 10C points to achievement and success in your career. Also points to a business relocation/trip, so I think you're going to be working away from where you currently are. Didn't you have a proposition to work out of your state? I think I remember reading this? Looks like it'll happen.

In the second spread, 6C tells me you'll be actively pursuing new opportunities. This is an opportunity for you to expand your knowledge, outside your comfort zone. I can definitely see you leaving your current job to pursue this new opportunity. It'll be a challenging time, because I feel, intuitively, that you'll be faced with something you're not familiar with and will have to learn to deal with, but I feel once you've mastered it, these feelings will be nothing but a memory.

I'm sorry this isn't great news. It's a bit of a mixed bag.

I hope this resonates. Let me know. [/QUOTE]

posted May 06, 2014 08:08 PM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Hi Crimson,

I'm good. How are you?

Intimidating? Yeah, I can see why he would still find me intimidating. We go back a long time (almost 9 years) so we have a bit of history between us. Ah. I know what he misses about me: support and understanding. That was really what I've always given him. He confides in me and I've never betrayed his trust. I was wondering if I'd said anything that could be perceived as wrong or cutting, so thanks for letting me know this was mostly a reaction of his to his emotions.

We mainly talk and share stuff about ourselves. I'm sure he'll be around again. He always is.

Thank you for pitching in and the well wishes.

Would you like a reading? Let me know your question, if you do.

Have a lovely day, too!

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You're welcome and I'm glad it resonated. It's always disturbing when we don't know if we said something to cause them to act like they are. And yes, I felt that he'll be back around... like waves, back and forth.

Just to clarify... I'm not feeling what exactly he's doing or what he's up to... only that he's pleasing himself and pursuing that which pleases him, or at least trying to. I also felt lots of ppl around him... like lots of friends, but they're only like acquaintances, not real friends. And yeah, I feel you're one of the rare few he trusts since again I feel he surrounds himself with those who aren't real friends.

I feel that the things you share with him aren't things that he'd exploit or hurt you with in any way... not intentionally. I don't feel he has ill intent towards you at all. He could take from you more than he gives, but again I don't feel any ill intent from him. It's his own problems that cause him to do things he does. His own problems affect him, I feel, but not really you, unless you internalize something or get sad at his come and go behavior.

posted May 07, 2014 08:20 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:

it doesn't have to be drugs but I see him desperately needing something. could perhaps even be alcohol I just see him in a really bad spot right now. I don't trust his intent or motivation..... he is not coming from a clear mind........ could he be in some form of abusive relationship, he owe a lot of money to people ,have lost his job, could he been thrown out
.....I still see the slumming it
.... the reason I say don't call him is because I don't think you're going to get much back from him. the color I'm getting is black, again means he's in a dark place right now

but follow your intuition and do what you feel is best maybe he really is in a dark place maybe he really is it and I'm totally reading the energy wrong.

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Maybe he's slumming it by talking to me?

I guess I'll wait for him to come to me then. I tried inboxing him about something else but he hasn't seen it yet. He's most likely avoiding me.

posted May 07, 2014 08:27 AM            

so perhaps he got out of a horrible relationship and that's why he's coming to you because you make me feel better is if he wants that ego boost

it might not hurt to give him a call and ask what's going on with him lately. keep in mind that he wants something from you he's going to take it and not give back so if this is all your energy in your pretty words to make him feel better, then that can certainly be at in his dark place could be emotionally

posted May 07, 2014 08:27 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
both of the two places I interview ed would be away from my current job which is a good thing, but still within the city. both have annual meetings that are outside of the state., which I would attend but that's like just a week..... I am not too sure but one might involve some travel but there not sure on that.

both of the positions or something that I currently do however it on a grander scale so there would be much learning and I would have to up my professionalism a lot...... I don't know if either are my dream job but I do really like both of the places and would love to work there if its a good match for me !

does it look like I would get either of the positions or no

TY!

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I was going to say this yesterday, but didn't want the reading to be even more gloomy. Since you asked me directly, I posed the question again for the cards and it still looks like a no. I'm sorry. I still see some travelling for you, but not for these two specific jobs.

posted May 07, 2014 08:31 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
no you're not the cause of him slamming it..... your the possible solution to give him what he wants. so you can actually be the drug

so perhaps he got out of a horrible relationship and that's why he's coming to you because you make me feel better is if he wants that ego boost

it might not hurt to give him a call and ask what's going on with him lately. keep in mind that he wants something from you he's going to take it and not give back so if this is all your energy in your pretty words to make him feel better, then that can certainly be at in his dark place could be emotionally

... but if you do contact him update us so I know what was going on if my reading resonated at all

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When he gets around to replying to me, I'll ask him if everything's okay.

posted May 07, 2014 08:33 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
No worries

does it show a time frame when I would get a new job

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posted May 07, 2014 08:55 AM            

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Originally posted by CrimsonRed:
You're welcome and I'm glad it resonated. It's always disturbing when we don't know if we said something to cause them to act like they are. And yes, I felt that he'll be back around... like waves, back and forth.

