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Topic: I can't get over this heartbreak
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MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1630
From: Dreaming of you
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 11:38 AM
  
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manques
Knowflake Posts: 399
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Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 11:43 AM
Hi MineAgain, don't u wanna try contact him again before he leaves this Saturday? I mean you will not know when might be the next time you'll ever see him again.  This is just based on my own suggestions, what I'll do most likely. But I know either ways, it is difficult. IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
Knowflake Posts: 2106
From: USA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 11:45 AM
Oh MineAgain, you should reach out to him. I think you need that closure so you should definitely reach out to him or even try to see him before he goes. I'm thinking of you. Be strong. IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1630
From: Dreaming of you
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 11:48 AM
I wanted to. However, I did send him a birthday text about two months ago and he never responded. He pretty much ignored all of the attempts I made in March. That's why I'm reluctant to contacting him again. Moreover, since we're not friends on FB, I'm afraid he'd find it creepy if I were to text him. Granted, his post was public but yeah ...
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cherful24
Knowflake Posts: 4436
From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted May 06, 2014 12:00 PM
sweetheart I had a total no on thisI agree you need closure and should find it I've gone through the same thing so I know what you're feeling not to be hurtful but he doesn't want to hear from you he doesn't want to deal with it .you need closure he doesn't... he doesn't want to deal with It.. those are are your issues your baggage that's what I'm sensing from him sorry wish I had better news! IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1630
From: Dreaming of you
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 12:07 PM
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Originally posted by cherful24:
sweetheart I had a total no on thisI agree you need closure and should find it I've gone through the same thing so I know what you're feeling not to be hurtful but he doesn't want to hear from you he doesn't want to deal with it .you need closure he doesn't... he doesn't want to deal with It.. those are are your issues your baggage that's what I'm sensing from him sorry wish I had better news!
No problem, thanks for your input  I know those are my issues but he's the one who created them. That said, as I said I had no intentions of getting in touch with him. I was just curious regarding the future. I didn't do anything to hurt him, on the very contrary. IP: Logged |
cherful24
Knowflake Posts: 4436
From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted May 06, 2014 12:14 PM
yep I've been there my issues we're created from my a****** exI don't think he'll be contacting. In terms of u on his mind? Not really, just a few fleeting memories IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
Knowflake Posts: 2106
From: USA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 12:15 PM
I still think if there's something you want to say to him you should. Even if you write a letter that you never send. Just for your peace of mind. Should you end up contacting him and he doesn't respond at least maybe you might feel like you had the last word. I totally feel for you. IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1630
From: Dreaming of you
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 12:21 PM
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Originally posted by cherful24:
yep I've been there my issues we're created from my a****** exI don't think he'll be contacting. In terms of u on his mind? Not really, just a few fleeting memories
Yeah, it's pretty irritating when someone messes your entire life and just disappears. You're left with the pain and heartache someone caused you, but you have no means of stopping it, especially if you got zero closure. I'm the victim but I somehow ended up as the guilty person in this scenario. Sure, he doesn't want to hear from me but at the end of the day, I should be the one despising him not the other way around. Some men cowards, period. IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil
Moderator Posts: 3030
From: NJ, USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted May 06, 2014 12:23 PM
Pisces. Let it go. ------------------
Leo ♌️ Sun, (2nd House), Venus (3nd House)
Scorpio ♏ Moon,Mars,Saturn (5th House)
Cancer ♋ Rising
Svātī Nakshatra IP: Logged |
lilacbreeze
Knowflake Posts: 534
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Registered: Oct 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 12:36 PM
Sorry to hear you're going through this MineAgain! I can definitely relate and completely understand how frustrating and heart breaking this situation is right now. I remember feeling almost like a panicked energy running through me - when you're shut out like that without any closure, there's a strong urge to be heard...whether that's about letting them know how he's hurt you or stating that you never want to hear from him again... but guys that act like that will just take an ego boost from those messages and ignore everything else. Writing a letter but not sending it, like FairyDust suggested, really worked for me.
With my situation, he did attempt contact again - after so much time had gone by, I thought there was no chance of that happening... But since I had already released everything I needed to release and let it go - I just didn't even feel the desire to respond to his texts.
