posted May 10, 2014 06:57 PM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:
Check the expiration date. Then, go to the store and buy the same condom. Look at THAT expiration date. The difference between the two dates should give you an idea of when that condom was purchased.

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Excellent idea! I'll do it as soon as I get home tomorrow because the condom that was found in my trash is probably a yr old by this time.

posted May 10, 2014 09:40 PM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:
Tarot ain't gonna help when he throws this in your face 3 mos from now.

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I know. I wanted a reading to see how large of an issue this is going to be in our relationship and to get guidance on the best way to handle this.

posted May 11, 2014 08:07 AM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:
Alright, alright.... I'm coming.

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posted May 11, 2014 09:13 AM            

Before I continue, does he have children with another woman?

posted May 11, 2014 09:14 AM            

6 of Cups + Sun

posted May 11, 2014 11:05 AM            

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He's replaying over in his mind that he loves you. It's like he believes you in his heart, but he doesn't want to be a fool. He has faith, but he sees the condom as proof. It's like Jesus turned water into wine and then somebody comes along with a pack of Kool-Ade.

Before I continue, does he have children with another woman?

No, no children.

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posted May 11, 2014 11:10 AM            

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Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
I tried to formate the question using situation appropriate verbs like "come" but I don't tend to use my wits too much on Sundays, so I just asked will your bf believe you in the end... Which is a good question, as far as they go. You don't want to be too witty and have the cards giggling at you as well. The situation is hard enough. I wish I could say something with "soft control"... To no avail, unfortunately. Anyways...

6 of Cups + Sun

Oh how you shall laugh about this.

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posted May 11, 2014 11:13 AM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
Has he brought it up since or acted differently? Maybe you should sit down and talk about it to really clear the air. It might help you to feel better and reassure him. Talking things out early on is always better than letting it fester. This is only my opinion, not an intuitive answer. But I would also think if he begins acting a little cold towards you that perhaps he's got some doubts, so maybe bringing it up and clearing the air will help. If he is acting normal and has moved on from it then he's taking your word for it and is fine. But try talking to him. Hope my opinion didnt offend you. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

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No offense taken at all! I need all the help I can get. Lol. We really haven't spoken much about other than me telling him I have not any other man but him since we started dating. I'm out of town and he just found it yesterday. He's been busy celebrating a friends graduation. I will see him tonight when he picks me up from the train station. I was planning on sitting down and having a serous conversation with him about this.

posted May 11, 2014 11:33 AM            

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Originally posted by blessed39:

Ok this is good!!!! Does this mean he is looking back at the good memories he and I have shared and we will bounce back from this stronger and happier?

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No. I wrote what I mean by this particular combination of the cards.

posted May 11, 2014 11:43 AM            

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Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
No. I wrote what I mean by this particular combination of the cards.

And it's not exactly an apocalypse, now is it? Not even the condomgate. If he's going to act like that for every little thing and frivolously question your loyalty, then let it slide. And you! You are too fretted for an innocent you know. Relax... you didn't do anything wrong.

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Lol @ condomgate! The cards you pulled are promising!

He actually was rather calm when he asked me. I mean.... He didn't sound overjoyed over the situation, he sounded serious but not overtly angry. We only had a chance to speak about it briefly over the phone, as I am out of town and he was busy yesterday as well. We will see each other tonight when I return.

Yes, I need to calm down. I'm just scared of things not working out. This is the first time in a long time I have been in a relationship that feels so right. I just hate that this happened. But I need to relax.

posted May 11, 2014 11:55 AM            

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Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
Yeah, Sun is terrific. One of few cards (or the card) that can thrive over bad cards.

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posted May 11, 2014 02:12 PM            

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Originally posted by blessed39:
Loaded pistol - I just realized some of my response was deleted. No he does not have any children. Thank you so much for sharing your insight. What you have said resonates. I can see him going back and forth. He knows me well and knows the last thing I am is a cheater. But I can still see this as being something very hard to overcome. The man saw a condom. Lol. Smh. I know I would be livid if the shoe were on the other foot. It's a toughie... :-/

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I asked because I got the 10 of cups and wanted to make sure that was you and not previous.
He doesn't want to mess this up over that. Emotionally, he believes you, but that was strike 1

posted May 11, 2014 02:41 PM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:
I asked because I got the 10 of cups and wanted to make sure that was you and not previous.
He doesn't want to mess this up over that. Emotionally, he believes you, but that was strike 1

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Yikes @ strike one. I suppose it would be. Again, if I were him I would be livid.