Just to clarify... I'm not feeling what exactly he's doing or what he's up to... only that he's pleasing himself and pursuing that which pleases him, or at least trying to. I also felt lots of ppl around him... like lots of friends, but they're only like acquaintances, not real friends. And yeah, I feel you're one of the rare few he trusts since again I feel he surrounds himself with those who aren't real friends.

I feel that the things you share with him aren't things that he'd exploit or hurt you with in any way... not intentionally. I don't feel he has ill intent towards you at all. He could take from you more than he gives, but again I don't feel any ill intent from him. It's his own problems that cause him to do things he does. His own problems affect him, I feel, but not really you, unless you internalize something or get sad at his come and go behavior.

Thank you for the offer. I appreciate it, although I wasn't seeking anything really. But since you offered... would you mind if I take a rain-check for a bit later on?

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That's how we are, lol. We communicate in waves, back and forth.

Thanks for the clarification, too. I think he is having a good time, yes. I remember him saying he didn't like his job too much, so he might be compensating on the fun side of life because of it. And he did tell me he only had one good friend but, because of said friend's personal choices, he had to surround himself with others. I know he has at least one other best friend he confides in, but I'm glad to hear I'm trustworthy in his eyes.

Ah. I did worry in the past whether it was wise to trust him but I told him something that was private and he could've told others, but none of it surfaced, so I know he kept it to himself. And I don't really mind his come and go behaviour - it would be hypocritical of me, as I'm much the same way, being a mutable sign.

posted May 07, 2014 09:06 AM            

I posted this quick spread in another thread.
I thought it might work him contacting you

Quick 4 card spread
This one is for the question of will he / she return
(Or contact again)

--1-2-3-4

1 - Situation
2 - challenge
3 - advice
4 - most likely outcome

Hope that helps !

posted May 07, 2014 10:50 AM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
That's how we are, lol. We communicate in waves, back and forth.

Thanks for the clarification, too. I think he is having a good time, yes. I remember him saying he didn't like his job too much, so he might be compensating on the fun side of life because of it. And he did tell me he only had one good friend but, because of said friend's personal choices, he had to surround himself with others. I know he has at least one other best friend he confides in, but I'm glad to hear I'm trustworthy in his eyes.

Ah. I did worry in the past whether it was wise to trust him but I told him something that was private and he could've told others, but none of it surfaced, so I know he kept it to himself. And I don't really mind his come and go behaviour - it would be hypocritical of me, as I'm much the same way, being a mutable sign.

Of course! Create a thread with my name on it and I'll see what the cards want me to tell you. Or send me an email, whatever is easier.

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Thank you for the feedback and telling me all that. So then you guys will continue your friendship back and forth as it has been.

Also thanks for the offer... email would be great, but I don't have yours ... if you can give it to me ?

posted May 07, 2014 10:51 AM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
That's how we are, lol. We communicate in waves, back and forth.

Thanks for the clarification, too. I think he is having a good time, yes. I remember him saying he didn't like his job too much, so he might be compensating on the fun side of life because of it. And he did tell me he only had one good friend but, because of said friend's personal choices, he had to surround himself with others. I know he has at least one other best friend he confides in, but I'm glad to hear I'm trustworthy in his eyes.

Ah. I did worry in the past whether it was wise to trust him but I told him something that was private and he could've told others, but none of it surfaced, so I know he kept it to himself. And I don't really mind his come and go behaviour - it would be hypocritical of me, as I'm much the same way, being a mutable sign.

Of course! Create a thread with my name on it and I'll see what the cards want me to tell you. Or send me an email, whatever is easier.

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posted May 07, 2014 10:59 AM            

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Originally posted by CrimsonRed:
Thank you for the feedback and telling me all that. So then you guys will continue your friendship back and forth as it has been.

Also thanks for the offer... email would be great, but I don't have yours ... if you can give it to me ?

If you have any further questions regarding your friend or anything else, feel free to ask.

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posted May 07, 2014 11:14 AM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
My email is

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posted May 07, 2014 02:25 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
@crimson

....oops! Yep that was suppose to be for files!

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