Sending lots of strength and positive vibes your way!IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1630
From: Dreaming of you
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 12:46 PM
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Julz87
Knowflake Posts: 985
From: Over the Rainbow
Registered: Nov 2011
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posted May 06, 2014 01:25 PM
Hello Mineagain, I think you should message him, and no not through text but through a facebook private message. Because if you don't you will always regret it and always think "what if" and thats even worse than having no closure. You can't lose anything by trying like you said he has already ignored you in the past, so even if he ignores your message once more at least you know you said what had to be said, don't hold back. Don't let pride/your ego interfere with what you want to say/needs to be said. Just do it and be done with it. What shall be, will be. I pulled 3 cards for you in this order. Eight of Swords
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King of Wands I just got them but your situation just moved me, I hate to see people hold back. You're the first I've read for : ) xoxo Julz : ) IP: Logged |
cherful24
Knowflake Posts: 4436
From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted May 06, 2014 01:55 PM
I have like the exact situation as you did you. basically ended up disappearing.what he did was a form of abuse: mental psychological and spiritual abuse. controlling manipulating and lying I am sure you want to take back your power. I know that's how I felt. and I would love to take my anger out on him and really slap him hard in the face over and over. I did try originally talking to him and I did yell at him and scream at him but he found a way to successfully manipulate me again into actually being friends with him and helping him . what he said was a breakdown when his friend told me that was a lie, it was just to keep me in his life. the only thing I could do to take back my power... is to contact his wife. and after I did so he never contacted me again. I have anger I'm not hurt anymore and I'm not sad anymore I'm very very angry. personally I would love to find a way to revenge on him since he ruined years of my life. what you're dealing with is a sociopath.... and they feed on your emotions so if you write him just think of that he's going to possibly use it come back and manipulate you even more IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
Knowflake Posts: 2106
From: USA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 03:48 PM
Cherful, I feel for ya but I totally believe in Karma. What goes around comes around. Don't seek revenge. It will come back to him one day. Maybe not now but it will. I strongly believe that. Try to find a way to release your anger and pray he gets what he deserves in the end. Sounds like we all have the same situation. Someone who disappeared and hurt us. I haven't heard from mine in 5 months. Slowly I'm movin on but it still hurts. I feel all of your pain and it's a little comforting to know I'm not the only one goin through a situation like this. IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1630
From: Dreaming of you
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 04:21 PM
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redshoes
Knowflake Posts: 1338
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted May 06, 2014 04:56 PM
Is he an Aries by any chance?Bear-letter-ring yes he will think about you in the future, but it will be too late as you will be with a real strong protective man by then. That is his karma....silly boy ((((hugs)))) to you  IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1630
From: Dreaming of you
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 05:00 PM
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Originally posted by redshoes:
Is he an Aries by any chance?Bear-letter-ring yes he will think about you in the future, but it will be too late as you will be with a real strong protective man by then. That is his karma....silly boy ((((hugs)))) to you
Thanks for that It's very nice of you! He's a Pisces but I believe he has an Aries rising. IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
Knowflake Posts: 2106
From: USA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 05:16 PM
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Originally posted by redshoes:
Is he an Aries by any chance?Bear-letter-ring yes he will think about you in the future, but it will be too late as you will be with a real strong protective man by then. That is his karma....silly boy ((((hugs)))) to you
Ya see that, Karma always has a way of getting you in the end!
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redshoes
Knowflake Posts: 1338
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posted May 06, 2014 05:27 PM
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Originally posted by MineAgain:
Thanks for that It's very nice of you!He's a Pisces but I believe he has an Aries rising.
He is young and foolish ~ men take forever to grow up, women don't ~ there lays the difficulty Guard your and give it away to no man x IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1630
From: Dreaming of you
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 06, 2014 05:40 PM
You can't raise a man, that's for sure IP: Logged |
redshoes
Knowflake Posts: 1338
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posted May 06, 2014 06:11 PM
...or trust many of them, sadly IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
Knowflake Posts: 1646
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posted May 07, 2014 06:02 AM
This guy is a coward for disappearing. He is far from perfect. =( And if I do recall, you said he treated you horribly...This isn't someone that respects you at all and you demand for somebody that will not do that.
A real man will let you know if he weren't interested, instead of pulling in and out. IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1630
From: Dreaming of you
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted May 07, 2014 11:10 AM
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MineAgain
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posted May 07, 2014 11:25 AM
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