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Selenite
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posted May 07, 2014 12:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Selenite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
*Sorry it's so long!!*

Hi, this is my first post. I have lurked this site for years and have learned so much. I'm at a point where I'm in a relationship that has me truly stumped. I've looked at our natal, composite and synastry charts, and they seem both HORRIBLE and amazing.


BG info: We've only been dating since this Valentine's day, but we dated when I was 15 and he was 19 for 2 months, broke up because it was completely superficial for me, and both ended up in new york doing sound engineering and started dating again. THEN something happened and I was in the hospital for 11 days and had to take a medical leave so now we are long distance until Fall. Visited him for a week and things turned sour. For me.

IMO, I made a mistake in falling way too fast because we both took the infatuation stage and ran with it. (ex: picked out names for our children before the 2 month mark.) But NOW I feel that he is completely obsessed, clingy, pouty, brooding, seething, Hades reincarnated. SO opposite of what I originally liked about him!

So I really would appreciate any astrological insight... I am just very confused at this point because it started out as a fairy tale, and now I am completely repulsed by him and feel trapped.

I'm sagi here and my lover is the aqua. I am 19 and he is 23.


My chart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_01_z.15654.8302.gif&res=100&va=&cid=ki0file61b29Y-u1380472207

His chart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_05_carlos.15785.15069.gif&res=100&va=&cid=ki0file61b29Y-u1380472207

Synastry: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_61gw_01_05_z_carlos.16936.21056.gif&res=100&va=&cid=ki0file61b29Y-u1380472207

Composite: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_621gw_01_05_z_carlos.17027.26318.gif&res=100&va=&cid=ki0file61b29Y-u1380472207

Thanks for reading!

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Selenite
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posted May 07, 2014 01:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Selenite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
One more thing: We have a crazy psychic connection. Mostly through dreams. Especially since we have been apart. This is one of the reasons I feel compelled to stay with him. Our normal communication is pretty much horrible. He is passive aggressive and I am normally very direct, but resort to being passive so as to not set him off..
We had one fight because of miscommunication with sex, (he basically tried to force me to do something), and instead of simply apologizing, he spent the whole night fretting and walking in and out of the room like a crazy person. He tried to distract me from being angry by talking about our love (while I was trying to sleep.) Then he wrote me a long irrelevant poem the next morning. While I forgave him when he finally sincerely apologized, I felt I saw a very manipulative and controlling side of him, and now I have no idea what to think. Since I am away physically, I can't get to know him better through daily interaction, and I don't know if I should even bother at this point.

BUT
While I was in the hospital, he slept there every night beside me in a chair and went to work in the morning. He writes me sweet poems and tells me things he loves about me all the time. He makes me feel beautiful and wanted, and he likes me for my mind. He tells me I am the love of his life, and that he will marry me someday, wanted me to live with him when I come back in the fall. Also says his life is empty without me and he feels tortured and declares his love for me and his missing me all of the time. Every day, multiple times a day. I don't do texts, so I don't answer most of them, and he doesn't act weird or pissy.
BUT
I think, while he is sweet, that this is SUPER unhealthy because we've only been dating about 3 months. He sent me 29 texts in an hour detailing his day that was full of signs from the universe about our love. Pictures included. While I'm all about signs from the universe, I am not constantly thinking about our "love," and am starting to think he likes the idea of me, like an object (his girlfriend).

Again sorry for the length. If anyone reads this and wants to put in their 2-cents, kudos to you

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happyaskings
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posted May 07, 2014 01:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for happyaskings     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You're dating an abuser. This guy is the type that will end up hitting you if you give it enough time. Get out... now!

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Selenite
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posted May 07, 2014 01:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Selenite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hmm, I think you're right. This has been my gut feeling, but whenever I explain everything to anyone close to me, they tend to make me want to give him more time. Now that I wrote it all out, it seems so obvious. He seemed really great at first and I just wanted to save whatever we had with astrology Thanks!

Btw: did you see something in our charts that was a red flag or was your conclusion just from my story?

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Selenite
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posted May 07, 2014 06:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Selenite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Update:

I am confused yet again. I had it in my head that he was no good, and planned to break up with him when I got back from vacation.
But now I am seeing that, even though he is obsessed, he seems really sincere about his affections and really just wants both of us to be happy together. Forever. He makes plans for us in the future and texts me pictures of us from when I visited. He also texted me something that sounded like he was upset with me for not communicating so much, and so I asked if he was upset with me. He made sure that I knew he wasn't and that it just came out the wrong way in the text. (which is why i dislike texting.)
I know I need to talk to him about slowing down. I don't feel the same way about him, but I don't want to discard him from my life.

I guess my question is.. has anyone else here experienced a relationship with an aquarius sun, moon, rising and mercury? And were they obsessive?? And what happened? Is it possible that I'm just taking his emotions the wrong way and that he isn't Hades reincarnated?

He has pisces venus (in the 1st house) and gemini mars as well.


Okay so the pictures expired, but my birthday is
12/12/1994 at 8:59pm in Newark, DE
His birthday is 2/13/1991 at 5:52 AM in Bogota, Columbia

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Selenite
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posted May 07, 2014 06:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Selenite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Charts

Composite http://i1284.photobucket.com/albums/a572/zh475/comp_zps9715adf0.gif

Synastry http://i1284.photobucket.com/albums/a572/zh475/syn_zpsbda14496.gif


Is it doomed with abuse and discord or can we work together to have a beautiful life eventually?

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